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So after reading another thread I was inspired to ask the question:
"What are you, as a married, engaged, or waiting woman comfortable wearing to the beach or the pool?"
I don't want this to offend anyone but...
I've been thinking the last few weeks that if FI and I were to go to an indoor waterpark for our honeymoon I would be totally worried about wearing a bathing suit. In my group of friends, many are comfortable wearing bikinis but I'm simply not. I will wear a tankini but I don't understand why something that I wear to a pool or beach has to look so much like underwear to me. If I don't wear shorts that short or shirts that low it makes me feel out of place to wear them just because it's the pool. I want to hang out with my friends and go swimming if the opportunity arises but I don't enjoy knowing everything is on display.
I know others are more comfortable, but I get shy when others tease me gently about my modesty. It's tough to find anything that I like to purchase and wear as I feel like everything shows my bikini line or gives me camel toe, or shows my boobs too much. Ughh
So, what are you comfortable wearing? If you weren't getting married/in a serious relationship would you still wear what you want?
I haven't changed what I wear married or not. I usually wear a tankini, because I don't like my tummy, but I love my legs and my cleavage, so I show them off.
If we go to Lake Tahoe I just wear shorts and a tank top since I never go swimming. If I were in excellent shape I'd wear a bikini (certainly not a thong, though!)
I always wear bikinis at the beach. I'm pretty open with my body. FI and I have actually been to nude beaches before. ;)
ETA: I will do the same when I'm married. I will admit though that I dress quite conservatively at work. I dress MUCH differently outside of work. :)
I always wear bikinis. I am happy with my body and splurge on nice bikinis that fit well and look nice. That didn't change after we got married.
No thong though. LOL.
i wear a bikini, but since i have gained weight, i tend to leave my shorts on and just take my shirt off. i usually walk around a pool or beach with a bikini top and short denim shorts. if i am at a place with people i don't know (like strangers on our honeymoon) then i will take my shorts off. i have gained a ton of wight in my thighs and butt and don't like to show it off!
i don't really have huge boobs, so i don't mind wearing low cut things and what not.
i really hate being white, so i would never be able to wear anything that went up high on my chest or did not show my stomach.
even when i am not at the beach, i will still show my stomach (i.e. crop shirts).
i don't think being in a relationship or being married has anything to do with it. my hubby wants me to feel good, and i think he is flattered when other's find me attractive.
Marriage hasn't changed me at all. (motherhood one day might due to bodily changes lol.)
Anyhow, I always wear board shorts and a bikini top. Depending on how long we're out surfing for I may wear a rash guard for sun / rash protection.
Okay I had to vote other b/c well this is what I wear
I do wear a bandeau takini.. but it's longer b/c I have a long torso so that it covers till past my shorts waist line. since it's a bandeau I don't really show any cleavage
and I were shorts bottoms but their still bathing suit bottoms... not like gym shorts shorts
I'm now married but this has been my swim suit for the last few years..
There have been a couple blouses that DH was real uncomfortable with me wearing b/c well he's a guy and knows how guys think.. so I don't wear them.. but there weren't many.. and they were more for dressing up for a date night or something like that
I'm modest but certainly not b/c I'm shy... just b/c of things I've learned over the last few years and how I feel I should present myself. =)
String bikinis for me. Although I did go through a board shorts + bikini top phase, but that was more because I liked the overall surfer-look to it than because I wanted to be more modest or hide my body.
I wear a bikini. I had to wear a one piece when I was pregnant (wasn't THAT brave to wear a bikini then, LOL) and it was like a torture device to me. I was so glad when last summer rolled around and I wasn't pregnant and could wear a bikini again!
That said, I do try to keep it tasteful. No thongs or skimpy tops. I actually have a string bikini I bought last year when I forgot mine on a trip and FH loves it but I hate it because it feels skanky. I just prefer for my ass to not be half hanging out. I mean, I'm a mom!
I always wear a bikini even now that I've put on weight. I hate the way that one pieces feel when it's hot out but I do wear them when I'm swimming lengths.
I also usually undo my top completely if I'm just laying around tanning and if no one is around I'll just go topless. To me it's no big deal but it probably has to do with my upbringing. My mom went topless ALL the time when we were kids and went on vacation without my dad.
Bikinis for me. Actually I really like the brazillian cut bottoms that show a little more butt than the american cut ones. I'm happy with my body and have no issues showing it off. Being in a a relationship hasn't changed that.
I always wear a bikini - I'm pretty happy with my body and don't mind showing it off. I don't tend to wear super low cut tops, nor extremely short shorts/skirts, but that has more to do with age than body type. Once I got into my late 20s, the denim mini-skirts etc seemed to find their way to the back of the wardrobe, as did the low cut tops showing a bit of cleavage. I just feel a bit silly wearing that kind of stuff now and I tend to dress in a somewhat classier style now.
I don't have any plans to change my dress style or beach attire once I'm married; however, I think as I continue to get older, my preferences in clothes choices will probably change a bit.
I am not super happy with my tummy, but I wear a bikini and only started doing so (in public) last year (I was 29!). I have just come to a place where I don't really care what people think. My FI is happy with the way I look, the parts that aren't great can't be changed (thanks to having a biiiig baby boy).
I haven't gone in a long time but when I did, I usually wore a bikini top and board shorts.
Either a bikini (not string or thong) or a one-piece - it just depends on what I feel like! There are some super-cute one pieces these days, so I don't feel like it looks stodgy.
I'm a little fluffy so i wear a one piece, LOL... If I didn't have this stomach I would totally wear a two piece.
I don't have the body for a bikini but if I did, I would totally rock one. I normally try to avoid wearing a bathing suit all together but I have to buy one for our HM so I opted for this. I have a fairly large chest so I expect this to be on the booby side...
The only part of my everyday clothing thats slightly risque would be the tops I wear. I have a large chest and plenty of cleavage. Even when I'm not trying to flaunt the girls, it happens.
To answer your question, I would never change the way I dress based on my relationship status.
@Shae726: Always For Me. They've got tons of suits that I love. The prices are pretty reasonable as well.
hmmm i wore a bikini on our honeymoon (i even went topless- mexico!!) but usually at home i wear a one piece.... i just figured... what the hell.. im never gonna see these people again so im gonna rock this bod i worked so hard for!!! (ive lost 50 lbs :) but i still have a ways to go till im in great shape)
@UpstateCait: I'm in love with that bathing suit!
I am also big chested and not built for a bikini so I wear whatever I find that I feel comfortable in!
I used to wear a bikini all the time (if I found one that fit me - huge tatas) but now that I had a baby I stick to the tankinis. Until I get back to having a nice body.. then heck ya I'm going to be wearing a bikini again!
I usually wear a bikini and am on the beach ALL THE TIME; I mean, honestly- look at my WB name. :) I also rock one-pieces every now and then, too- just depends on my mood.
I don't feel like I'm throwing myself at anyone or flirting by wearing a bikini, so I would have the same attitude regardless of whether I was engaged/married.
It does depend on where I am swimming. When I am at our family's vacation house on our own private lake (think .06 sq mile lake in middle of nowhere down a five mile gated road, nearest neighbor 5 miles) I usually wear nothing. Who is going to see me? The deer?
In public places I wear the following because of its high back with cross strap to keep the straps from falling down. I am serious about swimming and hate to be slowed down. :)
It really has nothing to do with whether or not I am in a relationship. I am all about comfort! FH doesn't seem to care what I wear, smart man.
Before I had DD, I'd totally rock a bikini. I worked hard on my body, and I was proud of it (as bad as that sounds :S). Now, however, I'm all about the tankini, or one-piece due to stretch marks, and a bit of a tummy. I'd probably still wear a bikini if I could, though.
I have never worn a bikini...when I was thin and def not now that I am larger. I wear a tankini but only make off my very modest cover up to go in the water. I never walk around in my suit. However, I am one of the most modest dressers I know (besdies the orthodox jewish woman in my neighborhood). I dont even wear tanktops in public...people give me crap about it but it is just who I am
This summer is actually going to be the first summer I'm going to wear a bikini in public. I never really believed I had the tummy for one, but screw it, I found a cute one I love & I think I feel comfortable enough with myself to wear one. With that said I also bought a matching tankini top to match, for those bloated days :P
I think its just important for you to be comfortable and confidant in whatever you chose to wear.
I've always worn a bikini & unless I gain a lot of weight probably always will.. I do have to wear a little fuller bikini top now though but thats only because over the last couple of years I have went from a small D to a medium size DD.. I actually HATE swimsuit shopping because it takes forever to find something to fit me up top. I've considered buying a tankini but the fiance cracks jokes about it & since I'm about to turn 30 he says its "old womansih" lol
@UpstateCait: omg, I love that swimsuit... I always wear bikinis (no thong! actually I like wide bottom bikinis), but that one you chose I'd totally wear it... I happen to love one piece s-suits and tankinis, but it seems hard to find one that's not so old-lady-like.
I love these:
What's a swim suit?
I don't go to the beach. I don't hop in swimming pools. Paranoid about getting cancer again.
I hate one pieces they are waay to restricting...and I do not have the body for bikinis any more...So it takes me months and months to find the perfect backless tankini!! Tummy coverage (I hate my stupid pooch) but shows off my awsome back and lets me breath!! I'm a big boy shorts fan...but this year I opted for the string bikini bottom (full coverage on the behind though) that matched the top!! And being married hasn't changed my bathing style, or clothing style at all. Its actually made me more comfortable in my choices :-)
One pieces or skirted tankinis. I try for minimal/no cleavage...hard to accomplish!
I've always worn bikinis. I like my body and want to show it off while I still have it...married or not. DH also really likes it when I wear bikinis (like the triangle top kind)
But you should wear what you are comfortable with!
I always wear swim dresses. Usually a little cleavage shows, but if it didn't, it would have to be up to my neck, lol. I'm not as concerned with being modest as I am with looking cute. If I had the body for a bikini, I would totally wear one.
@mwitter80: Ditto. I'm getting married, not joining a convent.
And to me it has nothing to do with showing off; it's practical. Wet clothes get water logged and then you slog around. And I like a tan without weird lines (yeah yeah I know whatever) so I wear a strapless tankini to hide the tummy but expose the legs and the cleavage. Though honestly, in swimsuits and in regular clothes, I wear some fairly low cut stuff because I am small on top so even though my boobs are technically out, it's not in your face cleavage. Things that I think would look immodest or way too much boob for daytime on someone else I still wear because it doesn't look cleavage-y on me. So sad!
Besides, guys are allowed to run around without shirts. On the beach or in public. It's not fair! Such a double standard and so much more could be said on this but I'll save it for another thread.
But it all comes down to what YOU personally are comfy in. As PPs have shown here, there are plenty of functional, cute, modest options out there!
I don't wear a bikini but it's not because of any moral standard. I gained weight when I had my daughter and frankly, swimsuits make me self conscious. When and if I can wear a two piece again, I definitely will. Who wants to slosh around in tons of fabric?
I think it's also a little big-headed to think "Omg, I can't wear a bikini, all the men will be staring and ogling me..." Um, it's the beach, everyone is wearing a swimsuit, get over yourself.
Im a bikini girl although I should probably be more of a one piece girl... I am very busty (Im somewhere in between a 34DDD or a 36DD depending on the cut) and I find that I can only wear halter tops since they usually have a little more coverage than triangle tops) and I need a full coverage bottom (I also have a fairly round and full bottom LOL) but at the end of the day to me it all depends on your comfort level if you are comfortable in a thong bikini for the world to see then more power to you I think it all comes down to your level of confidence...weather you have it or not flaunt it, its your body and you should be proud of it either way
I'm married... and pregnant. So I wear a tankini, the bottom is a skirt. I feel like my bikini days are over, but if I do ever get my body back I'd be happy to wear one.
FI wants me in a full on bikini. The kind you have to get hair removed for.
Sure, I've grown more confident and have become comfortable with showing more skin since we got together, but sheesh.
He even bought me a fancy bra-sized top, because I'd been having so much trouble finding something that fit. If it fit here, it didn't fit there, or it didn't have enough support, or, by looking for "support", they assumed you were over the age of 60. :( For a while, I had a rashguard top and a bra that I used as my swim-gear, and I'd always get really annoyed when I'd see someone many sizes larger than myself wearing a nice swimsuit, because if that person can find a nice, flattering swimsuit, why can't I?
I'd prefer something with more coverage, but since it seems I'm not quite built for that, I do what I must. I think it's funny, I have no problem wearing close-fitting shirts, but swimsuits and those mermaid/trumpet/etc styled dresses concern me.
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