Post # 1
So after reading another thread I was inspired to ask the question:
“What are you, as a married, engaged, or waiting woman comfortable wearing to the beach or the pool?”
I don’t want this to offend anyone but…
I’ve been thinking the last few weeks that if FI and I were to go to an indoor waterpark for our honeymoon I would be totally worried about wearing a bathing suit. In my group of friends, many are comfortable wearing bikinis but I’m simply not. I will wear a tankini but I don’t understand why something that I wear to a pool or beach has to look so much like underwear to me. If I don’t wear shorts that short or shirts that low it makes me feel out of place to wear them just because it’s the pool. I want to hang out with my friends and go swimming if the opportunity arises but I don’t enjoy knowing everything is on display.
I know others are more comfortable, but I get shy when others tease me gently about my modesty. It’s tough to find anything that I like to purchase and wear as I feel like everything shows my bikini line or gives me camel toe, or shows my boobs too much. Ughh
So, what are you comfortable wearing? If you weren’t getting married/in a serious relationship would you still wear what you want?
Post # 3
I haven’t changed what I wear married or not. I usually wear a tankini, because I don’t like my tummy, but I love my legs and my cleavage, so I show them off.
Post # 4
If we go to Lake Tahoe I just wear shorts and a tank top since I never go swimming. If I were in excellent shape I’d wear a bikini (certainly not a thong, though!)
Post # 5
I always wear bikinis at the beach. I’m pretty open with my body. FI and I have actually been to nude beaches before. 😉
ETA: I will do the same when I’m married. I will admit though that I dress quite conservatively at work. I dress MUCH differently outside of work. 🙂
Post # 6
I always wear bikinis. I am happy with my body and splurge on nice bikinis that fit well and look nice. That didn’t change after we got married.
No thong though. LOL.
Post # 7
i wear a bikini, but since i have gained weight, i tend to leave my shorts on and just take my shirt off. i usually walk around a pool or beach with a bikini top and short denim shorts. if i am at a place with people i don’t know (like strangers on our honeymoon) then i will take my shorts off. i have gained a ton of wight in my thighs and butt and don’t like to show it off!
i don’t really have huge boobs, so i don’t mind wearing low cut things and what not.
i really hate being white, so i would never be able to wear anything that went up high on my chest or did not show my stomach.
even when i am not at the beach, i will still show my stomach (i.e. crop shirts).
i don’t think being in a relationship or being married has anything to do with it. my hubby wants me to feel good, and i think he is flattered when other’s find me attractive.
Post # 8
Marriage hasn’t changed me at all. (motherhood one day might due to bodily changes lol.)
Anyhow, I always wear board shorts and a bikini top. Depending on how long we’re out surfing for I may wear a rash guard for sun / rash protection.
Post # 9
Okay I had to vote other b/c well this is what I wear
I do wear a bandeau takini.. but it’s longer b/c I have a long torso so that it covers till past my shorts waist line. since it’s a bandeau I don’t really show any cleavage
and I were shorts bottoms but their still bathing suit bottoms… not like gym shorts shorts
I’m now married but this has been my swim suit for the last few years..
There have been a couple blouses that DH was real uncomfortable with me wearing b/c well he’s a guy and knows how guys think.. so I don’t wear them.. but there weren’t many.. and they were more for dressing up for a date night or something like that
I’m modest but certainly not b/c I’m shy… just b/c of things I’ve learned over the last few years and how I feel I should present myself. =)
Post # 10
String bikinis for me. Although I did go through a board shorts + bikini top phase, but that was more because I liked the overall surfer-look to it than because I wanted to be more modest or hide my body.
Post # 11
I wear a bikini. I had to wear a one piece when I was pregnant (wasn’t THAT brave to wear a bikini then, LOL) and it was like a torture device to me. I was so glad when last summer rolled around and I wasn’t pregnant and could wear a bikini again!
That said, I do try to keep it tasteful. No thongs or skimpy tops. I actually have a string bikini I bought last year when I forgot mine on a trip and FH loves it but I hate it because it feels skanky. I just prefer for my ass to not be half hanging out. I mean, I’m a mom!
Post # 12
I always wear a bikini even now that I’ve put on weight. I hate the way that one pieces feel when it’s hot out but I do wear them when I’m swimming lengths.
I also usually undo my top completely if I’m just laying around tanning and if no one is around I’ll just go topless. To me it’s no big deal but it probably has to do with my upbringing. My mom went topless ALL the time when we were kids and went on vacation without my dad.
Post # 13
Bikinis for me. Actually I really like the brazillian cut bottoms that show a little more butt than the american cut ones. I’m happy with my body and have no issues showing it off. Being in a a relationship hasn’t changed that.
Post # 14
I always wear a bikini – I’m pretty happy with my body and don’t mind showing it off. I don’t tend to wear super low cut tops, nor extremely short shorts/skirts, but that has more to do with age than body type. Once I got into my late 20s, the denim mini-skirts etc seemed to find their way to the back of the wardrobe, as did the low cut tops showing a bit of cleavage. I just feel a bit silly wearing that kind of stuff now and I tend to dress in a somewhat classier style now.
I don’t have any plans to change my dress style or beach attire once I’m married; however, I think as I continue to get older, my preferences in clothes choices will probably change a bit.
Post # 15
I am not super happy with my tummy, but I wear a bikini and only started doing so (in public) last year (I was 29!). I have just come to a place where I don’t really care what people think. My FI is happy with the way I look, the parts that aren’t great can’t be changed (thanks to having a biiiig baby boy).
Post # 16
I haven’t gone in a long time but when I did, I usually wore a bikini top and board shorts.