Post # 1
I am just wondering if anyone else was blindsided by the extras when getting fitted for your gowns?
I already paid 1300 for the dress, the bustle is 300…a mermaid slip is going to run me 150 as well as a crystal sash 150…. plus some adjustments need to be made to the one strap (too loose..cost to be determined)
My hair piece was 120…and veil was 175….ahhhhhhh
Why isn’t there a mass production of veils and hair pieces…and if there is, why am I paying so much????
Post # 3
Because bridal markup is INSANE. If you are crafty (or have a friend who is) and your veil isn’t crazy-elaborate, it’s pretty easy to DIY. Well, birdcage veils are, anyway. I made my friend a birdcage veil and saved her about $150. I’d imagine that making any sort of veil wouldn’t be too difficult, just a little time-consuming.
Post # 4
Ditto PP; making your own veil or having someone crafty make it for you is the way to go. For my first wedding, I made my veil with a hydrangea accented hair clip for under $5 TOTAL! Took about a half hour and looked beautiful. Bird cage veils are also easy to make. Hair flowers/accents are a breeze to attach with some hot glue to a comb. No need to spend so much. Veil fabric is just a few dollars a yard!
Also, could you find a used sash? That’s something that is likely to hold up well/not get stained and would save you a ton. The slip could probably be bought online for less, but you want to make sure it fits under your dress, so I understand getting it at the shop. $300 for bustle plus alterations on top of that sounds like a lot of money… any way to get the bustle done at a regular tailor?
Post # 5
@inspiredcreations: So true–when we were checking out fabric for her veil, she was like, “Tulle is 50 cents a yard. So WHY are they charging $300 for a veil?”
We ended up buying an inexpensive fabric flower at Rue 21 (it was part of a headband, actually), which was really easy to sew to the veil and comb.
Post # 6
Wow…I guess I really should have researched cost more…50 cents a yard…now I seriously just feel stupid!
That is probably the craziest mark-up I have ever heard of!
Thanks for the suggestions..I am definitely going to look up used sashes!
Post # 7
It’s the wedding markup. Slap on 600% for your special day. : Seriously. We shopped restaurants as caterers at one point and I found one that included a 15% upcharge (but no extra service) for weddings.
I bought a mantilla lace veil with beading that was the exact same price as a plain tulle one at the bridal shop… it was what I really wanted, I knew I couldn’t DIY something like that, and I figured if I was going to spend the $$, I’d make it count!
Post # 8
@Irishb: date twin! Hi5!
I didnt make a veil or headpiece but I am an extremely frugal gal and did find some good deals by shopping around. You can almost always find better deals/prices than what the salons offer/charge. Highway robbery if you ask me!
My gown was $850 at DB. I went with one that was poufy enuff in the skirt and snug enuff up top, to be able to get away with not having to buy a slip or a long line bra, so that saved some cash. But it is too large in the waist and too long, so alterations are inevitable.
My veil is a one layer, slightly past shoulder length, scattered with swarovski crystals that I found online for 25 bucks shipped. Its very nice too, it doesnt look any cheaper than the $200 ones at Davids. Its going to be tucked very low, under my updo, so its more than long enuff too.
My hair pins – I found a set of 6 gorgeous rhinestone ones on eBay for 6 bucks.. yep, 6 bucks..with FREE shipping.
My earrings – beautiful rhinestone chandelier ones on ebay (love me some eBay) for $12 shipped. And these are nice quality earrings, not any cheap tin junk.
My shoes were 80 bucks in the bridal salon, but I found them at a bridal store online for $53 shipped. They are cute strappy toe-d wedges, and I wont be needing hose either. God know how much I hate hose.
Im curious about your hair piece and veil..can you return them and just buy again for cheaper online? And for your slip.. Ive seen them babies on eBay for 12 bucks! No sense in spending 150 bucks for something you will wear for less than one day.
I say if you can find used items, or super mega deals online, go for it. It is always beneficial to shop around before being pressured into buying high priced items in the salons. Too bad I cant get quality alterations on eBay, cuz sista Id be doing that too!
Post # 9
Also, some fabric/sewing stores around here sell basic veils in varying lengths for $15-20, same goes for headpices/clips. I don’t intend on buying anything from the bridal shop except my dress, it’s too expensive.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
@atalante: I did the same! I bought my mantilla veil for cheaper than what many plain tulle veils cost. I am definitely a happy camper because I’ve always wanted a mantilla veil, and I loved paying so much less!
Post # 11
Great date choice!
As far as the veil and headpiece “all sales are final”…and if you have any experience with wedding vendors at all, you know there is like zero wiggle room on that…
slip is not purchased yet..so I am off to ebay searching for my slip…thank you for the suggestion…my only concern is that without professional help or the ability to try on..it might not fit my dress correctly.
Post # 12
@Irishb: Yea I knew gowns are pretty much “final sales” but since I didnt get accessories in any salon, I wasnt sure about those.
When you are checking out slips, try to find one with a draw string. Those are the easiest adjustable..and alot of gals advertise waist sizes too. Good Luck! Its always worth a look for sure!
Post # 13
Your wedding date was my original wedding date until we moved it because it interfered with too many family bdays. Even stranger, I saw on another post that you are my DRESS TWIN! The world is too small. I would love to see your sash if you got on already.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
That’s a crazy amount to pay for a bustle. You may want to find another seamstress.
Post # 15
Wow! you must have great taste
I just love the Adorae Rose…I originally ordered Adorae and by some crazy luck stumbled upon the Adorae Rose in an ad on a website back in December…
Apparently Sottero and Midgley was none to pleased to hear about the leaked gown since the spring line was not released yet…
However, they did let me change my order!
I did not order the sash just yet…I have an appointment at my bridal shop to see what they have to offer…but they have already told me most are 150 and up..*gasp*
So I think I will be ordering this from a vendor on Etsy:
Still pricy but I really want one…so I guess I am paying lol
Post # 16
@Irishb: Congrats! Sashes are riduculously overpriced. One I tried on was satin with one applique and cost $450. It was the same type of ribbon you can purchase from any craft store. The couture flower belt I fell in love with was $600 but I just couldn’t part ways with that much money.
I saw Adorae repeatedly in magazines and loved it. Then it began to appear all too many times on Say Yes to the Dress! which made me feel like it was overdone. By the time I tried it on, I didn’t feel like a “special bride” bc I had seen so many others in Adorae. I decided to go with Allure 2404 even though I had not tried this dress on. I am very hippy and couldn’t fit into a size 8 sample. Even though I am a 12, I was told I would need an 18 in Allure. Imagine how devastated I felt thinking about purchasing a dress that I not only hadn’t tried on, but was 6 sizes above my normal size!!
After pondering for weeks, I decided to look again on the Sottero and Midgley site, and even though I had seen it before online, Adorae Rose just stood out to me. It has the same “Va-va-voom” of Adorae, while looking completely diferent in my opinion. I found the the dress in a store just a mile from my home and knew it was the one. It is sexy, elegant, and unique. I can’t wait to see my future husband’s face when he sees me!