Post # 1
So this has been a difficult one for me and I haven’t been able to find many recommendations on it. My parents are paying for the bulk of our wedding (approximately $25k). The remaining things we are covering ourselves, including the things typically paid for by the groom’s family (honeymoon, rehearsal dinner, etc). So I’d like to do something really nice for my parents- but I’m not sure what guidelines there are (if any) on how much to spend. We’re not getting real gifts for the other family members other than photo albums after the fact since my parents are the only ones really contributing other than us.
They’re huge golfers and a PGA tour comes through my city in the Spring, so I thought about getting them some VIP type passes for the weeklong tour- it includes special seating, etc. The tickets alone would be about $300- the extra stuff totals about $850. Plus we thought about getting them some concession dollars so they have it to spend on food, etc. So maybe around $1000– is that crazy??
Post # 3
If you have the money and feel like that’s the type of gift that you would want to give them, I don’t want to discourage you. I would never gift my parents that much, but I also don’t have nearly that much money available.
For our parent gifts we just gave them each a bottle of expensive wine!
Post # 4
Thanks Latte– I’m wondering if it’s too much, I just have nothing to compare it to- so definitely up for feedback!
Post # 5
If you feel it may be too much, do either of them have birthdays or an anniversary that you can gift a joint gift for? Or maybe Christmas?
Post # 6
Question – If my parents arent paying for the wedding, am I suppose to give them a parent gift? They are giving us "as our wedding gift" the photography and cigar roller, together costing $1,000.
Post # 7
I think the parents gift of the PGA tkts and VIP passes is perfect! I plan on spending between 500-1000 for my parents gifts, as they are paying for almost all of our wedding.
Post # 8
@ knapper– good idea– maybe we could do it as their wedding/Christmas gift since it’s only 2 months later.
@ Guava- I don’t know on that. When I say my parents, I actually mean my mom and step-dad. Dad’s not coming- that’s a whole other story. The FI parents are divorced and each separately dating- so that’s why we thought we’d maybe gift them with a small photo album from the wedding (from Snapfish or something) after the fact. I think they only people we’ll be giving gifts to at the rehearsal dinner are our Matron of Honor, Best Man and my parents. Not sure what the norm is on that though…
Post # 9
If you have the means to gift that, then go for it!! Sounds like something they would really like & not normally buy for themselves, so that makes it a nice gift. 🙂
Post # 10
@Ms. Guava-Tini – My mom has purchased my dress, as well as all of the accessories and alterations. For now I have bought her a beautiful bracelet that will match her outfit for the wedding, that she can wear in the future as well. I will follow up with prints and/or albums for all parents… haven’t decided on a gift for FI’s parents, they are REALLY hard to shop for…and both sides wish we would just save every penny because we are building a house, too!
Post # 11
We’re forgoing parents gifts since they aren’t helping really with the wedding, but we plan on putting nice albums together on MyPublisher or Blurb or something for XMas for each set of parents since we’re getting married in October
Post # 12
My parents are deceased. We are giving my FI’s parents a $50 gift card to their favorite restaurant.
Post # 13
Each set of parents contributed $5K, and we’re paying for the rest (about $15K). We spent about $60 on each parent (nice clutch for one mom, earrings for the other mom, and a watch for the dad). I feel that while very generous, the VIP golf gift is a little too much for this occasion. But it would be perfect for an anniversary gift!
However, if you feel it’s appropriate, then that’s really all that matters 🙂
Post # 14
We’re not giving parent gifts (or at least, right now we’re not). If we were, we’d probably spend about $50 each, max.
If you have the money to give the gift you’re planning, I’d say go for it! =) They are paying for the majority of the wedding, so if you have the finances, I think it would definitely be appropriate (but by no means required).
Post # 15
When I mentioned to my mom about parents gifts, she laughed and asked me what the heck that was. I didn’t know either I thought it was a little odd. Than again i’m paying for the majority of my wedding, she’s gifted us some money, and things, but she was def not expecting us to come up with a present for her and my dad.
Your idea sounds really cool about the pga tour, that is a very thoughtful gift, let us know what you decide to do!
Post # 16
Thanks Ladies! I think we decided that we’re going to cut it in half and still get them the tickets, and some concession gift cards- just not the VIP stuff. I think they’ll still totally love it, but it will be a bit more reasonable. Then we’ll probably go to a nice dinner while they’re here. Thanks to everyone for your suggestions!!