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You can answer based on the monetary amount or a percentage of your budget BTW :)
I keep seeing it everywhere - apparently my parents are supposed to be helping pay for our wedding. It's crazy but I never knew this! I always assumed it was the job of the bride/groom since its their wedding but my MOH just informed me that this is a modern day dowry situation.:P
So anywho how much are your parents kicking in?
EDIT: It just occurred to me that the way I posted this made me sound selfish! D: Yikes. I didn't mean that its the parents duty to pay, I just meant that its more common for parents to help out in some way. I understand that just because I'm getting married doesn't mean i have a right to my parents hard earned cash - they're actually not helping pay at all :) Sorry for the confusion!
FIL paid about 1/3, my mom paid about 1/12th, my father paid another 1/12th, we paid the rest.
Actually, it USED to be tradition that parents paid for the wedding. Nowadays, it falls much more on the couple.
We were very lucky. My parents paid for the entire wedding and my inlaws paid for the rehearsal dinner and shuttles for everyone to and from the wedding so we didn't haev to worry about anyone drinking and driving.
My parents offered a very generous budget to us. They did not expect that to cover certain costs, such as rings, accessories for me, and beauty (hair/makeup). We are expecting that considering the parts we will be paying, my parents will be contributing around 85% of wedding costs. MY FI's parents are not financially well off and haven't offered any (monetary or otherwise) contributions.
My parents are paying for the big ticket items, like the rentals and the food.
FILs are paying for the bar and the rehearsal dinner.
The rest is paid by myself and the FI!
Not a thin dime...and I'm OK with that. I am 35 and FI is 42...it would seem weird to me if they were paying =)
FIL's will take care of booze and the rehearsal dinner, everything else will be FI and I.
they are paying for about 25% and we are getting the rest. But our budget is a over average so it is A LOT of money out of our pockets (and we are not even having anything extravagant!...ok except photography maybe). Ugh, I hope this wedding is worth it, seriously. I really really wish I had above average wealth in times like this.
@JamaicaBride: yeah i guess it really would depend on the age of the couple too :P Forgot about that one~
My parents paid for about a third, my inlaws another thrid and my FI and myself the other third :)
MY parents aren't paying for anything.
FFIL offered to contribute 16% of the total budget.
I think it's old school for parents to pay for weddings. OR depending on age. At 30 I wouldn't expect my parents to pay. However my dad is paying about 80% THANK YOU LORD!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol
@MadameLady: Your parents are not "supposed" to pay for anything. There is some tradition behind the bride's family paying for the wedding and some still do, but its not an obligation. This was more prevalent when girls lived at home until they married.
If your parents choose to pay for or contribute toward your wedding, its a gift but they don't owe it to you.
We are paying for it all ourselves. The economy has changed, and altho there was money in the pot for them to contrib to my BROTHER"S wedding, there is nothing left. I thought back then and realized, that my parents paid for their and my grandparents paid for theirs.
I really don't think age is a huge part of it. If you are on your second marriage then yes I would assume that your parents wouldn't help pay. But my parents had been saving up for my wedding for quite some time. I got married at 25 but if I happen to not find the right person until 35 then the money would have still been there. I don't think my parents would have just spent it because they thought I was becoming an old maid or something. And I certainly would have graciously accepted their offer to cover the cost at any age.
My mom died 2 weeks after I got engaged :-( My aunt is sort of filling the parent role for me (she and I have always been close anyway). She bought my dress, shoes and hairpiece. She is also contributing around 10-20% percent of our budget. A lot of my family is helping also. My cousin is purchasing our cake. My aunt by marriage is doing all of our flowers and ceremony/reception set-up. FIL are paying for rehersal dinner. FI and I am paying for the rest.
@lisa105: oh i understand :) I'm not going to go barging in demanding my "fair share" or anything I was just curious since it never even occurred to me to ask at all! We're still just going to pay for it all our own anyway
His parents have been incredibly generous and immediately offered to pay for all flowers and the rehersal dinner. Since that time they've also offered to pay for our honeymoon and probably anything else we asked for.
My mom bought stamps for the save the dates and two boxes of bubbles from wal-mart.
FI and I (but mostly FI) are covering the rest.
@MadameLady: I don't think age plays a difference from my parents perspective...but it does from mine. Yeah they probably COULD help...but I wouldn't let them. They are older and while it would be nice of them to offer thousands of dollars for my wedding, I wouldn't be comfortable taking it. They are at the end of their earning years while I have at least 20 more years to work so it just makes sense that FI and I pay ourselves.
When my sister got married, instead of giving money, my mom made the broom for the "broom jumping" ceremony.For me...all I want is for them to be there.
They contributed $3000 and some incidentals. ABout 25% of the budget. DH's parents did the RD and paid for the wine which was $750. The wine was something they decided to pick up after the wedding.
@OurWedding: I'm sorry to hear that your mother passed away :(
Fi and I are paying for everything. My parents would love to but with the economy the way it is, it is not going to happen. We are completely ok with it.
FI's parents are covering the rehearsal dinner and the ceremony site rental.
My mom paid for my dress, shoes, food and misc. things along the way.
We are paying for everything else ourselves.
my parents contributed about 50% of the budget, and his parents contributed about 25%. we are paying the rest. they were able to give a generous gift, and we are very thankful for that!
My parents paid $500 towards my dress, and also I used hydrangeas from their garden for my centerpiece, so I saved some money there. My mom is an artist and made our guestbook tree (it was so pretty!!!). My parents saved for my college and helped me with that, which wasn’t easy for them, I would not have felt comfortable accepting money for a wedding from them, but that’s just me.
My in-laws gave us some totally unexpected cash after the wedding, which amounted to about 5% of our total budget. The rest (+/- 20k) we paid for on our own.
None! My parents are in the middle of a divorce and have two more kids to put through college starting next year; it would be unbelievably selfish of me to ask for them to contribute anything. My dad did very nicely offer to let us use his frequent flier miles for airfare to Europe, so we are able to have the honeymoon of our dreams!
Our budget is definitely a tiny one, but I'm positive that it'll be wonderful! :)
My mom gave us 100 and my dad gave us 200, the wedding/honeymoon cost over $10,000
Originally I expected to be paying for the whole thing myself (er... FI and I), but his parents are paying for the beer, and my parents generously offered to plan our honeymoon for us (and are keeping it a surprise until the day of our wedding). :)
Mom bought my dress and veil, and that's all the help we are getting!
@MsJ26: & @SoontobeMrsA: Thanks to both of you!! It has been the most difficult thing I've ever been though. Wedding planning has been been bittersweet. She was sooo excited about us getting married.
My Dad is paying for pretty much everything - vendors and venues and all that, and my Mom is paying for my dress. It's going to be small (I only expect like 90 people to show up) and I think I'll be able to keep it under $15K. I think I will talk to my fiance about the both of us paying for the alcohol, though, because we're only having that for our friends and I don't think my Dad should have to pay for that. I'm trying to keep it as cheap as possible at this point
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