How Much Clearer Can I Get? RSVP Confusion.

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
Hostess
9908 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@lina010:  lol- some people…I’m just waiting for mine to start coming in.  We were way less specific than you!!

BUT I’ve assumed a +1 for everyone over 18 and assumed that they’ll bring their kids so I’m expecting the worst!

Post # 4
Member
954 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@lina010:  Some people just don’t get it! You couldn’t have been any clearer! People should just follow this rule: If you’re name isn’t on the inner envelope, you’re not invited!

Post # 5
Member
900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@lina010:  I hear ya.

Our RSVP cards were insane because we wanted to be as clear as possible.  Thankfully we had a small wedding of 58 guests so we only got a couple where people didn’t fill them in correctly or forgot to initial their choices or whatever.  

It’s really strange – I, myself, have almost sent back an RSVP card without my name on it but caught myself.  It’s like our brains turn off when we get those damn things in the mail.

Just call ’em up and set them straight.  Hazard of the trade

Post # 6
Member
1802 posts
Buzzing bee

Haha, I think this is pretty clear. The only way you could have made it clearer was to add the guest who was invited’s name on the first line, and allow them to fill in the second line, but I’m sure people still would have put more than one name on the second line anyway.

Post # 7
Member
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I didn’t have inner envelopes… I actualy didn’t even put “and guest” anywhere on the invite itself.
I did something like this:

______________________ accepts declines   beef chichen fish veggie

______________________ accepts declines   beef chichen fish veggie

For each RSVP – just about everyone seemed to get that they got one guest and no one added anyone extra. I had a few families and I just made different cards with four lines on them instead of two.

My only issue was that a few people didn’t add their guests because they thought they didn’t have a plus one (totally my fault for not saying “and guest” anywhere) – I called them up and said “Is your boyfriend coming? You thought he wasn’t invited??? You’re crazy, I’m putting him down on my guest list now!”

Some couples had one who was attending and one who couldn’t make it, and wrote that out on the RSVP card, which made it SUPER clear when I got it.

Post # 8
Member
4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think its very clear. I dont understand how someone could misinterpret that :-/

Post # 9
Member
724 posts
Busy bee

Personally, I think the one size fits all RSVP cards can easily be confusing to those who aren’t familiar with the wording or do not respond to RSVPs for other events (professional, social, etc.).

I can see how it might seem like an invitation to write-in guests when that line is provided even if you’re only intending to include the one single person. That’s one chair reserved for me, and here are the people I’m bringing so that the hosts know how many total will be in attendance.

Just one of those things… people aren’t familiar with what they don’t often see.

Post # 10
Member
5421 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

@lina010:  This is one reason why I’m thankful that our guests need to select menu choices: each guest will have a named RSVP card on which they need to complete their selections, so, hopefully no chance they’ll get ‘confused’. It will seriously piss me off if someone does decide to add an extra guest though :-s

Post # 11
Member
6505 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

“Name(s) of Guest(s) Including Yours:”

I can see how this line might be a little confusing to people. Maybe they thought they could bring extra people because it asks for their guest’s names? They should have understood that only a certain number of seats were reserved for them though or called if they were confused.

Post # 12
Member
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yes you confused them by allowing them to write in write in guests names.

 

Post # 14
Member
6505 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@lina010:  I don’t think you should have to write their names in but I do think the line should have just said “Names” instead of “Names of guests.” I understand what you mean but I can also see how someone might think it meant that they get to bring a guest. I also think it’s confusing to have multiple lines if only one person is invited. 

Post # 16
Member
133 posts
Blushing bee

Just call them and tell them that you’re sorry, the invite was only for ____ and you hope they can still make it. 

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