Post # 1
Hi Bees! Just curious, How much did u love/hate wedding dress shopping???
Me? I HATE it!!! im struggling to find my dream dress and it is becoming more and more frustraiting each time i go shopping.. Ive been looking for a few months now, ive tried on maybe 20 gowns in a total of 5 stores…
some of the problems i am having are: – The style i like are typically stocked in tiny sizes – I’m a street size AU14
– Too many opinions – I’ve been shopping both with an entourage and alone – If its isnt my opinionated mother or sisters putting doubt in my mind, its the shop assistant that tries to tell me what i like and puts me in dresses i wouldnt ever want to wear and then tells me how amazing it looks
– the dresses are too boring or way too OTT – ideally i would like a fit and flare with a large dramatic skirt and minimal detail on the bodice.. i love lace but it just doesnt suit me.. i also love bling but i dont feel it will suit my venue (a vintage winery)
– As much as i would love to, I’m too scared to get a dress made as i am quite self conscious about my figure, particularly my E cup bust, and would like to try on the dress before ordering.
– Time – FI and I are getting married 6th February 2015 but would like to have to dress before christmas as it is the last thing i want to worry about at that time of year and most designers/dress shops say you need at least 6 months to get the dress in… this gives me approx 2 months to find a dream dress that i feel im not even remotely close to finding
I hope that im not the only one in this situation.. i feel like in going insane.. ive been in the worst mood and really stressed about it especially in the past week or so..
Any advice?? I would love to hear your dress shopping stories.. the good, the great, the bad and the ugly!! lol
Post # 2
I loved it!! I seriously want to go again. Lmao.
Post # 3
I also went to 5 shops, and tried on about 20 dresses until I started to stress out about time. I decided to go with a custom dress, and my dressmaker can make a dress in less than 3 months. So are you absolutely sure you can’t go custom? It has a couple of drawbacks in terms of visualisation, but you seem to know pretty much you want, and personally, just the first, muslin mock-up version of my dress fit me better and made me way happier than any real dress I tried on. I think you *could* be the same way. You can tell your dressmaker how much chest coverage you want, and he or she will take your measurements. If you change your mind, that’s easy to change in the first few fittings.
Also, I think you could find bling that feels vintage, particularly if it has gold and/or pearls in it. Whatever you decide, good luck!
Post # 4
I didn’t like how I felt in most dresses and sometimes I felt too much pressure from the sales people to buy when I didn’t love a dress. I even went by myself a couple times because I didn’t want anyone I knew seeing me (I have body issues too) and to see how I would feel trying stuff on out of my comfort zone. I wish I had better experiences and I wish more people were able to go with me, but it just didn’t work out that way. I was glad it was over, but I wish I could do it again so more family could be there.
Best advice I can give from experience AND from being a bridal consultant in the past – don’t compromise on the style you want, but be flexible if a stylist shows you something a little different; you may love it. And bring people whose opinion actually matters to you…if they hate it but you would buy it anyway, leave them at home and show them pics later. A lot of places DO have bigger sizes, but you’d probably fit into sizes smaller than you and you’ll just have to be clipped. And finally, dresses are built very solidly – I have a big bust too, but don’t worry, once they are fitted to you, you will be snug and secure! Ultimately, you have final say and you need to pick something that you love and makes you happy.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
kayjay612: I really enjoyed it, it was a lot of fun trying on dresses for the fun of it. I never really went with too many people at a time, so opinions weren’t really conflicting, and it was fun seeing all the different styles. I was quite lucky too in that I was able to find salons that mostly stocked samples in my size, so it was a bit of a ego-boost too!
Post # 6
I liked it! It wasn’t this ~amazing~ experience that some girls have where everyone “ooh’s and ahh’s” over them, but I enjoyed spending the day with my mom and sister, trying on lots of pretty dresses. I happened to find my dress my first day looking, so I do wish that maybe I had a few more days of trying on dresses, but I think my sister/mom would have grown very tired of it and I can’t imagine me liking anything better than my dress.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
i had an incredible experience! Tried on 11 dresses, found THE ONE on the first night at the first shop. And all of my girls & close female family members were all there to help me make the most important fashion decision of my life!!! That being said- by the end of the night, i was tired of trying on heavy ass dresses hahah I’m really glad I found it in 1 night!
Post # 8
I am in the same boat as you, so don’t feel so bad! I thought I would love dress shopping and after going to 6 bridal shops and trying on 30+ gowns I just decided to give up and take a break. Every dress shop I would go to I would start out feeling so good and confident that I would find “the one” and then when I didn’t it just…its just such a depressing feeling. I am in the process now of ordering a dress off Etsy that is pretty close to what I think I will love, but if that dress doesn’t work out it will be back to the bridal shops for me 🙁 Good luck to you!
Post # 9
When I first went dress shopping I brought ALL my girls (including my mom). It was intense and there were so many conflicting opinions. I literally HATED it.
When I went later on with JUST my mom it was so much better. It was drama free and we totally had the “This is the one” moment together.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn
I dreaded dress shopping, I was engaged for 8 months before I went! Now that it’s over, it wasn’t so bad. I had a frustrating experiance at David’s bridal as a plus sized bride. They had 6 dresses out of hundreds that I could try on, so I found that very frustrating. The next bridal store we went to was great, I found my dress! I brought 1 friend along to all my shopping which was perfect. I trusted her opinion and she kept my spirits up. Turns out the dress I ordered was discontinued, I found out 5 weeks later when they sent a dress 6 sizes too small. I ended up getting a refund from that store and moving on to a third store. The 4th dress I tried on in that store turned out to be my dream dress! That dress has made all my shopping frustrations go away, because I am so in love with my dress!
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
I can relate to the frustrations of dress shopping. I dreaded it before hand being a US size 12/14. My first stop was to David’s Bridal where the selections for larger sizes were limited. Only a few were available and the consultant was terribly busy and just didn’t understand my style at all. I had asked for lace dresses and she pulled everything but. My second stop was a tiny little boutique where I had a great experience. personal attention and all the sample dresses were available in a smaller size and a larger size to fit most everyone. For me having samples that were in larger sizes made all the difference. I hated feeling like a stuffed sausage. Oh and I love my consultant at this boutique. She held aside a brand new dress for me to see as soon as it was released, and that’s the dress I ended up buying. Good luck on your dress hunt. Try not to feel pressured and try on every style before dismissing it. I never thought I’d like a mermaid my own self.
Post # 12
I didn’t hate it. It wasn’t like “OMG! I get to go dress shopping!” though either. I went to only 1 bridal shop, knowing that that’s all we could fit in on my mom’s trip to visit me. I tried on 15 dresses in an hour. I wanted to choose “the dress” with my mom there and she was only going to be there that day, so I knew I had to get it that day at that bridal store. After trying on 15 dresses, the consultant had me try on one I had vetoed from even trying on earlier….and it ended up being the one. There were no tears, no OMG MOM! this is it!! moment. We just were both smiling and my mom goes “I think that’s it”. And it was. Not emotional, not stressful, just me and my mom very calmly and rationally making a decision 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
Though I ordered a dress online for my court wedding, it wasn’t the plan at first. & thus I got the experience to try a few dresses on.
The first place I went to I think I tried on a few dresses before I even went outside to look I. The big mirror :p. I felt so self conscious, I hated it! Then I tried on a few other dresses that were more flattering & I began to feel better 🙂 though the dresses were plain a-line lace dresses, nothing too special.
I fell in love with a few dresses at a high end shop, almost all of them were stunning ! They had lazaros, rivini, etc… Dresses in the $4,000+ range but I just had to try them on.
Then the third & last place before I gave up, was pretty boring. Nothing stood out, though a few looked okay…
overall not that great experience for me…
Post # 14
I really wanted to be excited about dress shopping but to be honest it became such a PIA. Trying to find “The One” was like trying to find a needle in a haystack made up of ivory and white. I ended up trying on over 100 dresses across 3 states and countless dress stores. My mom didn’t make matters any better for me, she was apathetic about dress shopping and hated about 95% of the dresses on me. It was a bit tough to be honest. There is a lot of pressure on girls to find “The One”….
Post # 15
kayjay612: Ugh – I hated it. I went to one shop, tried on about 10 dresses, hated all of them, and that was the end of THAT. I ended up looking and buying online. I even photoshopped a picture of my face over the models faces to get the best idea of what style I liked. I ultimately purchased a replica for super cheap. At first I wasn’t thrilled with it – it was OK, but my seamstress is awesome, and I now I love it. I almost even had *that* moment at my last fitting.. <br /><br />That being said, I don’t enjoy shopping much in general, and the whole process of getting dressed and undressed is just exhausting to me.