Post # 1
Ok, I think this is crazy, so please do not take this the wrong way. We are planning our wedding and we are not going to have an engagement party. I now have multiple people telling me, including our parents, that the reason people have an engagement party is to fund their wedding. Ya. Right. ….Really? Is this true? Did you make money at your engagement party??? How much? I thought it was just the celebration of the engagement. Money could always help…but I’ve never heard of such a thing. Thanks bees!
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center
We made absolutely no money at all from our engagement party. My MOH and BMs made us a cornhole set and got us some personalized glasses with the new last name and some of our family sent gift cards to some stores, but no one gave us any cash.
Post # 4
Made no money at the engagement party. I thought the reasoning behind it was moreso to celebrate an engagement….
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
We got some thoughtful gifts, and lots of wine, but no money at our engagement party… I’ve never heard that before, it seems more like a “gift” occasion than a check occasion…
Post # 6
We didn’t “make any money” either…
We arranged the party because: my parents were visiting from Sweden and we wanted them to meet our friends, because FI’s birthday was up at the same point and because it all happened to co-occur with Swedish Midsummer. I remember being chocked and a little embarrassed by the fact that people brought gifts – it was sweet, but I hadn’t expected that in a million years! I’m glad none of them gifted us money, that would have felt so awkward.
So, my advice is – arrange a party if you feel like having one, not because of what other people think you should do, whatever the reason!
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@lifesaver08: Where are you from? I live in Florida and nobody is expected to bring a gift to an engagement party and when they do they usually give wine or gift certificates for restaurants. If you do get any money I don’t think it wouldn’t be nearly enough to fund a wedding.
An engagement party is for people to celebrate an engagement when there is going to be a year or more until the wedding. It gives friends and family the chance to celebrate the couple early before the stress of wedding planning sets in.
Post # 8
I think your family is being gift grabby, but we did have an engagement party and made a little over a thousand. However, I was embarrassed by all of the gifts and attention.
ETA: The party was thrown for us, not by us.
Post # 9
I have never heard of bringing a gift to an engagement party other than perhaps a bottle of wine or food related item.
Post # 10
I think gifts at engagement parties are ridiculous. We requested no gifts at ours. We just wanted people to come together and celebrate with us! A couple people gae us small gifts regardless, but by cash. Isn’t the “gift” party the shower?
Post # 11
$0, gifts aren’t expected at an engagement party…
Post # 12
I can’t believe how gift grabby your parents are being. An engagement party is not a fundraiser.
Post # 13
We got several bottles of wine, a few cute small home decor-type items, and a few gifts of cash. Beforehand, we spread the word that we did not epexct any gifts.
Post # 14
We didn’t have an engagement party. We did have dinner with friends/family the night of the engagement, but it wasn’t some huge to-do.
Post # 15
My sister had a small engagement party. . . but it was only so the parents could meet each other. No one gave gifts or anything. I’ve never heard anyone say that an Engagement Party was to fund the wedding. That just seems really gift grabby to me.
Post # 16
none but we asked for no gifts – it was more a chance for the families to get to know each other.