How much did you make your bridesmaids spend?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Around 100 bucks. That was just the dress, they wore shoes they had, they didn’t require alterations, I paid for their hair & makeup and hotel for the one that flew in.

Post # 4
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

My bridesmaids dresses were $136.  They were on sale, actually, so one bridesmaid spent $160 because she procrastinated.  I paid for my maid of honor’s dress, and I paid for each bridesmaid to try on samples of the dresses.

I asked that they get “nude colored sandals” for shoes, so it was up to them and I don’t know what they spent.

Hair was $75.  I expected to pay for it, but they decided they would pay.  My maid of honor is a hair stylist, so we had her salon for the morning.  Then makeup if they wanted to have it professionally done was another $75, but that was their choice.

Then just coming to the wedding.  One bridesmaid was a freeloader and crashed with another bridesmaid without offering to pay.  That bridesmaid rented a house at the beach.  My maid of honor was from the area so she didn’t have to pay anything, and the fourth rented a cheap hotel.  So it was up to them, again.



Post # 5
450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The only thing I asked of my BMs was to buy their dress (~$100). I chose dresses that could potentially be worn again as well. They could wear whatever shoes they wanted, do their hair and makeup however they wanted, etc. 

They chose to have their hair and makeup done professionally (by someone who was cheaper than my hair and MUA). They also shared the cost of a hotel room for my bachelorette party. I don’t know what exactly they each spent, but anything outside the dress was completely by choice.

When agreeing to be in a bridal party, you have to account that there will be a cost involved.

Post # 6
918 posts
Busy bee

I’m not asking my bridesmaids to pay for anything.

Post # 7
2962 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Here’s what my girls paid:

Dress- $155.xx including tax– we discussed they were comfortable with spending $150 and we picked out the dress altogether

shoes- I wanted them to wear whatever they had in their closet, they discussed amongst themselves they all wanted to wear silver and I don’t know how much they spent on their shoes

Hair and makeup- I just told them to wear their hair down (not to get it professionally done) and I helped pay for the makeup ($50 each, I gave them $20 each)

Nails and toes – they did their own

Dress alterations- It depended on the dress. The BMs dresses had these godets at the bottom which made their alterations expensive ($90) while the MOH’s dress didn’t and it wasn’t as expensive ($45)

I had ABSOLUTELY no say in the bachelorette party. I drove my dad’s truck to Dallas where most of my BMs lived and we had a spa day and a nice dinner at a fancy jazz restaurant.

Post # 8
11604 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

To be honest, I don’t think what you paid was that outrageous.  Whenever I’ve been in a wedding, I budget around $500 for a local wedding, or $1000 for an out-of-town wedding.  

However, for mine, this was the breakdown:
– Dress – $190 (I paid half – so they paid $95)
– Shoes – their choice, as long as they were the same color
– Hair – I paid ($90)
– Makeup – They paid $70 – optional
– Mani/Pedi – $40, but optional

So I guess my girls paid $205 out of their own pocket (though two traveled and had those expenses as well).   

Post # 9
4601 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014


They are picking whatever dress they like within their budget, they are wearing their own shoes and doing their own hair and makeup. 

Post # 10
6448 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I didn’t “make” them spend anything… In this area when you agree to be a BM you typically expect to purchase your dress. Granted, I’m glad they agreed to be in the wedding party but I definitely didn’t make them do anything.

Anyways, I asked them to pick their dresses. My BMs have all graduated college and decided to spend a bit more on dresses (completely their choice of dress) and they all spent around $200. Some also got their hair done, but I didn’t ask them to do that. Beyond that I don’t think they spent anything else.

Post # 11
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Dress – $225. We discussed it before hand and the budget was $250 or so. 

Alterations – they are in the process now but I think it’s about $100each 

shoes – I gave them the option of black or silver. They chose silver but they all had a pair so $0

hair/makeup – I’m paying. About $150 per girl plus my mom

Mani/pedi – up to them. I’m guessing most of them won’t and I’m fine with that. 

So that’s $325 total

but, my wedding is in Scotland. Each girl is paying for her flight and hotel so that’s at least $2000 not including food and whatnot. All of them love to travel and are making a nice vacation out of it but I still know they are spending a TON to be with me 

FWIW – all of them would have come to Scotland even if they weren’t in the wedding. 

Post # 12
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Depends on the dress–they were $95-150 (price was their choice), $17 shoes. Three of the four chose to have their hair done, which is $45. Two of the three who need alterations are having them done for free by my grandma. Jewelry provided by me.

Anything else (bachelor/bachelorette party, travel/hotel expenses, etc.) is their choice. I wanted to make sure that the wedding wasn’t a financial burden, even if they could afford it. I chose dresses from Dressilyme (less expensive than a bridal salon AND $15 for custom measurements), wanted to let them wear their own shoes (but they fell in love with the ones they ended up with), and said that I did not care if they had their hair and makeup done pro or DIY.

Post # 13
5658 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

$400 wouldn’t make me bat an eye. I just spent 3k to be in a wedding, it was my best friend so I am fine with that but still 3 thou-sand.

Dress – 287

Alterations – 85

Shoes/Earrings – my choice (spent 140)

Hair/Make up – 175

Two nights at wedding hotel – 500

Oh and like 1200 at the bachelorette

Post # 14
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Bridesmaids chose their own dresses- each around $100

bridesmaids chose their own shoes- as little or as much as they wanted.

everything else- hair, makeup, etc- was all their personal choice.

Post # 15
744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012


Post # 16
3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Liss13:  when I was a bridesmaid, I probably paid around $600 not including gifts. 

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