Post # 1
First time ever being a BM, lesson learned. Learn the budget before agreeing.
Shoes – $59
Hair & Make up- $60 and $43
Nails & Toes- $30
Dress Alterations- $75
I told the bride that I couldnt afford the make up, so after a brief conversation she agreed to “help” me, because I told her I was just going to do it myself
So that brings me to $440
Annnnnnnnnnd I am not getting a mani/pedi. I am going to CVS for white and pink polish. I can do this myself, and my nails are rather long, so I dont need to get acrylic like everyone else…..I am not going to tell her though. Cause NO ONE will see my toes under a floor-length dress
So now thats $410…..BUT
At the bachlorette party weekend in Ocean City, the rooms were $70 per person….Plus breakfast, lunch, and dinner for 2 days straight, and some alcohol. So….
I am promising myself when I get married I will not make them spend this much. I can guarentee I can find a pretty dress for under $100, and other things that could be lessened.
Post # 3
Around 100 bucks. That was just the dress, they wore shoes they had, they didn’t require alterations, I paid for their hair & makeup and hotel for the one that flew in.
Post # 4
My bridesmaids dresses were $136. They were on sale, actually, so one bridesmaid spent $160 because she procrastinated. I paid for my maid of honor’s dress, and I paid for each bridesmaid to try on samples of the dresses.
I asked that they get “nude colored sandals” for shoes, so it was up to them and I don’t know what they spent.
Hair was $75. I expected to pay for it, but they decided they would pay. My maid of honor is a hair stylist, so we had her salon for the morning. Then makeup if they wanted to have it professionally done was another $75, but that was their choice.
Then just coming to the wedding. One bridesmaid was a freeloader and crashed with another bridesmaid without offering to pay. That bridesmaid rented a house at the beach. My maid of honor was from the area so she didn’t have to pay anything, and the fourth rented a cheap hotel. So it was up to them, again.
Post # 5
The only thing I asked of my BMs was to buy their dress (~$100). I chose dresses that could potentially be worn again as well. They could wear whatever shoes they wanted, do their hair and makeup however they wanted, etc.
They chose to have their hair and makeup done professionally (by someone who was cheaper than my hair and MUA). They also shared the cost of a hotel room for my bachelorette party. I don’t know what exactly they each spent, but anything outside the dress was completely by choice.
When agreeing to be in a bridal party, you have to account that there will be a cost involved.
Post # 6
I’m not asking my bridesmaids to pay for anything.
Post # 7
Here’s what my girls paid:
Dress- $155.xx including tax– we discussed they were comfortable with spending $150 and we picked out the dress altogether
shoes- I wanted them to wear whatever they had in their closet, they discussed amongst themselves they all wanted to wear silver and I don’t know how much they spent on their shoes
Hair and makeup- I just told them to wear their hair down (not to get it professionally done) and I helped pay for the makeup ($50 each, I gave them $20 each)
Nails and toes – they did their own
Dress alterations- It depended on the dress. The BMs dresses had these godets at the bottom which made their alterations expensive ($90) while the MOH’s dress didn’t and it wasn’t as expensive ($45)
I had ABSOLUTELY no say in the bachelorette party. I drove my dad’s truck to Dallas where most of my BMs lived and we had a spa day and a nice dinner at a fancy jazz restaurant.
Post # 8
To be honest, I don’t think what you paid was that outrageous. Whenever I’ve been in a wedding, I budget around $500 for a local wedding, or $1000 for an out-of-town wedding.
However, for mine, this was the breakdown:
– Dress – $190 (I paid half – so they paid $95)
– Shoes – their choice, as long as they were the same color
– Hair – I paid ($90)
– Makeup – They paid $70 – optional
– Mani/Pedi – $40, but optional
So I guess my girls paid $205 out of their own pocket (though two traveled and had those expenses as well).
Post # 9
They are picking whatever dress they like within their budget, they are wearing their own shoes and doing their own hair and makeup.
Post # 10
I didn’t “make” them spend anything… In this area when you agree to be a BM you typically expect to purchase your dress. Granted, I’m glad they agreed to be in the wedding party but I definitely didn’t make them do anything.
Anyways, I asked them to pick their dresses. My BMs have all graduated college and decided to spend a bit more on dresses (completely their choice of dress) and they all spent around $200. Some also got their hair done, but I didn’t ask them to do that. Beyond that I don’t think they spent anything else.
Post # 11
Dress – $225. We discussed it before hand and the budget was $250 or so.
Alterations – they are in the process now but I think it’s about $100each
shoes – I gave them the option of black or silver. They chose silver but they all had a pair so $0
hair/makeup – I’m paying. About $150 per girl plus my mom
Mani/pedi – up to them. I’m guessing most of them won’t and I’m fine with that.
So that’s $325 total
but, my wedding is in Scotland. Each girl is paying for her flight and hotel so that’s at least $2000 not including food and whatnot. All of them love to travel and are making a nice vacation out of it but I still know they are spending a TON to be with me
FWIW – all of them would have come to Scotland even if they weren’t in the wedding.
Post # 12
Depends on the dress–they were $95-150 (price was their choice), $17 shoes. Three of the four chose to have their hair done, which is $45. Two of the three who need alterations are having them done for free by my grandma. Jewelry provided by me.
Anything else (bachelor/bachelorette party, travel/hotel expenses, etc.) is their choice. I wanted to make sure that the wedding wasn’t a financial burden, even if they could afford it. I chose dresses from Dressilyme (less expensive than a bridal salon AND $15 for custom measurements), wanted to let them wear their own shoes (but they fell in love with the ones they ended up with), and said that I did not care if they had their hair and makeup done pro or DIY.
Post # 13
$400 wouldn’t make me bat an eye. I just spent 3k to be in a wedding, it was my best friend so I am fine with that but still 3 thou-sand.
Dress – 287
Alterations – 85
Shoes/Earrings – my choice (spent 140)
Hair/Make up – 175
Two nights at wedding hotel – 500
Oh and like 1200 at the bachelorette
Post # 14
Bridesmaids chose their own dresses- each around $100
bridesmaids chose their own shoes- as little or as much as they wanted.
everything else- hair, makeup, etc- was all their personal choice.
Post # 16
@Liss13: when I was a bridesmaid, I probably paid around $600 not including gifts.