How much did you spend on dresses/suits?

posted 2 years ago in Money
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Are you me?!? Can you post or om a pic of your BM dresses and seller, I want to go ebay route but I’m scared!

Post # 5
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Newbee

In my wedding my bridesmaids, groomsmen, moh, mob, and everyone else are paying for their own. It’s crazy that you have to buy what everyone is wearing  I wouldn’t have gotten the dress, honeymoon and the house of my dreams if my fiancé and I had to pay for all their dresses and suits. That’s too much Im all stressed just thinking about it lol

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

-sunshine-:  wow, sounds like you got a great deal! Can we see the dresses?

I never ever thought I would spend so much money on a dress to wear for one day. I was lucky that my mum bought my dress for me and she had a bigger budget than I expected. We spent about £1200 on my dress after the alterations were finished. 

I had 6 bridesmaids and set myself a strict budget of £100 per girl for their dresses! I found the PERFECT dresses at M&S for £99 each, so I just managed it lol. 

We hired morning suits from Debenhams for my DH, our best man, our 3 ushers (our brothers) and our fathers. I’m not sure how much that cost because I wasn’t really involved in that process but since they have a “groom goes free” deal I’m guessing it was about the same as the bridesmaid dresses. Again, we were very lucky that DH’s parents covered the cost of that for us. 

For us personally, it was absolutely worth it. I loved our dresses and suits and everyone looked wonderful! I also loved every moment in my dress and I feel so happy looking at photos of it.

But of course if we’d been able to do it for less that would have been even better! It’s great you found what you want at a good price.

Post # 8
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Newbee

well it’s so sweet of you to pay their dresses. I probably would have done the same thing if we didn’t have this many expenses. Where I live everything is too expensive and planning a wedding is ridiculous! sometimes I regret wanting a wedding lol 🙁

Post # 9
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951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn

 

-sunshine-:  we paid for everyones outfits too – i went down the ebay route with my bridesmaid dresses – best thing i ever did!!! they were SOOOOO well made! ive since recommended the seller i bought from to 2 other brides who have also used her with no problems.

I paid £60 each for 3 x bridesmaids and we paid just under £100 each for groom, 3 x groomsmen and my dad to hire their suits. i cut back where i could – the BMs shoes were little pumps from sainsburys, i made their hair accesories, my veil was a super ebay bargain and my shoes were from M&S!!

I say save where you can!!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

-sunshine-:  Our bridesmaid dresses cost (Inc alterations): £100 (junior BM: long chiffon dress and shoes); £150 (River Island body-con with extensive alterations); £165 (Dessy dress, no alterations); £285 (Dessy dress with alterations to bust and length); £360 (extra length Dessy dress with alterations to bust and length). We did look on the high street and online but I was worried about the quality ordering online, and we didn’t find anything cheaper we liked. 

With the suits, we found grey two-piece rental ones in Debenhams and Moss Bros for £50-60. We didn’t care if they matched (OH had a made to measure suit so they would never have matched his anyway; likewise my dad wanted a good suit and bought a pretty expensive Ted Baker one, and my brother (a groomsman) was wearing one he already owned), so we gave them all £60 and said they could either hire one, or put it towards buying one if they preferred (they all bought). We also provided ties to match the Dessy dresses which cost £160 Inc shipping from the states for the best man, 3 groomsmen, and the dads. 

Total spend on bridal party attire was £1400 (5 bridesmaids; 3 groomsmen). Which was a lot. We didn’t pay for shoes though, or hair and make-up (they did their own). 

I don’t regret spending what we did as they looked amazing, but you can Def do it a lot cheaper lol

Post # 11
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5421 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

Re mine and my OH’s attire: my outfit (dress, two pairs of shoes (Jimmy Choo and Gina), cathedral length veil, underwear (thong from Hanky Panky), hair accessory and jewellery) cost £2400 (dress was £1280 Inc alterations). OH’s outfit (3 piece made-to-measure suit from Suit Supply, shirt, tie, pocket square, Loake shoes) cost just under £900. But, I will wear both pairs of shoes again, and OH will wear his suit, shirt, and shoes again, so we didn’t see the total cost as being just for the wedding, if that makes sense. 

Attire ended up coming to just under £5k, or about 20% of our wedding budget (not counting the rings or honeymoon). 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I’d just like to hop in and say how amazing it is that you’re paying for your BP’s dresses. I wish that was common in North America. Of the two weddings I’ve been in this year, the bridesmaid dresses alone cost $200. I think it’s easier to ignore the cost or day it’s manageable when you’re not paying for it yourself! 

Post # 13
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Newbee

winstonchurchill:  Wow $200! The dress I chose for my bridesmaid costs $119 and they paid for them. Is that a lot?? Lol it’s the cheaoest I could find that I really liked 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

winstonchurchill:  I have to say, I was quite surprised to see that the BP pay for attire in some places! If that’s the custom I guess that’s fine, it’s just a bit of an odd one to me; where does it come from? 

Over here the only way it’s considered OK to ask the BP to pay is if you give them free reign/let them wear something they already own (eg most women own a black dress, so you could ask that they wear a black dress, and most people would be fine with that). Which is kind of what we did with the groomsmen: we didn’t care what they wore as long as it was a grey suit, so we provided their ties, and then gave them enough to cover the cost of a rental outfit. They chose to buy, but it was just that: their choice (I think the main reason they bought is that there are a lot of weddings coming up, so they kind of saw money towards a suit they could wear again to other weddings as a bit of a bonus lol). We didn’t want anyone to be out of pocket because we’d asked them to be a part of our day. 

We also got them all pretty generous gifts on top, so when couples say they asked their BP to pay because they can’t afford it, it doesn’t fly with me; IMPO you should just have the BP you can afford, or, if you’re asking people to pay, let them have pretty much free reign/find out what people already own and go from there. 

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