How much $ do I give for wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@oldmatron:  I’d give what you usually give. She’s buying your lodging so why not just give your usual amount? Looks like you’ve already spent a bunch but you knew you would going into it, right?

Post # 5
825 posts
Busy bee

I was a bridesmaid for a fairly reasonable wedding this summer and spent nearly $1500 before the whole thing was over. FI and I ended up giving about $350 as a wedding gift. She is a good friend of mine if that helps you decide any.

I second PP and say just give what you normally give/can afford. You’ve spent a fair amount already but it looks like she tried to keep costs fairly reasonable for you ($80 dress and $20 shoes + hair) and is paying for your lodging.

Post # 6
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@oldmatron:  wow, you’ve spent a lot already. I’d give what you’re comfortable giving, considering you already gave three gifts for the showers.

ETA: I didn’t realize BMs covered the cost of their own bouquets?

Post # 7
6697 posts
Bee Keeper

None of the things you’ve mentioned  has much, if anything,  to do with the others.  Give according to the closeness of your relationship and what you can afford. 

Post # 8
1584 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@letigre:  +1, never heard of a bridesmaid paying for their own bouquet.

I second all the PP’s that say give what you can comfortably give, regardless of how much you’ve already spent.

Post # 9
1568 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

In my opinion (and Ive told all of my bms this I DO NOT want a wedding gift or cash from them. I am happy with them buying there own dress and paying the 35 bucks for hair and make up as long as they show up to my wedding and hold my dress while I pee that is gift enough for me.

Post # 10
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@letigre:  +1. Give what you can afford and take into account what you have already spent. If a friend of mine was expecting me to spend a lot to be in the wedding AND give a huge gift then I wouldn’t want to be friends with that person.

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