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Would you buy a pair of shoes knowing they were uncomfortable? If you later found out they were uncomfortable, would you replace them if you had enough time to get a new pair?
Married bees, looking back, do you remember if you were comfortable or uncomfortable in your wedding shoes? Would you do anything differently?
I am obsessed with shoes, especially heels, so how much they hurt feet is never ever a deterrent for me buying and wearing them. My wedding shoes are going to be killer, probably in the sense of them hurting my feet, and of how much i'm going to love how they look. I will def. be going barefoot i'm sure at some point but oh well i'll have on a long dress atleast 
Omg- if you want to wear your shoes all night... get the comfy shoes!
I was of the mind that it wouldn't matter to me. I just wanted the nicest shoes I could find. The ones I fell for were 4 inches tall, ouch. While standing at the altar I remember thinking, "I don't have much more of this in me". I was in pain! So every chance I got I'd take those bad boys off and go bare foot. Aside from the first dance, my shoes were off in a corner somewhere. The bottom of my feet were sooooo dirty (and I stepped on something that cute my foot- oops)! And I should mention that there's only one picture of my shoes. Not worth the drama!
Again, go with comfort, you'll be so glad you did!
I totally envy those of you who can wear the gorgeous and painful shoes! I totally wish I could! I'm one of those people where if my feet hurt, I'm out of commission. So I won't be wearing those shoes to my wedding. But I'm already taller than my fiance, so the heels don't work anyways.
I am completely and totally against buying shoes that are uncomfortable (for myself) but *gasp* I don't care about shoes too much. I dislike dislike dislike having uncomfortable feet. My bridesmaids are lucky I agreed not to wear sneakers on the wedding day.
I have 4" shoes that I've been wearing to dance lessons. My feet hurt after a 45 minute lesson and they aren't easy to move in, especially since FI has a large step.
The new shoes I want (comfy shoes) are ballroom dancing shoes and will cost me $300. Yes, I can afford it, and FI supports the purchase. But I'm not really a "shoe girl" (I love Dankso clogs!) and I find it hard to justify the purchase.
I've been thinking about this for a few weeks now. I really don't know what to do.
I would never buy shoes that I KNOW are uncomfortable...but I do have shoes that have become uncomfortable after an hour or two, and I continue to wear them, lol.
What about doing kitten heels or flats? Or something with a stacked heel...I find that those shoes are more comfy that stilettos.
It was important to me to find comfortables shoe (comfortable 4 inch heels nonetheless), so I bought several pairs before I found the "one".
The kicker is that the day before the wedding, I wore a new pair of black heels to my rehearsal dinner. I thought they would be comfortable - well, they were NOT. I ended up getting blisters on my feet.
So, there I was, on my wedding day, forcing my freshly blistered feet in my new comfortable wedding shoes that took me forever to find. They weren't so comfortable anymore. It was not fun.
@hilsy85: These shoes are like that...comfy at first but after 1.5 hours, they hurt my feet. Kitten heels and flats are not an option - my fiance is 18" taller than me!
I would never buy uncomfortable shoes. It isn't worth it to me. I tend to go for hidden platforms if I have to have on heels. I always buy quality.
I WISH I could get the pretty shoes so many bees have posted, but I will be sticking to shoes that are no higher than 1.5-2". Anything more than that, my feet will ache after 30 mins or so of standing, which then translates to crankiness :(
I don't put my feet in unecessary pain! I used to do that in college and now i wait and spend my money on good quality shoes that look great AND feel great. I just can't do it.
I can deal with a little discomfort, like the balls of my feet hurting from heels. I wore 4-inch heels for my ceremony, but then changed for the reception. They were still tall, but they had rubber soles so they were cushy.
Usually if a shoe is terrible, I can force myself to wear it until they break in, and then they're great. I spent all last Memorial Day weekend hobbling around Minneapolis in these excruciating T-straps (flats! They weren't even heels!), changing band-aids several times a day, but now they are the best shoes ever and I can walk for hours in them.
I absolutely love shoes! I have this problem where i fall in love with gorgeous, totally uncomfortable shoes, and then can't wear them longer than 30 minutes, lol! I plan on finding the perfect tall but comfortable shoes for the wedding. What I've found works best for me are platforms (they tend to be padded a bit more, and give the height, without the extreme foot angle). I'm in love with the idea of the Cole Haan Nike Air technology pumps, though, so I'm definitely looking into those for the day. FI is almost a foot taller than me, so height is a must.
ETA: I also love wegdes! They're so much more comfortable than regular heels...
I remember the days when I was able to run, walk and stand for hours on end in 4" heels. Back then I preferred form over function, style over comfort. Now, I have a closet full of shoes I barely wear. Something happened between then and now. I'm thinking gaining weight had something to do with it but I also think my preferences have changed over time. I prefer comfort over style now...but don't get me wrong, it'll be awhile before I start wearing granny shoes.
Quick tip: Moleskin!!! They have been my lifesaver. You can buy them in the drugstore at the same aisle you find Dr. Scholls products. You can cut them in whatever shape you like and sticks much better than band-aid. It works best when you put them on BEFORE you put on your shoes.
I am the kind of girl who totally buys shoes knowing they will hurt my feet but will also look killer! I dont even think about comfort while shoe shopping!
I got married last month and finally have someone looking for the shoe advice I now have to share!! :) yay!
I got a GORGEOUS pair of heels for my wedding. GORGEOUS! I'm a heel girl and used to go out to the bars in 5 inch heels, no issue! I broke the wedding shoes in a bit before the big day and wore them comfortably down the aisle and during the ceremony and then afterwards, walking around and taking picures, standing up, greeting everyone, etc my feet started to KILL! I wasn't worried...I had a bag with cute white ballet slippers I had paid $20 just incase for...but my big ballgown was hemed for heels and I found myself stepping all over it! It was NOT gonna cut it. Luckily, my rehearsal dinner dress had required me to wear another pair of tall heels...but ones that didn't hurt me at all...so someone ran to the room and brought them for me! Nobody noticed and my shoe pics were already done :) I danced the first dance, daddy daughter and the whole night with friends and family just fine! I wouldn't have with my other shoes. That night my toes were pretty white and asleep when I took off the shoes...but no blisters!! I also would use either Friction Block (drugstores) from the bandaid company (looks like a tiny deoderant) or else foot petals makes a foot spray...that helped to keep my feet from rubbing.
Good luck :)
@Sulli301: I have not heard of Friction Block and will have to look for that. Thanks!
My shoes were so uncomfortable, I had blisters and could barely stand by the time I walked down the aisle. I had to take a break during dancing at the reception and was afraid my feet might be bleeding. If I were to do it all over again, I would wear them again in a second. My shoes were absolutely gorgeous, a once in a lifetime purchase (for me, anyway). Plus, I mean, I was the bride!
I never bought into the idea that I 'had' to be comfortable on my wedding day. I looked at the experience more like a once-in-a-lifetime, look-my-absolute-best, beauty-is-pain type of day. I didn't compromise anything to be comfortable! :)
Have to go with comfy shoes -- and I always have spares in the office and in my car. There is also the difference between how long you can wear 'em and function in 'em. I've found the more comfortable you are, the more natural and happy you'd be. :-)
Get the comfortable ones 100%!!! (By the way, ballroom shoes rock and are pretty too).
It is so much fun to like your shoes and be comfortable. You can admire them with no mixed feelings.
Pain - makes everything worse. It's fine if you're going to a fancy club in a taxi... but these are not constraints you want on your wedding day. People will be watching you for 8 hours, them seeing pretty heels for an hour out of that and you limping/barefoot etc. for the rest is not wrothwhile.
Plus if you get the comfy shoes you can wear them forever, you need a comfy pair of heels because it will make every company christmas party in your future easier and so worth the investment.
Comfy shoes are essential! I have really wide feet so even most flats start to hurt after a few hours. :( I'm one of those people who aren't happy if their feet aren't happy.
I'm going to for comfort. If I wasn't planning to wear a short dress I would totally wear my cream colored dance heels- but they're covered in scuffs so that's a no go. Instead I'll get the same brand, different style and only wear them enough beforehand to smooth the suede sole so I can slide and carry momentum better.
I wore these very pretty, unpractical heels to a wedding this past weekend- by the end of the cocktail hour I made my brother take mincing steps next to me so I didn't feel so silly.
I'd find other shoes. You will be in those shoes ALLLLLLL day. I'm actually planning to find 2 different pairs of shoes. I did this once for a wedding I was in a BM for - I had one pair for the morning, pictures and ceremony and changed into another pair for the reception. My feet were so happy with the change. And, even though both pairs were comfy - no shoes are comfy after 10+ hours of standing and dancing.
omw - get the comfy shoes! You'll be thanking yourself by the end of the night. Let it be your wedding gift to yourself.
And you can wear them again, whenever you go dancing!
@sboston06: I vote for the ballroom shoes (though check around, I bought three pairs of dress-y swing shoes for under 100 when I went to their warehouse store). They are made for dancing and probably have a more flexible platform and smoother soles. People think that a rubber sole is all important for dancing but if you spin, your foot stays in place putting excess tension on your joints. Your joints will thank you the next day if you buy leather or suede-soled shoes (there's also a synthentic material some use but I forget the name).
I won't buy shoes that are uncomfortable. I'd much rather wear flats than be uncomfortable. My vote is comfortable :)
Oh dear, go for comfort! I have a wardrobe filled with beautiful shoes that start hurting about half an hour in. Needless to say they don't get worn much! For the wedding I'm going with a mid heel (the fella's not that much taller than me) and then I plan on changing into cute flats for the reception. I'm also wearing a tea length dress so whatever shoes I pick have to be cute, but also meet my comfort needs! Sore feet make me a cranky ogre and there's been many a night out that's seen my hobbling about or walking with no shoes on.... which is fine, but not for my wedding day!
Another vote for comfort. My shoes were pretty but amazingly comfortable, even after wearing them for hours. I did not even think about my feet all day.
Thank you ALL for your amazing comments. I think I am sold on the idea. Now...my current shoes are red (which is one of my wedding accent colors). Should I get the new shoes dyed red to go with the original plan, or get them in black, for more versatility and re-wearability after the wedding? A bride wearing black shoes just sounds weird to me! I might be able to get them dyed black over the red, but it will probably not come out as good.
My wedding heels are comfortable. They're not the cutest ones I tried, but they are the only ones that it wasn't apparent from the moment I put them on they would leave my feet a mess at the end of the night. They are 2.25 inch heels. My 23 year old self would probably have gotten married in gorgeous 3.5+ inch heels that hurt like hell. I guess caring about comfort as much as style is a sign I'm getting old, LOL. I don't want to spend time on my wedding day worrying about my feet.
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Comfortable shoes were a must-have for me. I own plenty of really high heels (like most girls, I'm a shoe wh%re), but for the wedding, I wanted to be comfortable, not miserable. I get the whole "pain for beauty" thing, but I think you can have the best of both worlds on your wedding day. I loved wearing my beautiful 2.5" Badgley Mischkas and I didn't take them off all night! Why get a pair of 4" cute heels that you can only stand to wear for 15 minutes??
If I knew the shoes would be uncomfortable for even a minute, I would refuse to buy them. Having cute shoes that do not fit is really not worth the misery because no one will notice them or care what they look like in all honesty. Under a wedding dress and most bridesmaid dresses, no one can see them anyway.
This is why it is so important to try them on in person and walk around in them before you decide on buying them. If you buy them online, there is no way to tell if they fit properly based on a picture. But so many people say not to and then end up spending tons of money on shoes that don't fit.
I'm going to wear my 4" heels through the ceremony, then I bought a pair of these babies http://www.footzyrolls.com/ Not terribly fancy, but they'll get me through the rest of the night.
I buy shoes even though I know they'll hurt later. I think I'm going to look into getting some gel inserts for my heels. I can deal for 1-2 hours, but then my feet really start to hurt.
comfortable feet mean the world to me!
i am actually going barefoot for my ceremony (granted it is on the beach), and will wear flip flops for my reception.
i go barefoot as often as possible, so it would just be unusual for me to wear 4" heels (as much as i LOVE the look - i am living vicariously through you ladies!)..
be comfortable.
I wouldn't do it because I would be annoyed by my painful feet the entire time.
I'm wearing comfortable heels for our ceremony and pink flip flops with peonies on them from j.crew for our picnic reception.
I would so much rather spend the extra money to be comfortable. I can wear heels, but if the material is stiff and shoddy, no way. My first pair of Manolos were absolutely amazing to me - I hadn't realized what a difference it made!
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