How much do you give/spend on a gift for… (poll)

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How much, if any?
    Nothing : (3 votes)
    11 %
    A card would be nice : (12 votes)
    44 %
    A modest gift off the registry ($25-$50) : (9 votes)
    33 %
    A modest gift card/check ($25-$50) : (3 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Honestly, I don’t think people who GO to the wedding are obligated to give a gift, but a card is very nice. 

    Post # 3
    Member
    2428 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t see why you’d need to send ANYthing at all, but if you feel so inclined I would just do a card.

    Post # 4
    Member
    6904 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    You are under no obligation to send a gift unless it’s something you want to do. Gifts are always voluntary and  a function of the relationship with the person and your budget. From the way you describe your connection, a card is perfectly thoughtful and  appropriate. 

    The price of the wedding has nothing to do with anything. Expecting guests to “cover the plate” is not an acceptable practice even when people attend a wedding, let alone when they do not. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    In this instance, I would just decline and not send a gift.  If a good friend gets married and I can’t make it, I take into consideration the amount I would have spent on travel and hotel and try to get them a nicer gift.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Nothing in this case. Just send a prompt No RRSVP. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Nothing in this case. Just send a prompt No RRSVP. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    2892 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    BurlapnLace:  you are never obligated to give a gift. Do what makes you comfortable

    Post # 9
    Member
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I think a card would be nice, shows that you appreciate the invite. But I don’t think it’s necessary for you to spend money. If it was a good friend who’s wedding I couldn’t attend, I’d of course send them a gift, but it sounds like you have almost no relationship with this person.

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