(Closed) How much do you spend on a typical wedding gift?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think it really depends – I’ve always heard that you should either give enough cash and/or spend enough money on a gift that covers the cost of your plate at the wedding.  I don’t really expect this of my guests as I know the economy is pretty bad and I don’t want people not coming to my wedding because they can’t afford a gift.

If I were you, I would register for a variety of different items at different price points which will give your guests a large selection to choose from. Keep in mind that some people will give you cash and some people will get you something off the registry and some people’s wedding present to you will be their presence at your wedding.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If I had more money, I would spend more….I usually gift something or combination of things that add up to about $100.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You should definitely have a range of items.  I typically spend around $100 on a gift, but that includes tax and shipping, unless I am in the wedding or otherwise very close to the person.  Some people may want to spend $150 so this means maybe a $100 item and a $20 item with tax and shipping.  The tax and shipping really adds up. 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

depending on the amount of travel etc, i usually spend about 50ish to be safe.  I also live in the south and they’d have to have some amazing food to spend more than 50 per person!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Furthermore, it depends on the socioeconomic background of your guests. My wedding isn’t until April, but we’ve had two engagement parties (one here in the States and one in Europe) and we’ve gotten everything ranging from decent sized checks to ten dollar gift cards to expensive silver and China. It all just depends on what people can afford. There were people who didn’t give us a gift and that was fine too. I was just so happy that so many people came out to support us at our engagement party and each and every single person who came to the party received a thank you note from me whether their gift was big, small or non-existent.

I think that it’s best to not to have any expectations when it comes to the gifts that you’ll be receiving from your guest.

I am having a formal wedding (at a private club with a band, sit down dinner, etc) and I am sure that there will be people who give us checks that “cover their plate” and there will be others who will give what they can afford.

@GirlWithARing, you mentioned that things are different in where you’re originally from – if you don’t mind me asking, where are you from?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

We’re both in graduate school….so we usually spend in the 30-50 range. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I’ve heard this, too, and I usually try to give enough to “cover my plate” if I can. I do think if you’re inviting a lot of younger people (or anyone, really, in this economy!) it’s a good idea to add smaller gifts to your registry as well, though, so that people who want to give a gift but can’t necessarily afford to spend $100+ can still give you something. Keep in mind that some people will get a bunch of smaller gifts rather than one larger one, as well, so it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re condemning yourself to smaller gifts. 😉

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I usually end up somewhere around $100 for a wedding gift, but I am a really generous shower gift giver (I also usually spend $80-100 on a shower gift LOL), so I consider my shower gift as part of the package.

Post # 12
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Worker bee

for those of you saying about $100 is this $100 per person or per couple?

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I usually spend $100, so now between $150 and $200 when FI and I go together.

I will spend a little less, like $120 from the both of us if I went to the shower and got a gift, and went to the bachelorette and got a gift, and went to the house warming and got a gift… you get the drift.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

@mibee: I give $100 for myself… Mr. S and I can’t really afford $200 wedding gifts yet unfortunately but we try to stay at $150 if we’re both attending.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We are both in grad school.  We usually give gifts in the $30 – $60 range because of our financial status (ie. we are poor!).   We just had our wedding and I can tell you we got many $20 gifts from people who have steady jobs (meaning they gave us a card with $20 in it).  The present that kind of made me say “wow” was a $90 gift that 15 people from 4 separate families chipped in on.  Just seemed a little cheap to me, but whatever.  My husband’s family was especially confused with his grandma because she only gave us a card with $25 in it when they thought that she had usually given the other siblings hundreds of dollars when they got married.  But what can you do?  It’s not like we are going to approach her and ask about it.

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Ok, just read all the posts.  Jeez, where were all you $100 gift givers at my wedding?  lol.  I really was fine with the outcome of my wedding, because it wasn’t about getting gifts.  But it was surprising to see that many guests only gave $20 and some gave nothing at all.  Especially since we had a rather expensive wedding.

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