How much do you spend on your mum for Mothers Day?

posted 2 years ago in Family
  • poll: How much is the max you'll spend for mothers day per mum? (not including a card)
    I don't buy gifts : (4 votes)
    8 %
    $0-$20 : (6 votes)
    11 %
    $20-$40 : (18 votes)
    34 %
    $40-$60 : (11 votes)
    21 %
    $60-$80 : (4 votes)
    8 %
    $80+ : (10 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 2
    1959 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I do a $40 gift card plus a card. 

    Post # 3
    2419 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    It strikes me as hugely presumptious to buy yourself a Mother’s Day present in the first place! Let alone expect the family to pay hundreds of dollars towards it.

    I’m a mother (my own mother and MIL are no longer alive) and I’d say that my sons and stepchildren probably spend the UK equivalent of about $20 on me (card, chocolates, flowers or similar presents) and I find that very generous. I’d not be at all worried if all I got was a card since it is the thought that counts, not the money spent and I’ve never viewed Mother’s Day as a present giving occasion anyway. 

    Post # 4
    602 posts
    Busy bee

    DH and I are always overly generous when it comes to holidays. We’re spending about $150 on each mom this year. 

    It was rude of your MIL to take it upon herself to buy her own gift then expect her kids to pay for it. It would be one thing if this was discussed and agreed on but to just tell you that you owe her $80 on something that you had nothing to do with is annoying. However, I also think that spending $7 on your mother for Mother’s Day is pretty cheap but I guess it depends on your relationship and the dynamic. My mom is one of my best friends and she deserves everything that I’m able to give her and more. I would never put so little effort into a gift for her. 

    Post # 5
    1136 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    nessdawwg:  I think it definitely depends on the situation but I agree that purchasing a $250 gift for herself is excessive! Did she expect you guys to cover the whole thing or just contribute whatever? I don’t mind the idea of someone picking their own gift but i’d prefer to say to someone ‘is there something you want’ rather than just have them pick it out first and tell me later!

    His sister shouldn’t have got snarky with you I think its rude to expect someone to fork over cash they don’t have – $50 is more than enough to spend, that’s probably our max each for my mum and FMIL on mothers day!

    Post # 6
    3097 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    I’d be annoyed as well! “I picked out my expensive gift but you can pay for it” wtf. The only time I think that’s okay is if that’s what the gift givers offer but even then I wouldn’t pick out something Over 100$. 

    It depends, since my moms birthday is close to Mother’s Day so if I give her something less pricy for her birthday I “make up” for it on mothers day But usually in the 50-75. I really only consider birthdays and Christmas as gift giving holidays but I know her love language is gifts so I’d feel like a jerk of I didn’t lol. 

    Post # 7
    42089 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think FI needs to tell his Mom and his siblings that he will not be chipping in for gifts that his Mom buys for herself in the future,  that he will determine the contibution from the two of you for any future gifts that are given jointly with his siblings or you will purchase your own gift as a couple.

    Families do differ on how they handle gift buying but this is absurd. What if FMIL bought herself a convertible?

    Post # 9
    1377 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I would be very, very put off if my mom (well, anyone really) decided to buy herself something, and then presume I was going to pay for it. Especially for a holiday – usually I’m that person who has gifts picked out and bought a month in advance. 

    FI and I are also pretty young and not established, so our general cap on gifts is about $50/person. That being said, I spent about $37 on my mom to have her favorite flowers delivered and a nice card. 

    I really can’t get over that she decided you need to pay for part of a gift she bought for herself. How ridiculous! 

    Post # 10
    1112 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My moms birthday falls on or around Mother’s Day, so we generally get her a birthday present (usually less than $50!) and a potted plant or chocolate for Mother’s Day. And that’s from my dad brother and I!

    Post # 11
    1248 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    nessdawwg:  I don’t think $50 is extravagant for a Mothers Day present but everything is more expensive in Australia and we are both established with decent incomes so that may just be a difference in money value. I totally don’t agree with someone just buying their own gift though and then asking for the money! wtf? Is that usual practice for their family?


    On the whole I’m over just how many gift giving events there are nowadays. DH and I were complaining about this this morning. With two sets of parents, siblings, nieces and nephews there is hardly a break from all the birthdays, christmas, easter, mothers/fathers day etc! So expensive!

    Post # 13
    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    We spent about $50 on my mom, maybe a bit over, and about $80 on his since we did a combined Mother’s Day and birthday gift. We like to buy for others and be generous, but we’re buying a place soon and will have to cut back.

    I’d be put off if any adult, for any reason, told me I needed to give them a certain gift. If you’d asked what she wanted and she’d said money, okay, but you don’t tell people what to give you.

    Post # 14
    6447 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Wow… we spent about $20 for each mom. Honestly, if we lived in state we would likely cook them dinner or something and not get them a gift. Then again, in my family mother’s day and father’s day are considered as silly Hallmark holidays.

    If I were in this situation I would be tempted not to pay in at all as this seems rather presumptuous of her.

    Post # 15
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I guess SO and I are much more generous.. we normally spend about $100 on each mom, and we ask what they want so we can get something of use to them. Neither of our moms want more candy or flowers, or stuffed animals that say “mom”.

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