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How much do you usually spend on a gift, per person, when you attend a wedding? My FI and I generally give $100 when both of us attend. I am a bit surprised that many of the gifts we have received average less than $25 a person (for example, $95 from family of 4, $35 from couple) Am I just clueless when it comes to gifts?
(I am very thankful for any gifts we get. I understand they are completely optional and it is completely up to the giver to give whatever they desire. I appreciate the gifts we have received - this is just out of curiosity!)
I generally give $50 per person attending. Unless it is someone we are very close to (and in the wedding party), then we give $150 per person.
I will admit that if anyone gives us a $10-$25 gift, I will be pretty dissapointed. We are having a black tie wedding and spending $250+ per head.
Depends on the couple, but generally, FI and I will give gifts of $100-$150 from the both of us.
Your wedding is still quite a while from now, perhaps the people who have given you gifts mean them as engagement gifts? Have you already registered?
Edit: Oh, nevermind I must have read your wedding date wrong... could have sworn it said Sept 2011! 
We usually give gifts of about $100 regardless of whether one or both of us attended the wedding.
Oh it depends on lots of things including geographic location, financial status, and honestly family size. I usually give $100 regardless if I go alone or with the FI. My sister gives $50 for her family of four, but that is all she can afford to give. When I was 18-21 I gave $20 because I was a broke college student.
My friend just told me when she got married, all her New York friends cut checks for $500-$800, since that is apparently what people from New York do. She invited 5 of her NY friends and they gave 15% of the cash gifts. I was shocked to find that out, but apparently that is just the culture.
I would probably give $150 if we had kids and they attended.
We give $100, whether we attend or not. If they are very close friends, we might give more like $150.
I'm currently a broker than broke college student and give about $40.
Typically - if I go alone $50, as a couple $100. If it's someone we are very close with probably closer to $100 each?? I understand you should be happy with any gift you receive but there are certain monetary gifts that are a little shocking to say the least.
Usually between $150 and $200 if we both attend, $100 if it is just one of us. We are doing well now. Travel costs and budget can be significant, though, in choosing a gift.
Around $100 but more if I'm very close with the couple. I prefer to buy off the registry and don't do cash/checks unless the registry has been picked clean already.
Maybe I'm off-base here, but I should think people give what they can afford. If they can afford a $25 gift, I totally honor that. Why should someone add to their debt to get a "nice" gift. Everyone's idea of a suitabley priced gift is different as we can see by the poll. I've also heard that some people think that you should give a gift of equal value as to the cost of your "plate." That is just plain crazy! Is the value of friendship and good wishes tied to the dollar value of the gift? I think not.
When my FI and I are invited to a wedding, we typically spend around $100 as a couple (so about $50 a person) on a gift. Obviously this varies slightly depending on how close we are to the couple, other financial factors at the time, the availability of gifts on their registry at different prices, etc so I'd give it a range of $75-$125 from FI and I.
We give $200 and will give $300 if we are really close with the couple and $500 if it's a sibling. Things are really expensie in Boston so that may be why people tend to give a little more. For a shower I tend to give a give between $50-$100 and I just had my shower and that is what the majority of the people gave.
one of the nicest gifts we got was $30 cash. When I say nicest I know that the family (of 4!) really wanted to be there to celebrate with us and that it was not easy for them to do so. I was so gratefull because I know that $30 was a lot for them, and I'm glad they made it to the wedding!
I totally agree that people should give what they afford. Typically I give $50.00 if we aren't able to attend, $100 if one of us goes alone, and $150 if we both go.
We give 150 - 200 typically. If one of us is in the wedding or especially close to the couple we'll do 300
My FI and I are relatively young and he is a grad student (on a stipend!), so we've never been able to give very much (about $50 in gifts from us together). The amount we can give is absolutely based upon how far we have to travel and what that costs us. We went to a wedding of one of his cousin's about a year ago which involved a car rental + 6 hour drive each way + several nights in a hotel + a new dress for me, etc etc, so sadly, they got very little from us. When we're spending a cool $1K on just getting ourselves to the wedding, it's hard to part with anymore cash! When we went to his brother's wedding less than a year ago, involving about 2 hours of driving and (mostly) staying with family, we were able (and wanted) to give much more.
But I must say that after going through through the wedding planning process, I will be more diligent about trying to give more. And, in theory, once we're older, wiser, and making more money, we'll be able to give more as well. But our current grad school (or slightly out of grad school) budgets just don't allow for much (though I do feel horribly guilty sometimes!).
I'm broke and in college and my fiance is struggling with his business, so we usually give about $50 for the two of us :-/
When my best friend got married a few years ago, though, I think I spent about $150 on stuff from her honeymoon registry. That's because a) she's my best friend, b) I was making more money at the time, and c) I was overseas in Iraq and couldn't make it to the wedding, so I was super excited to be able to do *something* for her.
Normally, though, I can't give as much, and I do feel pretty bad about it when I'm giving such a small gift. Especially now that I am planning my own wedding and I know how much it all costs.
We have never been to a wedding separately, so we give $100 for the two of us. We've also never declined an invitation yet! For the shower, I typically give something $30-50 depending on how well I know the person. For siblings, I have given $250 and been in both bridal parties, so I thought it was a very generous gift.
I agree it is completely situational.
With that said, we have received several $100 checks from guests that cannot attend our wedding.
it would be in the 100 euro range which i suppose is a bit more than 100 dollars. but for a black tie wedding it would be more as you would take into account the cost of them paying for your meals at least
I don't think you are greedy or selfish for thinking this as I've recently been having the same exact thought. I've found so far that people spend as little $ as possible on wedding gifts, we've been totally blown away in a bad way. People who SHOULD have come to our wedding have RSVP'd no and not sent a gift. Gifts we've received from very well off people have been in the $30 range and since the wedding hsn't happened yet we've received almost no cash.
I usually give btwn $100-$150 for the two of us, probably closer to $200 if we're really good friends with the couple...
It would totally depend on who was getting married and how close we are to them. it would also depend on how much we have to spend in order to get to their wedding. Friends of ours got married back in march in Colombia and it cost us over $3000 to go to their wedding. We still have not gotten them a gift because we are paying for things for our own wedding. We probably wont spend more than $100 on them though. Maybe when we get older we will spend more on gifts, but for now we cant!
It depends on how close we are to the couple. For close family and friends (as in, I'd probably be involved with the wedding), I would give $100-$150 per person. For a family member that we see occasionally, closer to $50 person. For someone we don't know well, and we're clueless why we even got invited, probably a set amount of $50-$75 total.
At our wedding, we noticed that the cash gifts were very regional. For example, my side of the family/friends were extrememly generous (at least $100 per person), and my husband's side, not so much. The most we got from a single person was $50, and we even got some $50 checks from families of four. Of course, we were both incredibly grateful, but yeah, a bit disappointed. These were like, aunts and uncles we see quite often, not distant relatives. My husband comes from a very small town where people generally have lower incomes. But, that said, very few people in his family are hurting for money. In fact, many of them are well-to-do, so the only thing we could conclude was that it's just the standard in their general region.
We generally give $125 - $150 per person. I think the norm really depends on geography. Most of the guest from my side gave about this much or more and most of the guests on my husband's side (who is from a different region of the country) gave significantly less.
I think it really depends on how formal the affair is, and what kind of gifts that you are looking into. If they are on the expensive end, then it is common for people to combine and go in together on some gifts. I think anywhere from about 40 and up is good, so I went with the middle range. And honestly, even though you might be paying for an extravagant affair, it really depends on what people can afford. I say any wedding gift is a blessing in its own right, and will be extremely helpful.
There are a lot of factors that play a part (especially closeness to the couple), but we usually give a gift worth $100-$125.
I usually do $75-100 per person. I'm still in school, so I'm definitely limited to that. I know my parents give around $100-150 for each of them.
I always give a gift from the registry. Where I live, giving cash is really not done. I would choose a gift ranging from $40 to $125 depending on the situation. On my registry, I have many $5 and $10 items so everyone who wants to give a gift feels comfortable doing so.
Honestly, it really bothers me to hear someone ever complain that a gift was not enough.
I think that my answer is going to change now that I am out of school and have a job... but I've only been to one wedding since I've really been "out." My standard used to be $50 whether I was attending alone or not. Now I think it'll be a bit dependent on who it is and how far I have to travel. For example, my FI and I are probably going to VA for my cousin's wedding, and I'll probably give $50. We're driving 7 hours and paying for a hotel, so I feel like we're already spending a lot of money. However if they were getting married here I'd prob do $100. Also, if it was a really good friend of mine I'd probably do more, like maybe $200ish.
It depends on the couple. Money is pretty tight right now, so I'm usually in the $50 range.
i think it is regional. i live in nyc, and cash is always given--NEVER gifts...especially if the couple already lives together. My FI and I have been to lots of weddings..we give at least 200--if not more...we always looked at it as "covering our plates"
I grew up in NorCal and am now getting married here and it seems the average for a couple is about $100. But my friend who got married in NY says their most common cash gift amount was $500 by almost everyone.
It depends on the person getting married, but usually I give about $30 for a shower gift and $70 for a wedding gift if I attend. Maybe I will spend more once we have more money.
In my culture (Portuguese) we always give cash instead of gifts and its normally $100-$150 per person depending on how close I am to them regardless if I attend the wedding reception or not.
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