- 3 years ago
I have a question an wondered what peoples opinions and experiences are. My FI and I are both 50/50 in terms on involvement in planning our wedding. He wants to be involved in coming up with ideas and making decisions and very much classes it as OUR day. I am totally on board with this and love the ideas and involvement he is offering.
He spoke to his mum who finally broke the silence having not spoken to him the phone call telling her we were engaged and this was only prompted as I sent her a copy of engagement photos and a letter in the post. She is a bit hit and miss phonecall and contact wise and they don’t always have a fab relationship. Anyway she rang an wanted to know all the low down on wedding plans and ideas as she wants to be involved. He gave her an overview of the ideas we have had and decisions made already which is not much as it is a long engagment, although we have had ideas since before we got engaged and talked about things a lot with one another.
She started jabbering away to him about how I should not be telling him the colour of the bridesmaids dresses or anything like that, or decisions I have made for the bridesmaids bouquets or my bridal entrance song etc. The Bridal song he suggested and it is perfect. The bridesmaids dresses are being matched to our colour theme so to be honest it seems a fairly obvious decision to me.
What have other bees done? have you told your FI that sort of information? Is there anything in theory I shouldn’t tell him apart from about my dress and shoes?
If this just a case of a FMIL in a tizz because she feels left out or am I breaking some unknown wedding etiquette?
- This topic was modified 3 years, 4 months ago by Tardisblue.