How much does your HusbandFiance Make? STHW?

posted 3 years ago in Career
  • poll: How much does your Darling H make after Taxes?
    Less : (32 votes)
    6 %
    20,000 -25,000 : (36 votes)
    6 %
    25,000-30,000 : (31 votes)
    6 %
    30,000-40,000 : (72 votes)
    13 %
    40,000-50,000 : (78 votes)
    14 %
    50,000 - 60,000 : (70 votes)
    13 %
    60,000 - 70,000 : (71 votes)
    13 %
    80,000 - 90,000 : (40 votes)
    7 %
    90,000 - 100 000 : (40 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I feel that, unless I had children, I would not be a stay at home wife for any amount of $. I would need to work at least halftime (so I don’t lose my mind, feel like I’m contributing towards our goals, etc)

    Post # 4
    Member
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I currently support myself working part-time and I doubt I could ever be a stay at home wife. When I’m not working I do volunteer and have interests and outside of work but I’ll always feel the need to earn money.  I’ve learned over the years that the rug can quickly be pulled out from under you and without something to immediately fall back on, it can be a disaster. 

    He would have to be very wealthy for me to not earn money again. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    600 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I always joke that once we get married Ill be a stay at home mom with no kids lol. But in reality I will work until/if we have kids.

    Post # 6
    Member
    13021 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We make the same, and there’s no amount of income he could make for me to be a SAHW.  The only way that would happen would be if he arleady HAD enough money to retire and just worked for fun

    Post # 7
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    1788 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I could never be a stay at home wife. I would lose my damn mind. I would sooner work somewhere for free than not at all. 

    ETA: The point at which I would be comfortable not contributing to our joint finances would probably be somewhere around $120K, but we don’t want any children. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    6510 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would never want to be a stay at home wife. Stay at home mom (well actually part time career) maybe. But I don’t understand what a stay at home wife does all day…

    Post # 9
    Member
    4601 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Right now, FH makes less than $20,000 a year. Soon we’ll both be bringing in around $80K between the both of us.

    I don’t think I could be a SAHW even if we both made a lot of money. I enjoy a few days of just lounging around the house, but I have to be doing something. I’ve been offered a job in a lab after graduation and that’s something I love. I also like to volunteer, so being a SAHW isn’t something I think I’d want for myself.

     

    Post # 10
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    3097 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    I am a sahw currently he makes enough that we don’t need to worry but id like to look for a job soon, would help us save faster and wed be able to splurge more. But we currently live in an apt with two dogs and he works long hours, I wouldn’t want my doggies to be in a kennel all day. Maybe when we get a house I would be able to work part time.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1233 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    The only way I would be a SAHW was if I was completely unable to work. I about went stir crazy when I took off a week to recover after shoulder surgery. I work as a territory sales manager so I would really miss all of the interaction. 

    Post # 12
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    4411 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I am a stay at home wife. I honestly think we could get by on whatever my husband made, even if he made less than he’s making now, because we’d just adjust our budget to whatever income he had. Of course, it helps that our house and cars are paid for, so we don’t have to worry about those expenses. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would never consider being a SAHW/SAHM no matter how much $ my DH makes.

    Post # 14
    Member
    9092 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I don’t think I’d be a stay at home wife, no matter how much money he made.  I’d always work at least part time even when we have kids, unless we just won the lottery and were BOTH able to stop working and gallavant around the world together or something.

    Post # 15
    Member
    4474 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Right now my husband makes nothing. He’s working on his graphic design portfolio and is going to be getting an internship. I’m happy to support him building his career right now. I would definitely consider being a SAHW, and while I want to say that it would be AWESOME to devote my time to being a wife and all my hobbies (of which I would have to develop lol), I love what I do and since I started working I am so ambitious and have a great work ethic. It’s even made me reconsider the idea that I want to be a SAHM. Of course, I don’t have kids yet, and I’ll probably have to work once I do just to make ends meet, but maybe I can do part time.

    I don’t know what level of income at this point I would feel comfortable not working at anymore. Right now we get by on very little but we are definitely struggling. I want to say maybe $70k and above since that would mean that we are somewhat comfortable. I’m figuring that number because my salary plus a potential future salary for my husband (a larger one) would equal $70k. If we had kids and I really wanted to be a SAHM I’m sure we could figure out how to do that on less than $70k, but we would have to budget a lot if it was $50k or less. 

    Post # 16
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    1840 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    He knows I like to work. I’d do anything for the kids when we have them, but I’m not staying home.

    FWIW, we make about the same amount of money.

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