Post # 1
I was reading that we tend to marry people who remind of us our opposite-gendered parent, and sometimes the same-gendered parent because it’s what we’re used to and it makes us comfortable. It’s supposedly a big factor of why we sometimes say “I feel like I’ve known you all my life”
When I think about it, Fiance does remind me of my dad in a lot of ways. They don’t look alike but they both wear glasses and when Fiance grows his hair out, he combs it like my dad. And they’re both caring, protective, practical, and homebodies in much the same ways – they give out the same kind of advice, look out for the same things, etc. They’re different people overall but they give me the same sense of security.
I’m nothing like his outgoing, adventurous mother, but when Fiance was growing up, he spent most of his time with his grandparents, not his mom and dad, and I’m similar to his grandmother – we’re soft spoken, we read a lot, we’re hard workers, and so forth.
I may be grabbing at straws but it does seem kind of cool to entertain the idea. And my Fiance has said “I feel like I’ve already known you in a previous life.”
Post # 3
My father was never in my life so the only person I can compare him to is my grandfather. That being said, Fiance definitely has similiarities compared to him. They are both laid back. Enjoy their baseball team (the Phillies). Love to relax in their recliners. Just small, small things. I love it though. My grandfather is an awesome man.
The only way I am like his mother is that we’re both worry-warts/anxious. Other than that, there’s nothing similiar.
Post # 4
My dad and Darling Husband are both extremely hard workers. They are solid providers, give great advice and love their ladies with all their heart. Darling Husband has alot of the same good qualities as my dad, and I was lucky enough to grow up with a great father figure in my life that taught me what a good man is like.
Post # 5
My SO doesn’t look anything like my dad, and in a lot of ways, they are totally different. However, he does have my dad’s sensitivity and caring for others.
Post # 6
So much like my dad it scares me sometimes.
Post # 7
Darling Husband is NOTHING like my dad.
My dad is a man’s man, outdoors, camping, fishing, etc. He loves golf. He’s also very hot-tempered, kind of racist and also kind of an a-hole. He is high strung and can freak out at any second.
Darling Husband is laid back and nerdy. He likes to be inside on his computer and doesn’t really get worked up about things very often. He does have a temper (doesn’t everyone?) but he knows how to control it, where my dad does not.
Post # 8
@zippylef: I think that sometimes, we’re attracted to the things that are opposite of our parents if we have had a negative experience with them. My cousin has an asshole for a dad, and her SO is totally opposite…
Post # 9
Fiance isn’t anything like my dad. The complete opposite, actually. I don’t really have contact with my dad because he is an alcoholic and somewhat of a rebel. Fiance is kind of a “goody-goody” type, very relaxed, patient, and kind. I actually see a lot of characteristics in Fiance that I see in my mom 🙂
Post # 10
My Darling Husband is very similar to my father. Not physically at all, but he is a very hard worker, has old fashioned values and is very conservative. Sometimes he even says things I’ve heard my dad say. Likewise, Darling Husband says I remind him of his mother sometimes (although we are very different too) and the other night at dinner as she was telling stories I kept thinking “Yep, that’s what I would’ve done too.”
Post # 11
For me this was soooo TRUE!
I’m always telling my Fi that I’m marrying my parents. He is a weird mix of the best of my mom and dad, he is so much like my dad sometimes that its scary. He does or says things that I heard my Dad said before but he hasn’t. I have a great relationship with my dad, so it’s great to get to keep a piece of him with me at all times!
Post # 12
Not mine but he has a lot of his dad’s personality in that he is very honest & respectful. He has a deep sense of family & will never say “no” when someone needs his help. He has a set of morals ingrained in him that is just truly unbelievable & is one of the reasons I fell in love with him. He is just a very good person. 🙂
Post # 13
I can see some validity to that. I swear Mr. Hedgie and my father are slowly becoming the same person.
Post # 14
I’ve never known my father, so I can’t really answer this question. However, he reminds me of HIS father sometimes and it’s weird as hell. Haha.
Post # 16
My hubby isn’t much like my Dad. I think the only thing they have in common is their love for boating and collecting trash around the house. lol