(Closed) How much donations do Catholic Churches expect for weddings?

posted 5 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
2971 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

it really depends on the church. my church charged $400 (or $450?) and that’s not including the donation for the priest or the cost of the pre-marital counseling and such.

edit- we were also required to use our parish’s musician, which was another $200

Post # 4
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My chuch is asking for a $300 or $350 donation, I cant remember which one, plus the $250 we had to pay for our pre cana classes – which all together I didnt think was that bad.

I asked our priest if he wanted to donation when we booked or later and he said not to worry about it and give it to him on the day of our rehearsal.

Post # 5
3258 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Find the Church and ask.  Ours gave us a little info sheet with what they expect for:

doation to the parish

fee for the celebrant

paying the parking attendant

gratuities for the altar server(s)


It all comes out at around $600 at the church we’ve chosen in downtown Vancouver.

Post # 6
8696 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MrsReal:  you have to call the Church to find out. They are all different. Here in NJ some are only a few hundred and others are a few THOUSAND.

Post # 7
149 posts
Blushing bee

My church is asking for $300.  Plus a separate payment for the cantor and organist.

Post # 8
8473 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Too much!!

Post # 9
476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Our church was free, since we were members, but we spend about $900 paying the organist, soloist, “gratuity” to the priest, altar servers, etc. Churches here want $500-$2000 if you aren’t a member. The cathedral downtown wanted $2500 for the church itself just for Mass, not including the things listed above, and this is in Alabama!




Ask the church!




Post # 10
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011


You shouldn’t decide to get married in a Catholic Church based on how much it costs!!!!!

Getting married in a Catholic Church is a HUGE deal. If one of you is Catholic, and you do NOT get married in a Catholic Church, then the Church does not consider your marriage valid and you will be considered “living in sin” and should not receive any of the Sacraments like Communion. But on the other hand, if one or both of you are Catholic and you do not care about that, or do not practice your faith, then it is rather sacriligious to get married in the Church -you are making vows (like you will raise your children Catholic) that it wouldn’t seem like you would be interested in or capable of keeping. That is a terrible way to start your marriage off- with a lie!

Sounds like you and your Fiance need to have a serious talk about WHY you would or wouldn’t want to get married in a Catholic Church, and what role the Church will take in your future life.

I’m surprised that no one has pointed it out yet, but I actually find it quite offensive that you are taking the decision to get married in a Catholic Church so lightly – as if it’s just another one of your “vendors” or simply a location to get married. It is SO MUCH MORE than that. 

Post # 11
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

For us it was free but we paid $150 for the coordinator and $150 for the music director.  We also “tipped” the deacon $300 after the ceremony.  He brought up the tip several times during our premarital counseling sessions…awkward…

Post # 12
7992 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@MrsReal:  Begging your pardon, but I am also a bit curious as to why you want to marry in a church when it seems like you could have gone either way with regards to your ceremony. Why was marrying in a church so important  to you? Because I know it’s not just about the money, right? There are lots of pros and cons for each, correct?

Post # 13
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Our church is getting $650 from us, plus we are responsible for paying the organist and vocalist – I think it should be whatver I want to donate to my church, but we want to be married in the Catholic church so we’re just paying up.

Post # 14
999 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ours is technically free because we are members. A donation is encouraged. We plan on donating about $200. My mom actually is the bookkeeper there and says that is a normal donation. We would have to pay the organist if we were using him but hopefully we will be able to use our own musicians instead. I find that out when I meet with them soon. We will also have to pay for premarital counseling but I don’t know how expensive that will be yet. Adding it all up it does seem a little pricey but getting married in the Church is extremely important to us – we wouldn’t have it any other way.

Post # 15
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Our church gave us a letter with the breakdown of the fees.  The cantor was about $350 and the use of the church was $250.  We also gave a $175 honorarium to the priest; and, gave $10 to the altar server. 

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