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Okay so almost everyone I know have their bridesmaids pay for their own dresses. I found a dress that was alright and was only 99$ at david's bridal but last night i came across a dessy dress that i love and we can have both of my wedding colors in the dress (eggpland and very light yellow) because there is a sash. Well this dress is 215$ but i was offered a 10% discount if we purchase 5, which is how many bridesmaids i have. So should i pay for the dress as their gift or should i pay half? HELP ME!?!?!
My girl's dresses are from Priscilla of Boston and are $200. I am paying for 2 out of the 6,
The only reason I'm paying is mine is a destination wedding. So after my cousin decided last minute that she wasn't going to be able to do the wedding I asked a guest to stand in and offerred to pay for her dress. The other one is my future Sis in law. She has 3 daughters and things are tight so I offered to help.
i think it depends on your bridesmaids and your budget. if they can afford that, than that would be fine. if you can afford to buy it for them as a gift, awesome. personally, i couldn't afford that as a bridesmaid and i think it would be nice if you paid half. cute dress btw!
My dresses started at $265 but with discounts ended up at about $215/dress. We are paying for $25 plus the $25 shipping for each dress. I based what I decided was a "reasonable" cost for the dress on what I'd paid for dresses in all of my other friends' weddings, and they were all in that neighborhood. I think you just have to know your audience and figure out what they would be comfortable with. Another thought is that if you know there are one or two girls who might have a hard time paying that much, you could offer to discreetly subsidize part of the cost of their dresses.
hmmm ours cost $50.00 each and I paid, the girls absolutely love them and they are a really nice red silk. Im all about finding the bargain! I wanted to buy off the rack and I found a clearance store specialising in dresses and we found about 7 dresses for the girls to try on.. this one came up trumps and if we didnt chose it the girls were going to buy it anyway! I had orginally budgeted for up to $200 dollars per dress and I have 3 girls to dress.
I'm hoping that my BM will be able to purchase their own dresses. I'm going to try to find the most economical dresses for them; maybe $100-125
I gave myself a limit of $200, which seemed reasonable from other dresses I've had to buy. Anything over $200 I was going to pay for myself... luckily I was able to find something below that limit. I'd find out what your BMs think is reasonable and pay the difference - certainly not all of it!
I knew I wasn't going to be paying for my bm's dresses. As a result before I began looking I asked them what they were comfortable paying - they all had the same answer, no more than $250. I found great dresses by Swoon . The dresses all come with a sash that is extra, I am paying for their sashes ($22-$28 each...)
I found Watters bridesmaid gown for my girls but they were $235. The bridal shop said they would give me a 10% discount. I ended up ordering them for $156 from Netbride.com They have real designer dresses and not knock offs. It might be worth checking out, they carry almost every designer. And no I am not paying for my girls dresses.
my girls picked out their own and used their own price range, or wore things they owned. If I had done the matchy thing, I would have chosen a dress 115 and under. Probably something more from Nordstroms online in the 40-75 range. I don't look anywhere more expensive than I expect to pay, that helps a lot when figuring out options w/in the budget.
We wanted to pay for our bridal party outfits, so we bought the bridesmaid's dresses. We ended up spending $30 for two of them, $40 for one, $50 for one and $80 for the maid of honor. I spent months scouring stores and eBay until I found the perfect dress for each girl. And they all genuinely love them!
My BMs are paying for theirs. We started the process by choosing the color (black), then rummaging in their own closets to see if they could use anything they already owned. Afterwards, my MOH & I went pre-shopping & found the PERFECT dress; I went with my other BM to see if she liked it, too. Both bought their dresses on the spot! The dress cost $158 + tax...I think their willingness to buy stemmed (A LOT) from the fact that they got a say in the color choice & that the dress is something they BOTH think they'll wear again & again (everyone needs a LBD, right? 
) Here it is: (me on the left, BM on the right...it matches my dress like a glove, no?)
thanks so much guys!!! I am thinking about offering to pay 50$ of each of my BM's dresses as part of their gift. My mom makes homemade jewelry so she'll be making them each a necklace and earings and not asking me for money, how awesome of her (all the same stones but different for their tastes) and i am going to have a pedicure night at a local nail salon where it's just us and i pay for the pedicures, so i will be spending about 100$ on each girl, which is all that i will be able to afford, would you guys be happy if you were one of my BM's?
My BMs are all wearing different dresses, so the prices vary a little, but they've been in the range of $99-$135. I'm paying for two of the four because they'll have to pay for plane tickets to get to my wedding. One of the ones I'm not paying for is actually doing double-duty for that BM: her sister said she could wear the same dress for her wedding, so yay!
MY BMs also wore different dresses, so they ranged from $99 to $250. They paid for their own dresses, so they picked their own dress based on their taste and budget.
Have you tried www.netbride.com? They sell Dessy dresses at prices that might be cheaper than the discount you are getting.
My Bridesmaids are paying for their own dresses but they were only $54 from Nordstroms. I decided I wanted to keep it under $100 and find something that they all liked and would wear again - they love them:
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Okay, thought my first post disappeared & reposted, but have deleted the extra posting...sorry.
Ours were 165, but I put $15 down on each dress and they gave an additional ~15% off. so They ended up paying $135/ea
My girls are paying for their own dresses and I am buying their brooches and jewelry.
Ms. Pascua! Your bridesmaids dresses and your dress matches sooo well!!!
My bridesmaids dresses were 295. I just feel like if you agree to be in a wedding you accept the financial burdens that come along with it. That is just my personal opinion. No one complained and while they are not dresses that I think they will wear again they are gorgeous.
Melissa Sweet 117
O and I am spending about 300/each on the gifts etc, so I feel like it evens out
this is the dress and my FMIL (the dresses will be in a light peachy pink though)
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Mine were $75 and my bridesmaids paid. J Crew final sale, baby! Luckily they all fit...
i'm paying for $50 for each of the girls dresses. we all loved the dress, but i felt bad that it was $180. this just made me feel better about things.
My BM's are paying for their's with the execption of one of mine who is flying in from Texas. We made an agreement. She pays for all the other costs assoiciated with lodging, rental car etc and I pay for the dress. She is mother of 3 and I really wanted her to attend. Besides our dresses for them are only 79.99. My MOH has other embellishments added to her bouquet not her dress.
We are making mine. It's going to be a modified Vogue pattern. This one:
We are going to make the top into a convertible dress so that they can both wear it whatever way they want. We are also making red crinolines to go underneath and some fabric flower brooches for my BM b/c she wants one. With the patterns and the fabric, they are costing about $50.
By convertible dress, I mean like this:
The dress I'm leaning towards right now is about $425--I know, I know insane! I would never expect my BM's to pay for it all. I have 2 girls in the wedding. My maid of honor who is my sister and said to pick a dress no matter the cost and my bridesmaid is my cousin. I am planning on paying for most of it. They will only pay $150 max which tends to be the norm for all the family weddings we've been in. I just need to order the dress in rose because the original champagne we ordered needed to be returned because it looked more like ivory.
My sister and I are going to look at some other dresses this weekend, we'll see if we find anything that I like more than the beautiful Sue Wong dress.
My BMs are paying for their own, so I wanted to keep them as affordable as possible. I found this one for $82 on sale at Nordstrom, so we jumped on them. The dress is super cute, and definitely re-wearable. Win win situation! :)
I asked my bridesmaids right off the bat what they would be comfortable spending, and they all said not over $200. I agreed to try to find a dress for less, and that I would pay for anything over 200 if I found and fell in love with something more expensive. I think it really depends on what's in your budget, and what your bridesmaids are comfortable spending.
I ended up going with this Alfred Sung dress that was priced anywhere between 179-215 depending on the store, so I would definitely say shop around. I ended up purchasing them from Netbride for $130 including taxes and delivery, but I haven't received them yet to recommend that for sure... Will definitely post about that once they come in!
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I bought my BM dresses at J-crew with the 20% off sale they had, so it was discounted to $120/dress. reasonably priced and looks normal, can wear again for sure!
I paid for their dress because I didn't think it was right to force someone to buy a $100 dress when they didnt' even choose it or may not be their style.
update!!!! So i have showed my dress to all of my bridesmaids but 1 and they love it, they also said that they thought the price was reasonable, yay! So maybe i'll suprise them by giving them 50$ each towards it and making it even more appealing.
@socialbride: Thanks! I know, right? It's amazing that they're not even made by the same company/designer! I think yours are so elegant...and they could totally wear them again! Pale pink is such a universally flattering color.
My BMs paid for their own. They came out $130 and it's wearable afterwards.
FYI - @nicole (the OP) - i looked at that dress, if you want cheaper prices, order them from the authorized online dealers like netbride.com or perfectbridal.com - im ordering mine from them (also dessy) and saving about $50!
My BM dresses were $200 dollars they are paying for them by themselves because they chose that dress.. I gave them the option to chose any dress as long as it matched my wedding and they found it fro 200.. So i guess they dont mind paying for it :)
I paid for my MOH, but the other two ladies could afford theirs. Plus, I purposely found some on super sale for $77 each... It is up to you and your situation, but I would probably at least pay $100 on each...
I paid for my bridesmaid dresses (all seven of them) and shoes! The dresses were on sale and are totally reusable. Most of my bridesmaids are flying in from out of town and the local ones are throwing all the pre-wedding parties. So with all their added expenses, I figured I should pay for them. So I did! :)
instead of paying for the dress...i gave my girls each a visa gift card with $ on it that they could use to cover the wedding expenses...it covered more than 50% of the dress
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