Post # 1
My BF has asked me this past weekend to email him with the rings I like and information on what features I would and wouldn’t want in a ring. He has since reminded me about it twice! Well, I’m working on compiling a document with pictures of features I do and don’t like as well as links to particular rings. It’s so much fun looking at rings for real rather than for fun, but I don’t want to go overboard!
For those of you bees who aren’t/didn’t choose out the ring yourself but gave your SOs pictures and whatnot, I’m curious how much help you gave them. How many rings did you show him? Did you give him the full rundown on which stone cuts, metals, prong and shank styles, etc that you liked?
Post # 3
I went with him to the store and as I tried things on told him if I liked them or not. I ended up picking mine out :). So I gave him a lot of help.
ETA: Sorry, I meant to start by saying that I initially sent him pictures of stuff I liked when he asked, but that made him nervous so we ended up going and looking at physical rings together. I think surprises are so cute! But I don’t regret it.
Post # 4
Well, from the other side of things, I asked my SO what he liked, and then found a bunch of rings and stuff, and asked him to rank them, so I could figure out what he liked from what I also liked… so he has an idea of what it is, but there’s at least 4 rings that I could be picking. I, of course, have already chosen the intended design, but it’s really difficult to even find the rings at all!
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2014 - The Celebration Farm
I mentioned one time that I didn’t like diamond rings and preferred yellow sapphires. He listened well! Our engagement was a complete surprise complete with a yellow sapphire ring. I’m glad it was a surprise. I think I would overthink the options if I actually had to decide on my own lol.
Post # 6
I picked mine out. Men usually have no idea what they are doing.
Post # 7
We picked mine out together!
Post # 8
FI and I did go and choose my ring together. I asked him very recently what he would have gotten me if left to his own devices. He would have gotten me a solitaire canary diamond. I love colored stones, especially canary diamonds. I’m sure I would have loved it had he gone that route, but we are both really glad we chose together. He’d have done a beautiful job, but he really wanted me to choose because I would be the one wearing it forever.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar
@qwerty2k1: I just sent him two pics…with the stone shape…and my size. I honestly can’t wait to see the ring!!!
Post # 10
Haha, the document I’ve got now has 9 rings in addition to my list of features I do and don’t like. I wonder if I should cut that down some!
Post # 11
I picked three settings that I liked and he picked the one he liked best of those three. We used a center stone I inherited from my grandmother so short of “stealing” the heirloom ring (which I would have noticed), there wasn’t any way he could have not involved me in the process. I got a ring I loved, he still got to pick it and surprise me with it when he proposed. (His wallet also got a big reprieve since he didn’t have to buy a center diamond) Best of both worlds.
Post # 12
My dads a jeweler so I had my ring picked before my SO! Haha
Post # 13
We went shopping together and picked my ring, I had an idea of what I wanted and SO was great on his opinion on what rings he thought looked the best, even happily stated the more expensive ring looked better so that is what I got. If I left it to him I think i would still be waiting 🙂
Post # 14
In summary, I found mine online, showed it to my SO and he said let’s order it
Post # 15
@qwerty2k1: I blatantly picked it out without his input, he asked if I was sure I wanted that one, I said yes, he handed me his debit card and I bought it.
Post # 16
We went back and forth for a little while about whether or not I should have any input. After he went shopping by himself for the first time he realized how many options there were and decided that he did want my input if I wanted to go shopping with him. He set it up so that the guy at the store knew what his price range was and I was only shown things that were in his price range, but I didn’t know what that was. It started as a “fact finding mission” he was going to get an idea about what shape / color / designs I liked and then he would pick out a ring on his own using those preferences. However, we both fell in love with a vintage looking setting that we saw nothing else like while shopping and he played it up like he was going to get something else but when he proposed it was with the ring that we both enjoyed the most when we went shopping together.