Post # 1
How much input did you have on your e-ring? Are you pleased with your e-ring and the process or do you wish things had gone differently?
My initial e-ring was chosen by FI and although it was lovely it was too big for my personal taste and also way too expensive. He spent his ENTIRE savings to purchase my first ring and I was not okay with that. I was happy that he loved me so much that he was willing to make such a sacrifice but I love him too much to allow him to do that knowing that we could use the money for so many other things as we start our lives together. We ultimately returned it and are currently going the custom route and getting our dream ring made. FI and I just talked about it and he said he thinks the process has been about 60% (me) 40% (him) on the design process. He’s fine with that and said that he’s glad that we’ll both be 100% happy with it at the end. I know our situation isn’t common though and I’m just wondering how this e-ring process went for other bees.
Post # 3
We had one, 2 sentence conversation about rings. DH said “I always thought you’d like something antique”. I replied “yes, I would”. That was it. The rest he did on his own. I didn’t even know he was looking for/had bought a ring until he proposed.
I got a 1920’s Art Deco ring, 1.15 carat, H color, transitional cut.
Post # 4
Total. My ring is simple, and it’s exactly how I wanted it. FI would have gotten me something beautiful, but not what I wanted. I did ask him if he liked it in the store.. He said he likes whatever makes me happy.
Post # 5
We went shopping together. I showed him a few that I really like and he had me try on a few that he really like. We narrowed our choices down to three different rings and then he chose from there. It worked perfectly for us!
Post # 6
I picked out my dream setting years ago. When we started talking engagement, I suggested FI take the images of my setting to a family friend of his that was a jeweller to discuss having it custom made. He did all of the work in terms of discussing it with the jeweller and picking the diamond. He did, however, come home and report certain details to me to ensure they got my approval. So probably 70% me and 30% him.
ETA: Forgot to include a picture!
Post # 7
You all have such beautiful rings, ladies!!!! I really believe bees have the best rings. I’ve seen more lovely rings here than anywhere IRL.
Post # 8
My SO and I chose it together. I originally wanted a pavè band and a round center diamond. With his budget, it would’ve been around 1.2 or 1.3 carats. My SO suggested that instead of a pavè band, I should consider a plain band for a solitaire look in order to put more money toward a bigger diamond, which was actually very tempting. I thought about it for a day and decided he was right. Plus, I really liked the idea that it was a mixture of both of our styles, since he really likes the timeless and classic look. Also, we ended up getting a 1.5 ct diamond. I am in love with the ring.
Here it is:
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
I told him yellow gold, three stone. He choose the prefect one on his own 😀
Post # 10
@dulcevida: I had no input. I had mentioned in passing that I love cushion cuts and he took that and ran with it. He did ask me non chalantly if i liked halos and i said i like them but i wouldnt want one.
I wanted to add that I was very happy with my ring. I was beyond surprised. I had no idea that I he was even shopping or planning a proposal. It was awesome. I never understood how women who shopped and designed their ring were surprised with a proposal. Bc you know a proposal is coming, you know what the ring looks like, whats the surprise?
Post # 11
The only info I gave FI was that I didn’t want a diamond. I wanted him to choose the ring on his own. He could not have done a better job!
Post # 12
@applecat: preeetyyyyyyyyy lol. I love colored gemstones so much. Currently trying to choose the stone for my e ring. Having a hard time. So many gorgeous loose stones out there!
Post # 13
I don’t have mine yet but we are working on it. I told him I wanted a colored gemstone, nit a diamond. I’ve been checking at the different stones and we sit together at the computer looking at colors, cut etc. He hates ovals so that’s a no go. Although he doesn’t mind if they are set in a halo. He likes very intense colors. He said last time that our favorite stone so far made him want ti lick it because it looks like candy. Crazy guy
Post # 14
The stone was dw’s grandmother’s, but I chose the new setting. I wanted a solutaire and customized it with heart details. She would have gotten me a halo/pave band for sure!
Post # 15
Absolutely ZERO! Although spending our lives together was never really in question, we had always spoken about how we were not the marrying types, so the engagement, and the ring, were a total shock. And I wouldn’t have it any other way!
After proposing (with ring), my FI informed me that we had scheduled an appointment for us at the jewlers for the following day, so that I could see if there was a setting that I preferred to the solataire he had chosen. Of course, having given this no thought, and having an hour during our appointment to decide whether I wanted to replace what he had chosen for something else (as it will be on my hand for the rest of my life!) it was intimidating and no fun at all. I didn’t know a cushion cut from a princess and 12 hours was certainly not enough time to do research! (As if I would even consider doing research in the giddy state I was in:))
I’ve been engaged for 2 weeks now, and I still go back-and-forth every single day on whether I should be looking for my dream ring or keep the one that he gave me….or if my ring truly IS my dream ring! Of course I have been looking at every single ring of everybody that I meet, and I do like it more than anything else that I have seen. But at the same time, everybody else’s rings look more complicated, designed and involved than mine, and I worry that mine may look chintzy as it’s so simple. But as it is a bit large and I LOVE the stone, I then wonder if it could even handle more diamonds (like a pave or a halo) without looking gaudy or distracting from the diamond. And then I decide that the solataire is classic and elegant, and I fall in love with it all over again. And then the cycle repeats.
Post # 16
I love so many styles but for an E-ring I wanted the a solitaire in yellow gold with yellow gold prongs (think tiffany/basic style).
When we went to look at diamonds for him to learn and this one was the only one in the shop with yellow gold prongs and I LOVED it! He learned about diamonds and went back 2-3 times before picking the one. I think it was 25% me 75% him…. I would have gone bigger stone in lower color (and told him I was liking the lower/warmer colors) but he liked the icy white of colorless so I got under a carat insted of over lol But I love the setting far more then I ever thought I could! It was a total fluke of a find but we both agreed it was “US”.