Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I’m just curious. I know that, for some brides, the shower and bach party are a total surprise, but for others, the brides are really involved.
I hope that my BM’s involve me because I don’t want a traditional shower OR bachelorette party. If they take me out dancing and try to make me wear a tiara or any kind of special “bridey” outfit, I’ll be very upset. If they take me to a dive bar with a good jukebox, or have a keg in someone’s backyard, it will be awesome.
Post # 3
I’m not very involved in the shower or bachelorette party. I just sort of know bits and pieces :] I kind of want to be involved, though. I want to know what’s going on/what we’re doing/where we’re going. I’m not a big fan of being embarrassed in front of a lot of people :]
Post # 4
I didn’t really have any input on either. For my bach party, my friends asked me what I DIDN’T want to do (male strippers and/or Lucky Cheng’s) and did I want to end up at my neighborhood bar at the the end of the night (not really, because I’m there too much as it is)
Post # 5
I don;t think mine are going to be complete surprises because I think I will have some input on the general nature/scope of each. As in, my bridesmaids will know some ideas of what I’d like to do for the bachelorette party and some things that are definitely not okay (I’m pretty conservative). I may also give suggestions on the bridal shower, but am less concerned about that. 🙂
Post # 6
I really hate traditional showers so I made it clear at the beginning that I just want to invite everyone, male and female, to a bar and hang out. I haven’t done or said anything else since then. I felt a bit controlling even saying that but I knew if I didn’t say anything, I might end up in a room full of pink and white wine.
My Maid/Matron of Honor asked about the bachelorette party but I’m letting her go nuts with it. I trust her completely and I’m looking forward to being surprised.
Post # 7
Hmmm…apart from requesting when it could happen, not much else. I think my girls I keeping me in the dark ’cause I’m usually the “organizer” (I’m a TV producer, I can’t help it). But I’m looking foward to the surprises! It’s nice to just show up to something and have it taken care of!
Post # 8
i’m not good with secrets and surprises. i get the feeling that most of my bridal party (6 total) would like to keep a surprise, but my Maid/Matron of Honor knows better than to do that. 🙂 she’s called and discussed most details with me just to keep me in the loop.
Post # 9
This has actually been driving me crazy…my sister, who is my Maid/Matron of Honor is planning my bach. party, and has been badgering me with questions about location and prices and activities, etc. I don’t want to be involved! I want it to be a surprise. I told her the kind of party I’d like to have, and she has my other three bridemaids to conferr with. I really wish she’d stop asking me to make decisions on it.
Post # 10
I’ve had input on my bridal shower, colors, food, and invites and we’re planning a dual bachelor/ette party so we’ll be planning that ourselves.
Post # 11
I had a medium amount of input. I helped with the date, the location, and a general idea of activities: drink in the pool by day, nice-ish dinner one night, club one night. I requested not to have to wear white…they are doing the rest. They even had a secret Bridesmaid or Best Man meeting without me : ) After the evite was sent out my sister actually told me I was done helping which was nice.
My younger sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and I already planned/helped plan her bachelorette and one of my other BMs so its fun that they are excited about doing mine. I’m not used to my sister making decision or planning things so it’s kinda cool!
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
i wound up having a pretty input into both of mine and I loved them!
Post # 13
I knew when my shower was and picked out my cake, but other than that my only involvement was to show up. For my bachalorette party I know who’s planning it and have an idea where we are going but do not know any details.
Post # 14
I don’t know yet – but am really hoping for some input. My Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister, who has a totally different idea of ‘fun’ than I do… Some BMs have already told me they’re having to try and lead her in different directions – eek!
Post # 15
i wasn’t involved at all with any of them, but i knew i didn’t have to worry b/c my sister and sil threw them and they know me. they know i’m not a traditional bachelorette party kind of girl and don’t drink, so they took me on a surprise weekend to vermont and planned everything- food tour, ben and jerry’s, cabbot cheese (yes, we did a lot of eating!), apple picking, a play, etc. for my shower they also know i hate shower games so they had a nice brunch with no games.
Post # 16
I’ve had some input in both. My input in my bachelorette was “I want it to be like the Hangover. I want to be so trashed I can’t remember my name.” lol. I never get drunk, so I feel like I should go nuts for this special occasion. My bridal shower, I helped with the theme and am going to help my girls by baking and helping them with the food so they can save some $$.