(Closed) How much instruction did you give him on the ring?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

oh, we spent a few hours online (his idea) looking at styles, and I showed him what I liked. Good thing too, because he totally mis-guessed me!

In the end though, I told him, “You know Janey? [a married friend of ours] She has really similar style to me. Take her with you when you go ring shopping. She’ll help.”

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh, I picked that sucker out! LOL. Seriously, we went and looked together. FI was SO overwhlemed by the process and had no idea what was more important to me – carat or clarity (clarity!), color or carat (color!) and so he was relieved I didn’t want to be surprised. It is so much money to spend, it is important to get it right. He was able to focus on the details of the proposal – which ended up being a total surprise – and I picked out the details of the ring with him. Looking back I wouldn’t change a thing.

I think you should at least look with him so he can get an idea of what you like. You may not even know exactly what you want until you try things on. I’d also talk to him about it and see what he has always envisioned. He may want it to be a surprise, so you may have to compromise a bit, but you can at least browse together. Enjoy this time! It is so much fun!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

“I don’t want a diamond.”

That’s all I told him. The rest was up to him, and he did great!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

i am still working this one out!!! M doesn’t want me to have input at all but i have wanted an aquamarine for sooo long well ever since that episode of platinum weddings were the girl had an aquamarine from vera wang.. sigh i loved that ring… he knows that i want it to have a halo setting with tiny diamonds and vintage appeal.  however that is soooooo many different rings and settings lol!!! and actually i don’t know how much he knows about the aquamarine i know he knows blue stone because i don’t want him to spend too much on it…

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I think it depends on how important the style of the ring is to you. Even though I trust his taste, I’m the planner in the relationship and an engagement ring takes a bit of planning/researching, etc., so we picked it out together. In fact, I was there when he bought and paid for it! This is a ring you will wear for the rest of your life, so you might as well get the one that you want : )

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My FI always knew I wanted a princess cut diamond… but he didn’t know much more than that!  I showed him options online and then we actually went to a jewerly store where I pointed out settings and stones I liked.  By the time he actually bought the ring, he was pretty well versed on color, clarity, etc. 

Like PomPom said, it’s a very expensive purchase, and it’s best to get it right!  After all, you are the one who will be wearing it forever 🙂 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@tvilase: i completely agree with you on the planning aspect! However M is such a manly man that he refuses to let me have any input, he says it’s totally his decision.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I knew I wanted a sapphire, no enhancement, no heat, GIA certified etc.  I told my FI what I liked, my concerns of quality and gave him a picture of a sapphire and diamond ring. Because we were both concerned with the quality of stone(s) we decided to look at two reputable small town jewelers.

He knew I would wear whatever he’d presented and wanted me to have what I wanted or close to it.  For him, it was more important that I liked my ring than surprising me.  I’m glad we discussed what I’d hoped for and even more pleased that we went together to look and try on rings.  I tried on different styles, cuts and stones (diamonds, gem-stones). I found the ring I liked most-I fell in love at first sight.

In the end he chose the sapphire himself, hand selected it and said it would‘ve been easier to have traveled to Madagascar and chosen the sapphire (joking).  He really did enjoy the process and says he enjoyed the  overall experience.  All said and done, he says the ring we selected is nothing like what he had imagined, he had a different style and design in mind.  Even with a picture, my FI had no idea what I wanted.     

 

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I thought I did. Turns out the day we went to look at some rings he had already bought the ring. Two weeks prior.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

not a word! I figured (unfairly I realize) that if he knew me, he would know what I would like.  And I didn’t have my heart set on anything.  But the rings I always saw that a I loved were super simple, and my favorites were platinum band, round diamond.  And that is exactly what he got me!  And somehow guessed – perfectly – my ring size from just looking at my hands!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

none!  he surprised me with the prettiest ring, too. =)

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Well I don’t know what I’m getting yet, but I did give some input. I told him that my top two things were 1) no heart shaped diamonds and 2) no 3-stone sets. Just personal preference. Then I told him that I prefer more unusual shapes like Cushion, Asscher, or Radiant, but if he’d rather go classic I like round better than princess. I also told him I prefer thinner bands to thicker bands. 

I wanted to go ring shopping together but he said no. I told him to please consider asking one particular friend for help because she knows me so well, and she’s told me that she helped him pick out a ring I’ll love. 

So, I guess I gave some guidelines but we did not talk at all about specifics, and I mainly trusted him to use my friend as a resource. Hopefully I’ll find out soon what he bought!!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

It happened all so suddenly. One minute we were driving around going to a jewelry store to get my finger fitted .. and the next thing I know we end up at my fathers jeweler to tighten my bracelet. All of a sudden “for fun” I asked to see this yellow canary cushion cut diamond and I was like …. OH MY GOD I LOVE CUSHION CUT. I DONT WANT ROUND. =) So than that was it …. I guess. I got a cushion cut. He designed it all himself though with his jeweler.

Oh and we were looking at bands (for fun again) and he showed me one with diamonds all around and one with just halfway … I liked the one with all around best!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Casa Real at Ruby Hill Winery

I made a power-point with pictures of rings I liked and distributed to my closest friends in case he asked them for help. My friend did the same thing (she gave me the idea), and her FI came to me to find out what she liked so it was perfect. In the end I don’t think FI consulted anyone because he knew what I wanted – round diamond solitaire. I had been pretty vocal. It took the surprise element out of it (seeing the ring, not the proposal) but I am very picky so I don’t know if I would have liked something else. Plus the size of the stone was his choice and I was pleasantly surprised to get my dream ring!

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