Post # 1
here in Australia the groomsmen are expected to pay their own way for a bucks night. My FI has to attend his brothers bucks next weekend and the best man has just emailed out the cost per person. They are going to the blue mountains for 2 nights (2 hour drive from where we live in Sydney) and staying in a house there.
FI has just paid for his suit ($570) and has just been told this bucks night is going to cost $620 (and it has to be paid now). This includes accommodation, food, alcohol & golf. FI is majorly struggling with money at the moment (we bought a house 6 months ago, went on a big overseas trip, he has an investment property to pay for and we are getting married next year, plus he only just finished his apprenticeship) so he is stressing out a bit over this… personally I think it’s a little much to ask of people, especially on such short notice. Do you think $1,200 is an excessive amount to ask people to pay for the suit and bucks night?
This topic was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by Candice1990.
Post # 2
I would say an average amount DH has paid in the past has been $150-$250. So, yes, it does seem like a lot to me.
Post # 3
Both expenses (the suit and the bachelor party) are crazy expensive. In my area, suit/tux rental ranges from $100-250 and suit purchase starts at $200+. Bachelor/bachelorette parties typically run $50-150 for a night out or $200-500 for a weekend away. You can sure as heck bet that a couple that requires a $500+ suit purchase is delusional if they think their friends should also drop $500+ on a weekend away.
Post # 4
thanks guys. FI and I were thinking $250 max so we were pretty shocked when he was asked for $620. As if the suit wasn’t bad enough. This was all organised by the best man who lives in Dubai and apparently has copious amounts of money to throw away. Just inconsiderate of others I think.
Post # 5
Candice1990: I think the suit price is reasonable, as he’ll likely wear it again and my FIs suits cost a lot more so something under a $1000 sounds like a great price! I also think that $620 is reasonable for 2 nights away..
HOWEVER, the cost of these two items together is a lot. Its especially a lot of money to fork over for someone elses wedding, perhaps I’m just lucky and haven’t been in any weddings that required a huge financial committment but this sounds very expensive.
Post # 6
That sounds like a lot to me, but the main issue is, I think, why the cost of this weekend wasn’t made clear to everyone in advance rather than sprung on them at the last minute. Not cool.
Post # 7
Jijitattoo: agreed. Totally inconsiderate. Not everyone has spare money lying around.
Post # 8
Candice1990: I’m in Canada and the last wedding my fiance stood in cost him about $1000-1200 give or take. The bachelor party was about $500, suit rental was only $150-200 than there was transportation (wedding was 2 hrs away), any additional meal costs where they weren’t provided a meal, accomodations etc. Everything always adds up. I know my fiance just had his bachelor party and for 2 days they easily spent over $500. If your fiances brother’s best man is anything like my fiances best man, they waited to what seems to be the last minute to plan everything. Your fiance can always choose not to go. Yes its his brother’s bachelor party but at the same time, a bachelor party is not a requirement to stand in a wedding, specially when struggling with the money.
Post # 9
Mez03: now that I think about it there will be more costs as you said… The gift, our hotel room on the night of the wedding, transportation… It really adds up doesn’t it!!!
yeah unfortunately I don’t think my FI would feel right not attending.. I think his family would see it in bad taste and insist on paying for him (Which I don’t want them to do). Sigh… I guess FI will just have to accept it and try not to get involved in too many more weddings!!! Haha..