How much is it reasonable to have guests pay for accomodations

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
5763 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Depends on the region but $245 a night is pretty high, even worse if you’re in Califorina or a similar area where there’s an additional 20-30% hotel tax. Maybe get a room block at the chain hotel and rent (at your expense) a shuttle to take the guests back amd forth. At least that way your guests will have choices in high and low price range plus won’t be drinking and driving.

Post # 3
165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Can you get room blocks at both locations? Really these things are just set up for guests, it’s not like your forcing them to stay there. Ours are $250 a night, which I don’t think is horrible – it’s actually a great deal for the area. I suppose it’s region and what your guests are used to- no one has said anything about ours to me, I actually had to expand the block it was filling up.

Post # 4
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

emyv:  Is this a destination wedding? I don’t know many people who come to a wedding alone so I assume all guests will have a DD. If a wedding is close enough to go home to my own bed at night then I will take advantage of that regardless of an open bar. You can’t ask or expect your guests to stay at any of these places…Maybe you can slip an extra card in the invitation that has a list of nearby hotels?

Post # 6
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

emyv:  I looked up my venues rate for the night of our wedding, its normally $229 for a saturday night (the hotel/casino overlooks the water hence the expensive prices). They are giving us rooms for our guests $165/night. We get a block of 10 at this rate but if we go over, they are going to accomodate and open up more rooms. Iwould give you guests a couple of options for places to stay for the night. I put something on the website saying this is the hotel but if you need one with cheaper rates let us know and we’ll help them find something to suit their budget. Maybe you can talk to the inn and get a block of rooms for a reduced rate which would still help their business! 

Post # 7
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

You provide blocks as an assistnace to your guests. I think setting up both options is good and you just have to accept that some people will not take advantage. We had two blocks and had the cheaper one fill up and only a few stay at the more expensive option. Moreover, there were some people who left early but most people stayed the whole time even if they had an hour or two drive home.

I would not worry about it too much. I just made sure to remind people by word of mouth close to the blocks closing and then it’s up to them to worry about driving/hotels. 

Post # 8
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

emyv:  You have done more than yoou need to do by getting room blocks at the two hotels. Your guests are adults and likely used to making their own travel arrangements.

If they choose to book at the hotel 15 minutes away, they can always take a cab.

Post # 9
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Your guests will likely stay at the cheaper hotel no matter what.  I booked two hotels, one at $99 and a more convenient one in the French Quarter for $159.  No one stayed in the French Quarter, even my own mother.  I would try to book a shuttle if you want your guests to stay and enjoy the evening.

Post # 10
12865 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

$155/night walking distance is not bad (how long walking exactly??), I would do that over a 15 minute drive.  $245 is waaay too much imo.  My limit is around $150. Just do those two and most people will probably go with those.  How much cheaper is the one 15 minutes away.

Post # 11
4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Yeah, I don’t know many people who would spring for $245 a night. I really wouldn’t count on many guests taking that option. It’s very considerate to get the multiple blocks. If you’re really worried, I’d look into a shuttle to the cheap hotel. That way guests can party and stay late and not worry about it too much. Of course you don’t have to have all the pressure, as they can certainly get a DD or a cab.

Post # 12
199 posts
Blushing bee

The hotel we booked is $150 a night at our discounted rate.  It includes great amenities like a shuttle to and from the airport, a great rehearsal dinner room and a hot breakfast for all the guests.  

If I were you I’d do 2 room blocks, one at the hotel on location, the other at the walking distance hotel.  

Post # 13
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

emyv:  It is hard to say what would be reasonable and unreasonable given I do not know your guests. For me, personally, I would have a very difficult time paying $245 per night as that is around how much we pay for groceries in a month! Some people are quite happy and can easily afford that price (and are used to it!). The blocks at both hotels is a good option. If there are taxis then the 15 min drive should not be a problem (you can even offer to hire out a taxi that would run between certain hours).

Post # 14
2302 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

people might surprise you! we have two blocks, one is 99/night the other is 120/night and the place where we are staying (just for the night of the wedding) is 500/night…annoyingly i have had a few comments from people wanting to stay there with us! 

my goal is to discourage that….

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