Post # 1
Good Afternoon Ladies,
Once again here with a question regarding my beloved sister’s wedding, we were talking about guess what??? She busts out her Bridal Bible, scares the hell outta me with it since there’s no way someone got all of that in two weeks and then starts telling me all of the stuff that’s going down during the ceremony.
I am completely at a loss, my husband and I are zen buddhists and our ceremony topped out at a whopping seven minutes from me coming in the door to us smooching, and while I admit that the brevity of our ceremony would not work for everyone, I had a flashback to the only Catholic wedding we ever attended and the two hour confuse a thon it was for us….in latin. I totally support tailoring a ceremony to reflect and celebrate the uniqueness of the couple, along with their religious beliefs and what have you so…how much is too much?
A hand-fasting ceremony, vows, a reading, a song, a reading, a song, a unity ceremony, a family ceremony, a rose presentation ceremony, and a prayer.
This is not something I am well versed in, are some of these the same thing? I believe it’s a Methodist preacher? There’s a 14 person wedding party, I guess I need explanation, definitions and opinions….She always relies on my honest opinion, and she sincerely wants this to be a special day for everyone including her guests…buy I am uninformed, HELP!
Post # 3
I think that’s way too much stuff. One or two unique elements are always fun, but she’s got a whole lotta stuff going on there. As a guest, I would find it boring and clunky, as if a bunch of things were just tossed together to comprise a ceremony.
Post # 4
@Nona99: this may be a dumb question…but what’s that hand ceremony?
It’s hard to say what is enough/what is too much, because in any circumstance I think that certain readings can be short, as with songs.. in which case it isn’t that bad… you know? if they’re like 5 pages- ya waaay too much… but FI and I are having our readings as well, but we’re also incorporating the veil & cord ceremony & coin ceremony.. total time for the 3 is.. maybe 6 minutes? so it depends how in depth they get with everything.. IMO
Post # 5
@mayflowerbride13: A hand-fasting ceremony is a pagan/celtic tradition where the hands are bound together with cords or ribbons in conjuction with the vows being made…sort of a physical representation of the vows themselves…ummm, we’re scottish, he’s Irish, so it works. The theme is gothic…so ok, and she’s telling me she wants readings from the works of Edgar Allen Poe, her favorite…the songs are still up in the air, but the family ceremony is for his two little kids and then the roses are for their Moms, and then something for the two of them…? I guess we’ll just have to see, but if I were sitting in a plastic chair on a cold October night outside, I’d get a little perturbed if this all started to take too long.