Post # 1
Hive, I’m in a bit of a pickle. I picked an affordable BM dress that I liked and, because of the price, I offered to gift the dresses to my BM. The problem is, one of my girls lives out of town and hasn’t been able to try on the dress until recently, and it turns out that it’s the least flattering on her (it’s not bad by any stretch of the imagination, but definitely not as great on her figure as it was on my other girls’). That said, I do have another option for BM dresses, but this one would be out of my price range to cover for my girls.
Which leads me to the question–if you were acting as a BM, how much money would be too much money for you to pay? Of course this is considering your personal situations, but at what point would you start to balk at the prices and reconsider? For me, personally, it would probably be somewhere at the $200.00 mark, but that’s probably because I’ve never paid that much for any piece of clothing in my life (save the wedding dress).
Post # 3
I tried to keep my BM dresses around $100, and my cousin did the same for her wedding.
We’re young, and most of our friends don’t have a ton of money.
As a BM, I’d really rather not pay more than $150 for the dress, but I’d have to draw a hard line at $200. I just really can’t justify paying more than that for a dress I’ll only wear once. (Except of course if it’s MY actual wedding dress.)
Post # 4
I think if the price starts creeping over $200, it’s a bit too much
Post # 5
@MrsRevolutionize: We are trying to stay under 100
Post # 6
I paid close to $300 for a dress and I was not happy about it but I did it. I think the answers will vary and you need to look at what your BM’s can afford. Have you already told them you were going to gift them? Can you pay up to a certain point and ask for them to pay the rest? Maybe they pay the deposit and you pay the remaining?
Post # 7
For me, anything over $200 would be too much! But I wouldn’t be like “Hey, Bride… Find another dress” unless it was over $350!
And I’d suck it up and wear an unflattering dress if it was free!
Post # 8
It really depends on the BMs and their personal finances. In general I think anything under $200 is something anyone can digest. If still might be a bit much for someone that struggles with money (like myself) but I wouldn’t have a heart attack if someone wanted me to buy a dress under $200.
Post # 9
For me I think anything over $200 is way too much! By bridesmaid dresses were $129 each
Post # 10
I only had one BM and her dress was like $250ish with alterations. Its more than I would have liked, but we went to so many different shops and couldn’t find anything she was happy with. She had recently had a baby and was feeling self conscious.
I think once it goes over $150-175 then its starting to be too much.
Post # 11
For me about $200 including any alterations I needed. However, you are really in a pickle since you already offered to pay. I don’t see any way you can go back and be like… oh I was just kidding, I’m only going to pay for part of the dress! Could you do mismatched dresses? Or would perhaps a little bit of alteration help her look better and feel more confident in the one you already picked out? Good luck, hope it works out!
Post # 12
i’m not comfortable with more than $150. even less if i’m going to need a significant amount of alterations (which i usually do because i’m very short and very skinny)). i had to buy a dress for a wedding that was $150, but after alterations i ended up spending a total of $250 :/
my girls’ dresses were $129 (for maid of honor) and $139 (for bridesmaids) and luckily none of them needed any alterations.
Post # 13
@cora_123: I’ve told them that, if we go with the dress I’ve chosen, I’d gift them the dress. I guess offering to cover the same amount if we change dresses would be a good starting point–the dresses I’m looking at are $99, and if we go with the expensive option it’d leave another $150 for them to cover, but even that seems ridiculous to me. That said, I’m the MOH in one of my BM’s weddings, and though we haven’t gone dress shopping yet I’m fairly certain she’s expecting us to shell out somewhere in the $250+ range…
@BrandNewBride: Hahah that’s definitely what I would do too, but I don’t want anyone being uncomfortable. I mean, the BM in question gave me the thumbs up and said it was “cute,” but… SIGH. SO MANY DECISIONS.
Post # 14
@MrsRevolutionize: My BM dresses came to about $230. I knew it was get pretty pricey but the girls did not complain at all. I only have two BM’s though (both family – my sister and my SIL) so not like I had a big crowd to get on my side. I also let them ultimately choose which dress they wanted so maybe that helped a little. I gave them the designer and the colour and they chose their own dresses without my interference.
Post # 15
My limit is around 125-150 depending on the bride.
I kept mine to 100 and under.
Post # 16
@MrsRevolutionize: Maybe talk to them individually and see if they can afford it? Are they footing any other costs flights, accomadation, hair and make up?