Post # 1
And how soon is too soon to buy??
I am in quite the dilema. I have 6 bridesmaids, 2 are my sisters, 1 is my future sister in law, 1 is my cousin and the other 2 are my best friends. I love everything about J.Crew and have found 2 dresses that are my color (mosaic blue) one is on sale for $99.99 and the other is on sale for $139.99. My older sister, also my maid of honor has recently shown me a Lily Pulitzer dress, retail price $268 and can find it NO WHERE on line cheaper in the sizes that I need. I love the Lily dress, it’s teal blue with gold lace which is stunning and fun at the same time. 2 of my bridesmaids are in grad school, 2 are in college still and really, the only girl really able to afford this dress without a seconds thought would be my older sister, hence the reason she liked it in the first place.
So I sent an e-mail out to my girls and just gave them the option of choosing either one of the J.Crew dresses. I am going to be in my cousins wedding in September and his fiance had us pay $234 for our dresses and I honestly thought that was a lot. Especially since the dress is maroon and I will NEVER wear it again. I would just hate to ask them to pay that, ya know?
Also, my wedding is June 30th, 2012 so would it be too soon to ask for my bridesmaids to purchase the dresses now? Especially considering that the 2 from J.Crew are on sale (clearance)??
Any suggestions would be MUCH appreciated!!!
Post # 3
I think the lower, the better. The most I’ve ever spent on a dress for someone’s wedding was $80 and to be honest, anything more than that would have bankrupted me. I just graduated and anything over $100 still seems like a lot…it all depends on whether or not they work and go to school at the same time, what expenses they have, etc. But I’d definitely recommend the cheapest dress.
If they can get a good deal on them now, I don’t see a problem. But what if one/more than one girl decides she doesn’t want to order quite this early (for fear of gaining/losing weight, etc.)?
Post # 4
$268 is quite a bit, I would stick to 100 or less. You have to remember more than likely your girls dresses prob will be need to be altered also.
Post # 5
I agree that the lower, the better. Honestly, if I were in your wedding, I would be seriously bummed about shelling over almost three hundred bucks before the cost of alterations.
It sounds like you’re in love with the J. Crew dress. I think if the girls are comfortable with purchasing them this early and you love the dress, go for it. One piece of advice I will give you is that J. Crew Final Sale dresses usually sell out really, really fast (we bought our Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses on Final Sale, so I’m speaking from experience!)- like within the day.
So if you’re going to do it, I would suggest moving quickly!
Post # 6
$200 is too much IMO. I’d probably refuse to buy (kindly of course).
Cheaper the better, and giving them the option is even better yet. All my maids had their dresses 2 months ago for a May 2012 wedding, so IMO not too early!
Post # 7
Thank you, ladies! I am going with the $99.99 dress. The style and the price fits everyone! Just emailed them all and told them to order ASAP so they could get the size they needed!
Post # 8
We found $265 Lazaro’s that we loved that a seamstress is going to make for us. Saves money on the dress and the alterations. While my BMs could afford the dress I really do not want to make them spend that much. I think that around $150 is a reasonable price to ask for a one-time wear dress.
I would plan a get-together to go buy the dresses together. That way its a done and done deal where you know they bought them, and at the cheapest price. 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 9
I choked at $180 for my BM’s, but they didn’t bat an eye. My Maid/Matron of Honor is in her last year of Uni, and I ofered to pay half as I know she struggles geatly with finances. She got PISSED at me that I would even suggest it lol.
Post # 10
@Take The Reins: Yep, same here. The dress that I love for my BM’s are $218. If we go that route, I’m going to cut corners else where and going to pay $100 towards each of them.
Post # 11
I think it depends on your friends/family and what they can afford. My bridesmaid dresses are running each girl $216 each.
Post # 12
I would go with the j.crew dresses. You were happy with them before you saw the lily dress, and it isn’t worth the angst it would cause the majority of your bridesmaids. I am not even looking at bridesmaids dresses over $130, as I know that would be pushing it for 2 of my 3 bridesmaids.
Post # 13
Yay good call with the Jcrew dresses! I don’t like expensive bridesmaid dresses because there are so many other expenses that go along with being a bridesmaid.
Post # 14
I agree with other PP. The lower the cost the better. Yes, you like the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, but they only wear them for a few hours. It’s not going to mess up pictures too much if they wear a dress that isn’t the dress you want. Just a suggestion!
Post # 15
I think the lower the better, however, I think that the prices of dresses are getting more and more expensive. My BFF is getting married in January, and I just spent $300 for my Maid/Matron of Honor gown. I didn’t balk at the price because it’s an all black dress, and I KNOW that I will be able to wear it again. She sent out several emails asking for opinions on various dresses, and never really got a response from the girls about the dresses, and finally sent out the last email that said, the dresses that she picked out were over $300 (she picked up the additional cost) and if anyone had a problem with the price to let her know, she again got no real response, so she ordered them.
Post # 16
$99-139 sounds like a good price. Mine were $184 and my Maid/Matron of Honor said that was my wedding gift. My BM’s were fine with it though.