How much is your bridal shower? Is anyone chipping in themselves?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
  • poll: How much was/is your shower? How much did you contribute?
    $100-$500 : (4 votes)
    14 %
    Under $1000 but over $500 : (5 votes)
    17 %
    $1000+ : (3 votes)
    10 %
    I did not pay anything for my shower. : (16 votes)
    55 %
    I paid under $100 : (1 votes)
    3 %
    I paid over $100 : (0 votes)
    I paid for my entire shower : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Your BMs shouldn’t have assumed anyone else was helping if they didn’t specificly ask those people. My aunt is hosting my shower and it will be like $250, my BMs are helping set up. when I’m a BMs and help with the shower it’s never been over $50. To me $180 seems like an insane amount to spend on a shower. Maybe have a small shower at the tearoom and let your fmil have your fis side at that shower to lower the cost of the other shower.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Birdiebaby4:  Stay out of it. I get that you feel bad but they chose this and you need to let them finish what they started. 🙂 

    Post # 5
    Member
    3223 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Birdiebaby4:  It is rude for you to do anything about your own shower.

    Why not go back to cake and punch at someone’s house?  Surely that is better then having your family and BP pay lots of money each to host a party.

    You should not assume that anyone wants to pay money for something they have no say in.  It sounds like your BP wanted to make all the arrangements, and then invoice people.  That isn’t fair.

     

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    2893 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Is there anyway you can have two showers?  My mom and bridesmaids are doing one for me at her house for my mom’s side.   And then my FMIL blindsided me by asking if her friends could throw me one for their side.  I hadn’t expected it, but I’m allowing it to happen.  Other than attending, my bridesmaids will likely not be involved in shower #2.  Its also not all that uncomon for the grooms side and brides side to have two seperate showers as the guest list wouldn’t over lap. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    5199 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    If multipul people want to throw you a shower, one way to handle it is to divide up the guest list.  This makes each party easier and less expensive to host and allows a few different people to throw parties when you have so many people interested.

    Post # 9
    Member
    3223 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Birdiebaby4:  Wouldn’t it still be cheaper to be out any deposits and have cake and punch?

    Post # 11
    Member
    3084 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Birdiebaby4:  I don’t know what to say. I have no idea how much it is because my mom is doing the entire thing. She’s paying for everything. We will be inviting like 80 people I think, so it has to be up there. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Your BMs will have to suck it up. They didn’t consult anyone else before they booked this place. Feel free to help them pay for it if you feel like it.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    The reply is working for me, but:

    showers are gift giving events and yes the bride nor her mother or other close relative like a sister are supposed to host because it’s taboo or dare I say gift grabby.

    but, for the life of me I don’t get how someone who offers to throw you a shower- organize it and what not didn’t expect to pay for it. Hosting duties include picking up the tab.

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