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I agree, it's not very polite. However, I'll be honest: expect $0. This way you'll be pleasantly surprised if you get any money. Did you register? Because then you could also expect gift cards from the places you registered.
I agree with blightygirl, I would go into it expecting $0. Times are tight and people probably aren't going to give as much as you think. At least if you are not expecting anything, you won't get disapointed if you don't get the amount you are hoping for. And if you do get money it'll be a nice surprise.
I wouldn't think there is a 'national average' just because it depends on who you invite - who your family is, your friends are, etc. I think it is easier to do a 'national average' on the cost of weddings b/c it goes by city standards on pricing for items where prices are non-negotiable...not like money as gifts b/c that depends on the employment, career, etc. of your guests and what they are wanting and able to give.
In order to collect a national average they would have to be contacting newly married couples to ask them how much money they got. I think if someone called me up and asked me that I would tell them to shove it ...
I agree, expect zero. I've wondered the same thing as to what to expect, we usually gve around 75-100 as cash if we don't get a gift, its hard to estimate what others will do though.
Don't worry about not being polite! I mean, there are more unpolite things you could have asked (hey, just look at some of our boards) 
However, I think it is really hard to say since you probably know your guests and what type of gift givers they are! For example, I know that people of my peer group tend to give money (anywhere from 150 to 300) but that my parents peer group prefers to give actual gifts. So your guess is probably as good as ours! Also, it could depend on where you live and what the social norms are there.
Ah, okay thanks everyone! :-)
Glad no one took offense to my off color question!
Ummm...maybe I'm wrong to say we are expecting at least $1000? :) I say that because anytime anyone asks what we want my fiance says, "Cash for a TV!!".
I'm actually suprised too that we have already received $500 in gifts toward our honeymoon - we had a honeymoon shower. People are more generous than I thought!
I expect nada. Where I am from, you register for gifts and that's what you get. Not many people here bring cash to a wedding.
I think the best expectation you can have is to have a fab wedding day with your hubs and friends and family. Anything else, gifts or cash, is bonus.
I don't know for your personal situation, but I've got some old school Italian family members and I don't know if y'all have ever seen Goodfellas, but I'm expecting a line of old Italians with envelopes kissing both my cheeks :)
I think its completely depends on your situation. From my parents culture, they give cash, not gifts. Especially since many of them will be out of town. The cash my parents friends' give usually match the amount that my parents have given to their children in previous weddings. (I know, it's really odd, and I had no idea until I started wedding planning).We did a honeymoon registry and a regular registry to give guests the option.
But I agree with the past posts. Expect none and be happily surprised if you do get any. Surprises like those are always fun!
I think this is only rude if you actually KNOW the person =]. This is weddingbee afterall, lol.
I think it's safe to say we all ask and answer questions on this board that we wouldn't in person =]
I was kind of wondering the same thing when we were planning the wedding, just being curious, not like expecting a certain amount. For us, I tried to gauge what we'd be getting in cash from what is typical with our family/friends. In my family, it's customary to give a gift at the shower, but a check at the wedding itself. That way, I knew I'd be getting cash from those folks, which ended up being the case. My husband's family traditionally brings gifts to the wedding (we noticed this at his cousin's wedding a few years back), so I didn't expect much cash from them. In the end, I was right, most of them brought registry gifts to the wedding, instead of envelopes.
We got about $1k and we weren't expecting *any* money. The cash gifts mostly came from people from other parts of the country where money as a gift is a lot more common. It really came in handy -- we used it on our honeymoon, so be sure that if you have a card box, it goes with you after the wedding! Ours went to my parents and we had to go pick it up before leaving town.
Most people gave us gifts off our registry, and our wedding was last year before the economy crashed, but for those people who did give us cash it was usually $100 per couple. A few people gave a little more than that. Our parents were extremely generous and gave us a lot more than that.
A friend of mine who got married last summer got 15K, but they barely registered for anything because they really didn't need anything for their home. Also, she had some relatives who gave them several thousand dollars, so I really doubt that 15K is "average". Even though I'm not expecting anything, I wouldn't be surprised if we ended up with $2500 or so. We're inviting over 300 people, and it would be nice to be able to book our delayed honeymoon with wedding money.
A friend of mine who got married last summer got 15K, but they barely registered for anything because they really didn't need anything for their home. Also, she had some relatives who gave them several thousand dollars, so I really doubt that 15K is "average". Even though I'm not expecting anything, I wouldn't be surprised if we ended up with $2500 or so. We're inviting over 300 people, and it would be nice to be able to book our delayed honeymoon with wedding money.
I can understand your curiosity--not knowing how much money we might get was stressful for me because we had done a honeymoon registry so that money was going directly toward the cost of our holiday! We made sure that we could still afford the holiday without any money from guests at all, but it would have no doubt been a much different holiday!
Basically, we expected $0 and hoped for $500-1000. In the end, we got about $1600. For the guest list, we had all adults, almost excluslvely 30 or older, and about 70 guests total (including our wedding party and immediate family). We didn't have a traditional registry for gifts and passed out the honeymoon registry cards to our immediate family and wedding party. In the end, I think we got a lot of cash because people saw that as easier than putting the money on the honeymoon account. All the same to us!
I think it depends on your guests and where you live. We're expecting $0 in cash and everything in gifts or gift cards.
I think it is going to depend on who is giving the gifts. I was expecting $0 because in my family it's just not expected or done -- and sure enough, 95% of our checks came from his side! His family seemed actually averse to purchasing off the registry whereas my side loved it. Oh well.
I agree, it totally depends on the gift givers. My family is very cash-giving so I'm sure most of the gifts will come from his side and our friends.
And also, I think a lot depends on what you say when people ask you about registries/gifts. I know a friend of ours mentioned his fiancee loved cooking and really emphasized it, so we bought them a registry gift instead of giving cash. Honestly, we would have given the cash since they're so young, but I went with what he said, instead (and gift receipted, of course).
I was curious about this before my wedding and no one would really throw a number out there, so I thought I would. I was astonished by how much money we got as gifts for our wedding. We had 134 guest and got nearly $10,000. NEVER in my wildest dreams did I think we would get anywhere near this. As with the past post, we did not expect anything. Everyone was so generious and I would never want anyone to go beyond their means to provide us with a gift. Our gifts of cash ranged from $30-$1000. I am still in shock with everyone generosity.
0-I don't think anyone will give me a cash gift. I have never given cash and never seen cash given, only gifts.
@Audrey9398...LUCKY WOMAN!!!!!
We did not register....not expecting gifts but hoping for cash ;)
We had about 200 people....I can honestly say about half didn't give us anything (although I have gotten 2 cards AFTER the wedding with some $$ so I am not sure if this will continue???)
Anyhoo....we got about $2,600 in cash. We got a few gift cards and a few presents. It is weird though because you will either be pleasantly surprised or vice versa. A friend of mine who had a very nice small backyard wedding got $5K! I am with the PP's who said expect $0 so you don't get disappointed.
If you can, the best gauge is if you know someone in your families that recently go married.
My FH's sister just got married and she got a ton of money ($20K), way more than I would have ever though and she got everything on her registry.
I now know what his family does, and I already know what my family does so I know what to "expect". It is not anything we are relying on so no matter what we get or dont get we will be just fine.
It depends on the social circles, traditions of families as well as geographies, what kind of wedding you are throwing (many still think that their cash gift should cover their per head cost), how many out of town guests vs local guests, etc.
We had 70 people at our wedding and were given about $7,000. About half of that was my FIL and aunt-in-law, though. They were very generous. We spread the word that we wanted money instead of gifts, since we are moving cross country next year and don't want to move everything with us! We got probably $1,000 in registry gifts, the rest cash/check.
It kinda depends if your parents are paying or not.
Having your parents pay for your wedding means you get less cash, wheras if they don't pay, I might expect more cash?
If you paid for the whole wedding and only got 1k in gifts that's different than paying and getting 15k in gfits?
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Yes, I know this is a bad question to ask. It not very polite.
But, okay, let's get real... I'm really very curious what to expect! We're having about 170 people. Will it be more like $1,000 or $7,000??
And no, of course we are not just having the wedding for the money.