(Closed) How much money as gifts should I expect?

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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153 posts
Blushing bee

I agree, it’s not very polite.  However, I’ll be honest:  expect $0.  This way you’ll be pleasantly surprised if you get any money.  Did you register?  Because then you could also expect gift cards from the places you registered.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I agree with blightygirl, I would go into it expecting $0. Times are tight and people probably aren’t going to give as much as you think. At least if you are not expecting anything, you won’t get disapointed if you don’t get the amount you are hoping for. And if you do get money it’ll be a nice surprise.

Post # 6
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196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I wouldn’t think there is a ‘national average’ just because it depends on who you invite – who your family is, your friends are, etc.  I think it is easier to do a ‘national average’ on the cost of weddings b/c it goes by city standards on pricing for items where prices are non-negotiable…not like money as gifts b/c that depends on the employment, career, etc. of your guests and what they are wanting and able to give.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

In order to collect a national average they would have to be contacting newly married couples to ask them how much money they got. I think if someone called me up and asked me that I would tell them to shove it … 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree, expect zero. I’ve wondered the same thing as to what to expect, we usually gve around 75-100 as cash if we don’t get a gift, its hard to estimate what others will do though.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

Don’t worry about not being polite!  I mean, there are more unpolite things you could have asked (hey, just look at some of our boards)  

However, I think it is really hard to say since you probably know your guests and what type of gift givers they are!  For example, I know that people of my peer group tend to give money (anywhere from 150 to 300) but that my parents peer group prefers to give actual gifts.  So your guess is probably as good as ours!  Also, it could depend on where you live and what the social norms are there.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Ummm…maybe I’m wrong to say we are expecting at least $1000? 🙂 I say that because anytime anyone asks what we want my fiance says, "Cash for a TV!!".

I’m actually suprised too that we have already received $500 in gifts toward our honeymoon – we had a honeymoon shower. People are more generous than I thought!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I expect nada.  Where I am from, you register for gifts and that’s what you get.  Not many people here bring cash to a wedding.

I think the best expectation you can have is to have a fab wedding day with your hubs and friends and family.  Anything else, gifts or cash, is bonus.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t know for your personal situation, but I’ve got some old school Italian family members and I don’t know if y’all have ever seen Goodfellas, but I’m expecting a line of old Italians with envelopes kissing both my cheeks 🙂

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think its completely depends on your situation. From my parents culture, they give cash, not gifts. Especially since many of them will be out of town. The cash my parents friends’ give usually match the amount that my parents have given to their children in previous weddings. (I know, it’s really odd, and I had no idea until I started wedding planning).We did a honeymoon registry and a regular registry to give guests the option. 

But I agree with the past posts. Expect none and be happily surprised if you do get any.  Surprises like those are always fun!

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think this is only rude if you actually KNOW the person =]. This is weddingbee afterall, lol.

I think it’s safe to say we all ask and answer questions on this board that we wouldn’t in person =]

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

I was kind of wondering the same thing when we were planning the wedding, just being curious, not like expecting a certain amount.  For us, I tried to gauge what we’d be getting in cash from what is typical with our family/friends.  In my family, it’s customary to give a gift at the shower, but a check at the wedding itself.  That way, I knew I’d be getting cash from those folks, which ended up being the case.  My husband’s family traditionally brings gifts to the wedding (we noticed this at his cousin’s wedding a few years back), so I didn’t expect much cash from them.  In the end, I was right, most of them brought registry gifts to the wedding, instead of envelopes.

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