Post # 1
I was wondering, how much of the housework do you end up doing yourself? Let me preface this by saying I LOVE my FI more than anything and he is a very sweet and hard working man…but…he also expects me to do like 90% of the house related chores. He is an engineer and makes over 3x what I do working as a nanny. Because of this we have worked out the deal that he pays our morgage and I pay all household expenses, such as groceries, utilities, cleaners, household products…basically EVERYTHING else. Apparently to him, our agreement also meant that I take care of most of the housework. I have more time off than him, since I work less hours so I expect to do more of the housework. Just not cool with having to do most of it. Any other bees in my position…or used to be?
For those of you bees lucky enough to share the housework, how did you get him to do that?!?
Post # 3
I do 75% of the housework and he does 25%. We are currently trying to get it where it is 50/50. He doesn’t expect me to do the housework but he just knows that I will do a better job. I just wish he would start helping me out more because he knows I have too much on my plate.
Post # 4
I do almost everything except the toilet because well SO is gross (once we move he will be on his own when it comes to his bathroom) I clean everything that is in my reach (I am short so he dusts things that are out of my reach). I am not working right now and he is so it only feels right that I clean and cook when I start working again whoever has the most free time will be doing more of the housework. I like things alot cleaner then he does so I am sure I would just go behind him and do it myself anyway haha
Post # 5
I do like 95% of it, but the 5% I don’t do is the stuff that I REALLY don’t want to do: the trash and the cat boxes. And I like cleaning. For me it’s very zen and very calming. But if I want him to do more, I just tell him. He won’t take the initiative to do it himself, but he’s always willing to do whatever if I ask him to, I just usually don’t.
Post # 6
I do NOTHING! I am not a housewife type of girl. I want to work and make all the money and come home to dinner on the table and a clean house; which I do.
FI cleans, vacuums, cooks, does the laundry. I was so worried going into this relationship that I would be expected to do everything and that’s really not me. Luckily, I got a guy that loves to do all of those things!
Post # 6
My husband does much more of the housework than I do. I’m in medical school and don’t have a lot of free time — we decided that he would do more of the housework so that we have more free time together NOT cleaning the house. We just had a realistic conversation about what needed to get done and the best use of our time. Cooking we do together 50/50.
Post # 7
I do all of the housework. My husband works longer and makes more than I do too. But also I would never trust him to do any of it to my standards, so I suck it up:) But I also do all the grocery shopping and the cooking too. He shovels snow, clears the car off in the winter, takes the trash to the dump, etc. So, it’s pretty fair I guess.
Post # 8
I do all of it but in all fairness he travels almost every single week so the majority of the messes are mine. He might take out the trash on occasion but I scrub the floors, the bathrooms, I empty all of his pop cans and recycle them, I vacuum and steam clean and dust and wash the sheets once a week…I think he’s done the dishes three times the entire time we’ve lived together.
Post # 9
He does manly stuff If needed. But at the moment we live in a place with no snow and we pay a maintenance fee whithin a gated community, where our lawn/garden needs are met.
I do all the house work because I enjoy it- I find it therapeutic!
As far as finances in correlation to work load delegation, I guess it measures up accordingly. He is the financial provider so I do all the other stuff like keeping things tidy, cooking etc.
I’m sure if you sat down and talked to your man about the work, he would help! Its a partnership and you do what you can to make it work (assuming you wish to not follow traditional roles).
Post # 10
I do most of it because I’m really anal and like to have things done my way. But DH helps with laundry and takes out the trash and recycling, and for the most part we alternate doing the dishes, which is my most hated chore.
Post # 11
i do most of it… dishes, laundry, cleaning…. fi does alot of other stuff though, like cleaning the gutters, powerwashing the house, taking out the trash, cooking, mowing…. so i feel like its pretty even 🙂
Post # 12
I voted all of it because FI is deployed ATM, but to be fair is a complete angel about doing his bit. I am the laundry doer and master of keeping the kitchen and bathroom clean and he vacuums, mops and dusts. It’s pretty great! Right now I do all of it and I mowed the lawn for the first time in my life a few weeks ago. Ya know what? I like mowing! Its satisfying! lol
Post # 13
I think it’s 90% for me and 10% for him. And even his 10% only gets done when I keep nagging at him, cuz otherwise he won’t do nothing.
Post # 14
@crh1729: you should rent him out to all of the bees who hate doing the work lol
Post # 15
I would say it’s about 85% and 15% me doing the majority of the housework (this was discussed and agreed upon before getting married). Mainly because DH just isn’t home M-Th.. He works long hours and then also is highly involved in the Youth Ministry at our church. So M-Th I do all the housework. Usually though on Friday (which he usually has off) He’ll do any laundry that needs to be done, kitchen, etc. He’s incredibly helpful and takes care of those things without needing to be asked I guess just to help me out. lol.