How much of your wedding did you pay for yourself?

posted 3 years ago in Money
  • poll: What percentage of your wedding did you pay yourself?
    100% : (61 votes)
    26 %
    80-100% : (44 votes)
    19 %
    60-80% : (28 votes)
    12 %
    40-60% : (31 votes)
    13 %
    20-40% : (23 votes)
    10 %
    1-20% : (36 votes)
    15 %
    0% : (13 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    931 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @freshflowers:  My Dad paid about 50K, my MIL paid about 20K, husband and i paid about 30K. A lot of my Dad’s expense was because he chose to pay for a majority of my guests accomodation for my destination wedding.

    Post # 4
    629 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Our wedding was in the $30-35k range. 85% funded by my parents, 10% by his, and we probably covered 5%.

    Things not included in that calculation, such as honeymoon and our wedding rings, we payed for 100% ourselves – totaling maybe $6,000-7,000

    Post # 5
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @freshflowers:  Our wedding will be about 7k after all is said and done. We’re paying for everything 100% ourselves. It’s been a pain, but we’ve paid for all of it in cash.

    ETA: That $7k doesn’t include our rings (mine are on a 0% interest card) and honeymoon but of course are still being paid by us. We knew going into it that we wouldn’t have parental help despite the fact that he’s an only child and my brother passed away before any prospects of marrying.

    Post # 6
    1071 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

    I have been very blessed in that my mom wants to pay for several big ticket items.
    She is paying for food and drink, a good chunk of the reception venue cost, our cake, and my veil. 
    With her paying for the above, FI and I will spend no more then $15,000 for everything else. (That includes honeymoon.)
    Yeay for moms!
    I have been putting money away every paycheck and having been babysitting on the side to help fund the big day.

    Post # 7
    11469 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @freshflowers:  DH and I paid for the whole enchilada ourselves and our wedding ended up costing over $75K.

    Post # 8
    8847 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I feel very appreciative that we had some significant help – we definitely would have eloped otherwise because we don’t make a ton of money.  

    Our final budget was 17k, which doesn’t include honeymoon or rings.  My parents paid 11k, his parents paid 2.5k, and we paid 3.5k.  His parents also gave us another 2.5k as a wedding gift, so our net cost was only 1k.  (We’re saving their gift for a belated honeymoon though.)

    ETA:  We paid 20.5% ourselves.

    Post # 9
    212 posts
    Helper bee

    We are paying for our wedding 100% by ourselves and about 3/4 of it will be paid off by the time we get married. When all is said and done, it will be $20k including honeymoon, which hurts to type out… I’m a little sad that our families can’t contribute, especially as we are both only children, but also feel blessed that we are able to afford such an event 🙂


    Post # 10
    10 posts
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Wish this was categorized as percentages, since budgets vary so widely.


    my parents are absorbing the majority of the costs of our budget, nearly 70%. I’m contributing about 20%. My fiancee’s parents are opposed to the idea of spending a lot of money on a wedding, but are contributing the remaining 10% to our budget,(eta: VERY grateful for this, but initial conversations were about splitting costs… until they realized what a wedding in NYC runs). Our overall budget (not including honeymoon or rings) is 75K. 


    Post # 11
    2150 posts
    Buzzing bee


    I voted less than $5000.

    I’m wondering if a percentage or fraction would work better on the poll.

    Our wedding budge is only $10k. 

    FI’s family is paying half. My dad is paying a 1/4, and FI and I are paying 1/4. 

    Post # 12
    2694 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think we only paid for the officiant, dress, suit, photography, and rings (not including engagement ring) so that was less than $5000. I had a very small wedding though. My in laws paid for the rest. I’m not sure what their total was though.

    Post # 13
    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    We paid 100%. I think it ended up being about $6500. Our honeymoon is also being paid by us alone and it’s going to be $4400.

    Post # 14
    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    We are paying for it ourselves.  My parents offered to help, but we politely refused.  They are giving us the money anyway and told us that we can do with it what we like.  It’s nice to have the emergency funds there if we need it for the wedding, but we are hoping that we can put all that money towards a down payment on a home.

    Edit: Our wedding budget is currently $45K

    Post # 15
    12870 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    The wedding ended up being about 24k and we were prepared to pay for it all.  My mom did say they would pay for the reception while planning, but I didn’t hold them to it and was never going to ask for it.  But when the final payment was nearing, she asked how much it was so they could get a check… so they ended up paying about 13k.

    Post # 16
    1193 posts
    Bumble bee

    My parents are contributing 10k plus my dress, his parents are paying for the alcohol and the rehearsal dinner, and we are covering the rest, which will likely be around 8-10k. Yuck, it sounds like a lot of money when you write it out all at once!

    We also are paying for our honeymoon and rings, which I didn’t include in that total. Our honeymoon will actually be 6 months after the wedding, so we have tons of time to save up for it.

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