Post # 1
I shared clips of many, many dressed that I had saved of potential dresses with my FI today to get an idea of what he liked. To my surprise, he didn’t like any lace dresses or any with beading/embroidery! He says a little here and there is fine (like just on the bodice), but pretty much preferred very simple, plain dresses. I didn’t particularly like all lace dresses for myself, but I was somewhat leaning towards it…
I have yet to try any on in person, so I’m keeping my mind open and his opinions noted, but how about you? How much input did you take from your FI?
Post # 3
I know the style of dress my FH likes on me so I took that into consideration but he will see my dress for the first time when I walk down the aisle. He only knows it’s white.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2018 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
I took his input into account, but didn’t go so far as to ask him what he wanted. All he requested was that the dress have a "sexy low back." I kept that in mind when looking for dresses, but wouldn’t have vetoed a dress I loved because it didn’t have a low back.
Post # 5
Well, I’d say very little to none. He has no clue what it looks like. The only thing I knew was that he felt that if I got a strapless dress, he doesn’t like a sweetheart neckline. Otherwise, everything’s a surprise, and he said very little about what he’d like…well he did suggest that I could just wear lingerie, but…
Post # 6
My husband didn’t have a say and didn’t really want one. Don’t forget you really need to go in and try on dresses before really knowing what you like. I’m sure you have heard it a million times but I felt that dresses looked so much different on my body than the stick figure models in magazines so it was hard to really say what I liked in magazines.
Post # 7
ZERO! I tried getting his opinion but he really does not want anything to do with dress.
Post # 8
I showed him some pictures of gowns that I liked… he kinda nixed all looks that were more modern and did not look princessy. It is our day… and I want him to see me at my best… in something I love, as well as being everything he could have imagined! So yeah, I def wanted to know his thoughts!
Post # 9
I wanted to tell FI all about my dress – but he wasn’t having it. He was real honest when he said, "I probably won’t even notice details about your dress right away – I’m just going to see YOU and how amazingly beautiful you look!" so I gave up trying to talk to him about beading/this or lace/that. 🙂 In fact, he refuses to even look at pictures of dresses I DIDN’T get because he wants to be surprised seeing me in a georgeous white dress for the first time!!
Post # 10
Given that my fiancee is also wearing a dress, we pretty much had to shop together so our dresses would be complementary.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
My fiance has absolutely no input (in that I’m taking into major account what I think he will like, but I’m not asking him) – I want it to be a surprise!
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2010 - Mr. P's GrandparentsÃ¢Â€Â™ Ranch
none, I think the only words he said was " I know you’ll look dreamy as always" that’s it. I’m making it so it will be a surprice for him 🙂
Post # 13
He hasn’t seen my dress, but he definitely told me his style preferences. He liked strapless and form fitting. And you know what…so did I! So he gets what he wants, lucky guy. I’m going to purchase a dress for the reception, and he’s not sure he wants to see that one before the wedding day either. It’s been kind of hard not showing him my dress. I value his opinion so much and I really want to know what he thinks. Honestly, though, I know that he’ll cry when he sees me in it. He tears up whenever I get dressed up all fancy-shmancy.
Post # 14
When I first mentioned wearing a short, vintage style dress, he loved the idea. So I kept that in mind when I shopped but I tried on a lot of long dresses too. Ended up, because I’m short, a shorter dress looked best on me. So I ended up with a tea length strapless dress. He hasn’t seen it, but I’ve told him the basics and he seems excited.
Post # 15
I had the same issue about lace with my fiance that you are having. When I first began the hunt and really had no idea what I wanted I showed him pictures of dresses that I had tried on. But I did not let him know what I was leaning towards. I really love the look of lace and that’s what I really wanted. When I showed him a picture of a lace dress he said it looked like "something his Grandma would wear" or "it looks like lingerie" (don’t get me started on how those two things do not even relate lol!). That crushed me a little bit because I love the look of lace on a wedding dree. But let’s face it…some guys can be a little clueless, or they really just don’t care about the little details.
After that experience I stopped telling him anything about dresses that I tried on. He knows nothing about the dress that I ended up getting and he won’t see it until our big day. Needless to say, I stayed away from the lace…it’s not just my day, it’s his day too. And I want to look as stunning as possible in his eyes.
Post # 16
My husband had no input on my dress. He didn’t want to know a thing about it. He took the whole element of surprise/bad luck to see the dress thing to an extreme. He freaked when I showed him the swatch of the satin from the dress shop, haha.