Post # 1
Our venue can hold 150, and today I realized we are inviting 170 people. (Funny how names keep adding themselves to the list …) Anyway, is anyone else overinviting by this much? I’ve read all the stuff about what percentage of guests don’t show up, and if that holds true we should be OK, but I’m still nervous. For those already married, did overinviting work out for you or come back to haunt you?
Post # 3
We will probably be inviting 150 or so and expect about 120 to attend or less…. Our wedding is out of town for the majority of guests, so we expect some not to come. I’ve heard the average percentage is 12-15-20% of guests will not attend… Hope this helps!
Post # 4
we kept the list at 150 for the reception.. if they dont show.. I know this sounds bad but, seriously the better. We originally wanted a small reception but the number just grew and grew.. If they say no maybe I can fit a few more cousins in but im not really fussed. I just didnt want them all to show and us have no room 🙁
Post # 5
sheesh well our venue holds 250, currently 340 on the guest list!! obviously we had to make a B list, but i’m curious to see how this is all going to work out…i don’t think you’ve overinviting too much, we already know who for sure can’t come, but they are family and we don’t want to leave them out.
Post # 6
This is a great post. I have been so worried about this exact thing. I wonder what percentage one can expect to come?
Post # 7
I am only expecting around 100 to come to our wedding, that is the # we put on our venue papers, & that’s the amount of food we got. I got a total of about 110 invites (which is good because sometimes after you invite people you’ll realize you forgot one of two people) and we only sent out about 70 invites. A lot of people were 2 to an invite. I think I counted about 120 people I invited, and I still have a couple more invites to send out…so hopefully there’ll be close to 100 there! 🙂
Post # 8
We deliberately didn’t over invite because you never really know how many people will turn up. That being said I don’t think an extra 20 people matters but I’d put a stop to adding people to the list now.
Post # 9
I had to deal with this here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/help-cut-the-guest-list-or-find-new-venue
In the end we decided that we would invite 192 and we needed the guest list to be at or under 176. That is only over-inviting 16 guests. There are 7 kids on the guest list that will probably have a babysitter. Also, 45 of my aunts, uncles, and cousins are all from up North and I am guessing a few of them won’t be able to make the flight down for the wedding.
I think you have to be careful because we are already hearing a lot of people that are planning on coming after sending out our STD’s.
Post # 10
We invited about 150, but we’re hoping we have about 100 come! Eeeek! It makes me nervous!
Post # 11
We are totally overinviting. I can take as many as 150, expecting 120, but I’m inviting 230. Yep. It is a destination/weekend wedding for every single person, and I am inviting all of the cousins and their children that I haven’t seen in years. We are also sending invites to close friends from back east who I’m 90% sure won’t be able to make it.
Post # 12
Exact same as you! My venue holds 150, we’re inviting 170 and we have an estimated yield of around 135 at this point (although obviously guests could surprise us). I’ve been very stressed about the overinviting thing but I have gotten the list down as far as I can and I’m basically just hoping that we don’t go over. Good luck!
Post # 13
My DOC told me to expect 2/3 of our guests because many of them are out-of-towners / extended family, but if you are inviting mostly people in your town, its probably closer to 3/4. For us, we are inviting about 280, so 2/3 of that is 184, so we are hoping to be at or under 200. However, we don’t have number restrictions because we’re having the wedding at my parents’ home… we might have been more conservative if we did.
Post # 14
We also overinvited but I knew a lot of people wouldn’t be able to make it. Just keep track of who definitely is coming, maybes, and not coming and that may help with your numbers.
Post # 15
We’re inviting about 100 and expecting about 50 to attend. Fiance and I are both from the east coast, so the fact that we’re getting married in Seattle where we now live has almost the same effect as though we were having a destination wedding on a tropical island or something. It’s pretty easy for us to tell ahead of time who won’t be coming, so I’m not worried about going over capacity for what we have planned. I do feel a little guilty about the fact that all those people will feel obligated to get us gifts even though they can’t/won’t attend, but almost all of them are people we really ought to invite.
Post # 16
we were told 110 would fit in our venue, we invited 145. however, if we really needed to, we could find places to put these people so we weren’t too too worried, they just would just be sitting a little further away from us. we are currently at 94 and we just are waiting on 5 more to rsvp, so obviously we got a lot of no’s! the wedding is on a sunday and most people aren’t invited to the ceremony, it’s private, so a lot of oot people aren’t coming. keep those kinds of things in mind.