Post # 1
FH and I had our first counseling session the other day. We’ve actually already been talking about a lot of the subjects but there is one that we are still thinking through.
We want children (I’m 28 & he’s 31) but we would like to wait 3 years before having them. We know that God may have other plans for us but we will be using protection until we feel that we’re ready (we’re not sleeping together now). My questions is…in your opinion, do you think bc is enough protection or would you also use condoms?
Post # 3
When we were just dating (and still in college for much of this time) we doubled up and used both condoms and my BC pills.
Once we got engaged, we sometimes used condoms and sometimes didn’t (I was still on my BC pills).
Now that we are married and know that we are fully capable (financially, mentally, etc) of expanding our family if we were to get pregnant, we just use my BC pill and are completely comfortable with that protection. Even though we don’t plan to TTC for another 3 years or so.
Post # 4
Personally Fiance and I have been using just BC for 6 years now and have never had a scare. That said, I do know of people who have gotten pregnant while on BC. My BFF and her Fiance use both BC and condoms because they just feel better using the extra protection. Honestly I think that you and your Fiance need to continue to discuss it and make the best decision for you both. If you are nervous about becoming pregnant and want the extra protection there is nothing wrong with using both BC and condoms.
ETA: Whoops, when I say BC, I mean BC pills! 🙂
Post # 5
Condoms are a from of bc. Do you mean the pill when you say bc?
There are different methods of bc that have various success rates when used correctly. As far as the pill goes, I believe it’s enough. It never let me down. If you are worried about diseases, then you should also use condoms.
Just curious, what kind of counseling are you guys going to?
Post # 6
Yes sorry. When I say “bc” I mean my pills.
We’ve both been tested and I’m not worried about any std’s. This is strictly a pregnancy issue. We just aren’t sure what we want to do. Neither of us really likes condoms (we’ve both had sex in previous relationships) but we also don’t want to get pregnant…although since we will be having sex we know that there’s always a chance of pregnancy
Our counseling is being done at our church. And when it was brought up, it was just in a way to make sure that we were discussing it together not that they were telling us what we should or shouldn’t do.
Post # 7
I got pregnant taking the pill perfectly, so now we use a higher dosage pill and spermicidal films as backup.
Post # 8
@Mrs.KMM: We’re doing the same thing. We used both condoms and BC pills for a while. After we got engaged, we used condoms sometimes but didn’t at other times. Now that we’re married we never use condoms since we aren’t necessarily trying to have a kid right now but it wouldn’t be a problem if I got pregnant.
Post # 9
It’s definitely good to discuss this together!
If you are not comfortable with condoms, don’t use them. The bc pill has a way lower failure rate than condoms. Which I totally believe, since I had several ‘oops!’ moments with condoms, but thanks to the pill, never got pregnant.
Post # 10
Fiance and I use both pills and condoms (because Fiance is very paranoid). I haven’t had my pills in two months, so we have sex about once a week because Fiance is scared he’s going to get me pregnant. Even though our particular brand of condoms have never failed.
Post # 11
I said we just use the ring, though I guess it’s like 1.5 methods if you count pulling out (which we don’t do for b.c. purposes, but I think I’m like allergic to him or super sensitive or something… yay tmi).
When I was in a previous long-term relationship, we used two methods every. single. time. Which is probably a good thing, since my ex and his wife ended up successful on their first month of trying when he was on a business trip the days they were most likely to conceive.
Post # 12
We currently just stick with the pill. We’ve never really had a scare, except once when I forgot to take it for a few days. We’ve been together 6 years, and got married in December. If we happened to accidentally get pregnant, we would be okay with that.
If we felt differently, we might look into “doubling” up.
Post # 13
With former BFs I always doubled up on protection. Fiance and I just use my bc pill. If we were in a place where we absolutely could not have a child I wouldn’t be comfortable with this, but we are getting married, have a house, and Fiance has a dependable job at his family business, so while we’re not planning on a child right now it is something that we could handle, which is why I’m okay with just 1 form of protection.
Post # 14
Fiance and I have been together for almost 4 years and have exclusively used just the pill (except for the first few months of dating). I have no worries at all, and before him I had been with someone for almost 6 years where it was the same case. I am actually pretty bad with taking mine on time etc so I am surprised that we haven’t had any scares.
Post # 15
We have always doubled up – pills and condoms. Lately we’ve been more lax about it and I’m still on the pill but we’ve just been pulling out instead of using condoms. If I’ve missed a pill or taken one late I will tell him and we’ll use a condom. While we could handle a baby right now, we really don’t want that for a few years, so we are pretty careful about it. I’ve always said that if I were to get pregnant using the pill and condoms, that would be a serious miracle baby!
Post # 16
We thought BC was enough. If we were in a hurry, and didn’t want a huge mess to clean up, we used a condom, too.