I’m 27; SO is 32. We’ve been together for 7 years.
We’re extremely cheesy, but I don’t know if romantic is the right word. I certainly don’t expect to see flowers or rose petals on the bed or random gifts or surprise dates or come into a house with candles lit and a gourmet meal waiting for me. That’s just not him. I think he has gotten me flowers one time in our relationship, actually.
What he will do: clean up after dinner, give me pedicures/manicures, tons of affection, tucks me in every night if we don’t go to bed at the same time, surprise me by cooking a ( simple ) meal and serving me, make me things ( he tries to be a little crafty ), grab me a drink/a snack/a book/the remote control without me even asking, ask me questions about things I know he has 0 interest in ( like the latest romance novel I am reading ), he never allows me to carry groceries or anything weighing more than a pound ( that can get a little aggravating ), always holds doors open for me – just little everyday acts of kindness and attention.
My boobs and butt get grabbed and touched constantly without it leading to sex.
I say he’s not verbal, but he will tell me I am his soulmate, the love of his life, his favorite person, etc. He doesn’t say ” I love you, ” a ton, but it gets said. Love notes are very rare. The sparseness of it makes it still give me butterflies every time he says it or leaves me a note. I get a lot of kisses. We probably kiss a dozen or more times a day. He calls me “sweetheart” or “snookums.” Definitely cheesy, but we don’t say “babe” or “baby”. I call him “pookie.” We do a little bit of the baby-talk thing. Do you want to vomit now? : )
At the same time, he can be very reserved/stoic in certain public situations. We’re not much for PDA, though he was all over me at his sister’s wedding last month ( no drinking involved ) or will pull me too him while we’re waiting in the check-out line, or will kiss me in the middle of a store aisle. Other times, not so much. We might go out shopping and not even hold hands. Of course, he’ll hold my hand if I grab his first.
One complaint – when we first started dating, he would always get out of the car, come around to the passenger side, and open the door for me. He hasn’t done that in years. It’s lame! I miss that, but I guess that was just him going the extra mile.