Post # 1
I know in this day and age some brides know ahead of time that their boyfriend is going to propose and they have a lot of input in picking their own ring – or even have final say in the ring. But does that spoil the surprise? Does it leave your guy feeling like you took the wind out of his sails?
On the other extreme, there’s the complete surprise – where he picks out the ring without any input from you at all. He may end up with the wrong size, or a design you really would never have considered yourself.
And, of course, there is plenty of room in between.
What was your experience? What did you love about the way you and your fiance handled it? If you had to do it over again, would you change anything?
Post # 3
I wanted to give input. We went shopping, I found what I loved and he hated it! Every ring I liked, he didn’t. In the end, he picked something out completely different than what I would have – but I love it!
Oh, and wouldn’t you know – I got sized correctly once and at another place incorrectly. Of course, the incorrect size is the one my ring is. I will have to get it sized down, but there is so much detail work on the band, I cringe at the thought of it.
Post # 4
I definitely gave him some hints… that’s because he asked for them, haha! I think he was way too nervous to spend so much $$ on something that I didn’t “approve” of, haha. However, even though I would email him pics of pretty rings I liked, I had no idea which one he would ultimately purchase… that, along with the proposal itself was a complete surprise. 🙂
Post # 5
Oh i was so picky and I knew it. I told him it was his fault–I knew 8 months in advance when he would propose (R&R from Iraq) and I had 8 whole months to find out what I want =]. He picked out a 1 carat solitaire, proposed with that, then let me pick my setting. After I explained the rationale of *why* i felt like i had to pick it out (i’m so anal, i’ll admit it and we do not have the same taste) he agreed i should love what i get, which only happens if i pick things out myself.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I picked my ring. I didn’t want to be surprised, either by the proposal or by the ring! That just isn’t how our relationship works. 🙂
Post # 7
He knew my taste and paid very close attention whenever we made trips to look at jewelry…so it’s no wonder I got what I wanted! =)
Post # 8
My proposal was a complete suprise, but my fiance says I kept hinting that I wanted different things and he actually did have one picked out for me on layaway (which i saw later and did not like!) then he finally decided to purchase the loose diamond and present it to me in a “presentation band” which is just a plain white gold band, then when we returned from Cancun, he took me to the jewlery store and I got to pick out my own setting and wedding band which the loose diamond was set into! I thought it was an awesome idea…. anyways here it is!
Post # 9
My fiance proposed with a plastic, cat-shaped ring and we went shopping together to pick out the real thing the next day
Post # 10
My husband picked out my ring completely by himself…he was so excited when he gave it to me and I’ll always remember that, his face and the little box he surprised me with while we were making dinner together one night, and not knowing what the ring inside would look like.
Post # 11
I knew I wanted a vintage ring, and there was a very specific time period that I liked (Art Deco) so when my (now) fiance and I discussed getting engaged, I told him that I wanted to have input on the ring since I would be the one wearing for the rest of my life.
I ended up finding 8 or 10 rings that I liked, and let him choose from that group. He ended up choosing my favorite, too 🙂
Post # 12
My husband proposed with a card, and we started ring shopping together the next day. It took us a while (which was driving me nuts!) but I’m really glad that we did it together, and I’m glad that we got engaged first.
I probably would have picked something entirely different, and I think he would have picked something else too. We got something that we both love. Vintage was important to both of us, and he desperately wanted a sapphire in the center.
Post # 13
We had never gone ring shopping or anything when he proposed. I was totally surprised (even after dating 5 years) & it was so awesome to see him light up when we recieved comments on how beautful it is. He is so proud of himself and that makes me love it even more. Just knowing it was something he picked for me. I can now have some input on the type of band I’d like.
Post # 14
i haven’t gotten it yet, but my bf has an heirloom stone that he’ll be giving me (soon, i hope!), and he doesn’t want any input from me on the setting…actually, i think he’s already taken it to a jeweller to be made…(!!!!)…i’m actually kind of nervous about the setting because i don’t even know know what i would want (i once snuck into a tiffany’s on a business trip but only tried 1 ring on before bf called and i freaked out and ran out of the store!). i kind of wish we’d gone together just to look and see what we like and how it looks on me, but he didn’t want to do that….plus, i know his mom will be/is involved in the process since the stone “lives” with her, and we have really different styles and tastes….buuut, at the end of the day, i think it’s amazingly sweet he wants to do this on own, and he knows me so well i’m sure it’ll be beautiful and i’ll love it:)
Post # 15
This was a very delicate subject with us. I did not drop any hints nor did he ask for any because he felt this was totally up to the man. That’s fine, I think it was a great exercise to see how well he knew me and sure enough, he nailed it.
Post # 16
My FI proposed to me with no ring at all (though he had one of mine in his pocket, which he had taken from my drawer at home in case I looked like I was expecting a ring!), and we went shopping for a ring together the next weekend. I liked being able to choose together, and he said it took the stress out of him having to choose it on his own and worry about whether I’d like it.