How much sex per week?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: How many times do you have sex per week?
    Less than 1 : (73 votes)
    20 %
    1 : (72 votes)
    20 %
    2 : (91 votes)
    25 %
    3 : (62 votes)
    17 %
    4 : (28 votes)
    8 %
    5 : (14 votes)
    4 %
    6 : (6 votes)
    2 %
    7 : (3 votes)
    1 %
    More than 7 : (18 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    1905 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    It’s different each week. Sometimes 4x, sometimes once! I would say on average 2x. 


    FI would any time, any day I’m pretty sure! I have a pretty relaxed drive most of the time, sometimes I NEED my honey, right now. 

    We have been together 3.5 years, lived together 2.

    Post # 4
    4043 posts
    Honey bee

    @Gabthebee:  Well, over the past 10 1/2 years it has definitely had its peaks and lows. The past few months we average about 3-4 times a week (which is quite a bit for us). Must be that newlywed bliss 🙂

    Ideal would be 3 times per week I guess. For me, it’s not so much about volume as it is about quality and connectedness. I want to feel intimate with my DH and I don’t want it to be routine, so we have really focused in the past few years on intimacy and closeness, rather than “just having sex.” If that makes any sense at all…

    ETA: For DH, it would probably be everyday, if he isn’t exhausted from a day of teaching.

    Post # 5
    3097 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    Varies but usually like 4x. His ideal would be 14x a Week lol, I could never keep up with that! My ideal 1-2x a week.

    Post # 6
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @Gabthebee:  Between 5 to 7 times per week, sometimes more. We are both good with that amount. 

    Post # 7
    810 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Depends on the week, but usually 2-3 times per week. It was about 2 but since I’ve stopped taking BC pills my drive had increased much to the delight of DH! 

    ETA: we’ve been together 2 years, married 2 months. 🙂

    Post # 8
    1134 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @Gabthebee:  I would say like 5 times a week and that’s good for us. I don’t really keep track though.

    Post # 9
    416 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I answered before the last year, when we were TTC, then pregnant, now immediately postpartum.  I said twice a week, which is average, but yeah sometimes it would be 4-5x, and other times we’d go a week or two with nothing.  It has a lot to do with conflicting work schedules, but generally I think we’re both happy with it.  Now that there’s a baby in the mix, we’ll have to find a new normal.

    Post # 10
    1526 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Average 3 times a week.  We would both like it to be more like 5 times a week.

    Post # 11
    557 posts
    Busy bee

    We average around 4. He is happy with that…I would do it all day, every day if I could haha. IT is funny because the other day I told him that now that I am pregnant he needs to initiate sex so that I feel attractive-his response was “how can I even find a chance to initiate sex when you literally want it all the time?”

    He has some digestive issues that leave him feeling sick some nights, so I usually will say something like, “oh-don’t eat that, I want to have sex tonight” long before he even has a chance to initiate. It works for us! lol.

    Post # 12
    3077 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Ideally for me would be twice a week, for SO every other day so she says. We average once every like 10 days or so. I’m hoping we’ll start averaging once a week this year. Things just have a way of getting in the way…and also being on opposite shifts makes it difficult to do it during the week =/

    Post # 13
    1491 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think I’m completely in the minority here. We have sex less than once a week.  Sometimes we go a few weeks without sex.  


    I think this is actually due to me, my sex drive decreased pretty badly after the wedding. I’m making an effort to get it back to my pre-wedding standards.  Neither of us really cares though, we are happy just to be together!

    Post # 14
    3195 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010


    We make love 3-4 times a week.

    I’ve read that most married couples have sex only once a week.

    Post # 15
    1665 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    1-2 times a week. And it has almost always been this way. He has a low drive and life gets in the way. I agree w PPs that its more about quality and conectedness then quantity! 

    Post # 16
    1060 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    it used to be at least 5x a week, but I’m currently 8weeks pregnant and have been feeling like crap so it’s been more like 1x a week maybe 2 for the past few weeks. Hopefully we get back to our normal routine soon lol I’m feeling bad for DH.

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