Post # 1
I’m wondering if I should buy her a gift from her registry that is $35, $50, $75, or $100. Is this gift supposed to be my gift for her? Or can I buy it and give it as our (FI and me) gift for her. How much should I spend?
Post # 3
It’s a gift for the couple, and it really depends on your finances. I spend anywhere from $50 – $100 depending on whose shower it is.
Post # 4
I think it’s really however much you can afford or want to spend. I really don’t think there’s a “set price” for certain family members. At showers, I’ve gone to, I have always included FI on the gift, even though he couldnt come.
Post # 5
Usually you would spend less on a shower gift and spend more on the wedding gift. Figure out how much you want to spend first. Then I would maybe make the shower gift about 1/2 the price of the wedding gift. My shower gifts probably ranged from $30-$125 (with my mom and grandma also spending way more than that).
Post # 6
I think the shower gift is from you to her (and ostensibly her groom), and the wedding gift is from you and your FI to the two of them.
I think you spend what you can afford; it’s such a personal question! I usually try to give a shower gift that’s about the same as “my half” of what the wedding gift will be, though it doesn’t always work out that way. I think in general, you’re expected to spend less on the shower than the wedding gift.
I spent about $75 on my FSIL’s shower gift, but I also hosted her shower. We haven’t decided what to give for the wedding gift but I think it will be about $150 (plus all the expenses of both of us being in the wedding party and staying in various places overnight).
Does that help at all? Sorry not to be more concrete!
Post # 7
Oh, just sign your name. The shower gifts are usually just from the ladies. I person at my shower did it from the family, and one (who couldn’t make it) signed both their names on the card, but just her name on the gift card. Everyone else just had their name.
Post # 8
is she the future wife of your brother or the sister of your future husband or the future wife of your husband’s brother? I know that’s confusing but I think I would feel differently about my DH’s sister or the wife of my brother – for DH’s sister, he would of course be involved in the gift but not necessarily for a differnetly related FSIL. I think $50 is standard shower gift territory but I have not been to a shower recently.
Post # 9
Spend what you can afford. I think it also depends on what the item is. I just spent $25 on a friends shower gift but the gift was 6 margarita glasses from Pottery Barn. I didnt feel the need to buy more just to spend more. I think $35-50 is totally fine. I always think of the shower gift as just from me (dont include DHs name on the card) and the wedding gift as from both of us.
Post # 10
Agree with spend what you can afford! Also, as to whether the gift is just from you or FI as well, here’s my personal experience. Last year, FI and I attended a couples shower for his best friend and FI – we signed both our names to the card. Just last weekend I attended a ladies only shower, but I still signed both names because FI has known the bride longer than I have, so it only seemed right. She only announced that it was from me when she opened the gift, and that was fine. If you’re closer to the bride than your FI is, it’s probably fine to just sign your name.
Post # 11
I think it just depends. My SIL gave me a very sweet gift, she made a shadow box with things from when my husband and I got engaged. She didn’t spend a ton of money on it, but she obviously spent a lot of thought and time and I loved it.
Post # 12
I’ll echo the PP’s. Spend what you can afford.
As for the card, it really depends who I’m giving the gift to. If it’s a family member or close friend then I normally always include his name on the card for the shower gft. If it’s a friend or co-worker that FI doesn’t really know then I’ll just sign my name.