(Closed) How much should we give to a British bride and groom?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

@ladyartichoke:  £75 to me seems excessively generous as well as a gift! I’d think just a group gift alone would be entirely suitable, and would just be pleased you’d been able to make it from so far away.

 

But I wonder if I might be a little naive on things like this, so I’m not entirely sure. I don’t think you could be faulted for doing it at all – I’m just not sure it’s necessary, does that make sense? 🙂

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m British and go to lots of weddings!  I think one gift is enough, either cash or from the wedding list with your brothers.  £10 each is a bit low though, maybe £60 between the two of you.  She won’t be expecting cash on top.  Almost everyone I know has had a gift list.

We don’t normally buy specific hen do “gifts”, often we buy a novelty item as requested by the bridesmaids for some sort of game, but not just a random gift.  If I can’t make the hen do I may spend a bit extra on the gift, but that certainly isn’t expected.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

My friends had to travel from the UK to my wedding.  In honesty, due to the cost of travelling, accomodation etc, I was not expecting anything at all from them.  I received from them gifts/cash gifts ranging in value from 20 pounds to 100 pounds – which to me was beyond generous.  Travelling to my friend’s wedding this summer I gave her 50 pounds, which matched the cost of her gift to us more or less. 

I agree with @chronicwhimsy: – speaking as a bride who asked her guests to travel quite a distance, to have someone actually make that trip for their wedding is really an honour and is more of a gift than anything wrapped up in pretty paper.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hard one. If it’s a destination wedding, you probably wouldn’t have to give anything. But you’re going back ‘home’ and you’ll be able to see your family etc. too so the destination thing would pretty much be out of the window.

I think 125-155GBP sounds good. As a bride, I’d be pretty happy with that:)

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Being British myself, I would say that you should give EITHER cash OR a gift… not both, unless this is your best friend or a close family member.

I have always given £100 in cash from FI and I. This is appropriate for our age (mid to late 20s) and socio-economic status (professional, but not wealthy). If I were an 18 year old student, for example, I would give £50. If you are just giving cash, I would give more. Bear in mind that it is the norm at weddings I’ve been to to give a large cash gift and a small, tangible gift rather than the other way around (that is, if you do decide to give both).

Also bear in mind that the bride and groom usually foot the bill for the wedding in the UK (sometimes with help from their parents, but sometimes not, depending on their age). Therefore, their finances are probably shot after this, and cash will help to pull them out of the red!

EDIT: Don’t bother with a hen do gift. It’s not the norm here at all. Sometimes the hens might club together and pay for a stripper for the bride (if it’s “that” sort of hen do), or a novelty sash and plastic tiara, but that’s about it. The hens usually just make sure that they pay for the bride’s drinks and get her legless, before dropping her off safely home (now THAT is a British tradition!). Giving a gift for a hen do would just be… a little odd… although you could send her a case of champagne, I suppose. I’m sure that would be appreciated.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree, no need for two separate gifts. You have spent so much on coming over I think £50 is absolutely fine!!! I’m sure most people would really appreciate that. Also, I agree with the other bees, no need for a hen do gift but knowing how hen do’s go, I agree that even just a bottle of wine would be a lovely gesture

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