How much should you ask your bridal party members to pay for hotel rooms?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll:
    Way too much, dream smaller! : (81 votes)
    72 %
    That's fairly reasonable, go ahead! : (28 votes)
    25 %
    That's cheap, book away! : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    as a guest, i had no problem paying like $150/night, and as a bridesmaid i split a room with a couple other girls so it ended up being like 80/night. perhaps members of the wedding party could share a room (guys together, girls together) and then couples who want a night together probably wouldn’t mind spending more to do so?

    Post # 4
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    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Have you looked into booking a hotel block that would be cheaper? My bridal party (and guests) are staying at a hotel for 99.00 a night in Chicago during peak season. If they are comfortable paying that price, then it sounds good!

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    9908 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @TroubadourTango:  That’s pricey IMO. 

    Our wedding party and all our guests are getting a rate of $89 a night (and we’re trying to get it to $79) and this is at a 3.5/4 star hotel.  Granted FH works there, and average rate on a weekend would be about $120, but I’d feel guilty asking people to spend that much money after travelling so far to be with us.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    Our hotel block is $129/night (includes breakfast) – it’s the university’s graduation weekend AND prom weekend in our city. Most of my BMs are coming with their husbands or staying with other family members also attending the wedding. As of right now there are 6 rooms left in our hotel, places are selling out for that weekend already.

    We are also attending a wedding in August in NY (Hundson Valley) and paying $150/night with their hotel block.

    So I don’t think all of your prices are too hight but I’d want to stay around the $100-$200 area if possible.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @TroubadourTango:  I would present it as an option, but is there a reason they have to stay at a certain place with you? I would let them choose what works for them. 

    Post # 9
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    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Could people double up in these rooms (as in, can two couples stay together)  If that was an option, I could find it manageable. 

    That said, I rarely spend $200 a night on a hotel room when I’m travling for fun.  I don’t think I could do it to attend a wedding. 

    Post # 10
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    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    @TroubadourTango:  I wouldn’t require my guests to stay anywhere that’s more than 150$ a night. If there are cheaper accommodations around, I would definitely let them choose where they want to stay. I personally could not afford to pay 200+ for a hotel room.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Look for more inexpensive options for your bridesmaids.  I think its nice that you want everyone to be together, but that is just a bit high for my tastes…and I know it would have been out of budget for both of my bridesmaids!  Unless you are willing to cover all or half of the costs of the hotel, I would let them stay where they want to (within reason of course, not like a place 2 hours away or something ridic like that).  

     

    Post # 12
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’d definitely have a hard time spending $300-500 on just two nights!

    But I also think if they have an issue with the price, that they’ll probably talk to you!

     

    Post # 13
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Ms_Purple:  I think $150 is my limit no matter if I’m a guest or in the party. But keep in mind that your maids have lots of other wedding expenses too. By the time the wedding actually rolls around they might be feeling tapped out. 

    Post # 14
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    320 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant

    I would keep it under $200, under $150 would be even better.

    I am maid of honor for my friend’s wedding, and the hotel she chose (among many in the same area) is $180 a night.  Yeah, I resent that.

    Post # 15
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    2913 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    Do they have to stay at the same hotel as you? It seems like you should let them choose the price point they are comfortable with individually.

    Post # 16
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    1441 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @carolinabelle:  +1.  Unless it’s a destination wedding, I generally would not be getting a hotel room, bridesmaid or not.

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