Post # 1
I’ve seen some posts since joining the Hive about lists of qualities women would like in an engagement ring, whether it’s a specific setting, type of band, etc. Honestly, the thought of having a “laundry list” of qualities for the ring never even crossed my mind! Mr. Grape and I picked out my ring together, and I had one request: not yellow gold. Later, we decided on a princess-cut stone because it looks more engagement-y to most people around here (and since we opted to go with a colored gemstone instead of a diamond, we wanted to minimize confusion as much as possible).
It’s funny–seeing things like, “I love split-shank!” and whatnot made me think about how little thought we put into my ring. Not that it’s a bad thing–I was never really one to dream about my engagement ring (let alone the wedding itself), so I think that probably has something to do with the fact that Darling Husband and I just sort of picked one.
So, Bees–if you helped pick out your ring, how much thought went into it? Were you a planner, or were you more like me (“It’s a ring, just pick one”)?
Post # 3
I haven’t gotten it yet, but SO and i looked online at a few things and I gave him some out of the box thoughts. (have you thought about a claddagh with a diamond) Things that were a little more cost effective, because i didn’t want to wait around forever for him to save. Plus he has AMAZING taste in everything and a knack for knowing what i want before i do.
Post # 5
@sloth: Did you get a vintage ring? 🙂 I don’t think I’ve seen yours yet…
Post # 6
2. Not Yellow Gold
3. 6 prong
Post # 7
It’s funny that you post that…I feel like I tend to not be SO picky when it comes to girlier type things (such as jewelry). Though when it came to my engagement ring, I had a really specific idea of what I wanted. Now that I know the termanology…3 stone setting with an oval garnet in the middle, with two small diamonds on the side. And white gold (or that color) vs yellow gold). That’s 4?
The funny (or nice?) think, at least in my mind…I did tell my fiance once the general idea of what I wanted, but not directly. I had my best friend tell him “without me knowing” what I was thinking, being so brilliant and to go as far as drawing a beautiful drawing on Microsoft Paint and have her secretly tell him that’s the idea of what I wanted. The best part was when he didn’t realize this was a secret, and I “subtly” made a comment about an aspect of rings that I like (I guess there wasn’t much subtly in this at all), to which he said, that’s not what your drawing looked like.
So, I guess it wasn’t as secret as I was trying for. But he was awesome and managed to get a ring exactly like I envisioned. And I still like staring at it all the time, which makes me feel incredibly girly.
Post # 8
We didn’t go shopping together and I didn’t pick my ring out but I asked for two things:
1. White gold (like my mom)
2. No right angles on the stones (only round/oval/etc…no princess/emerald)
Post # 9
We shopped together. Unfortunately, I drove him nuts for a few weeks cuz I couldn’t make up my mind and didn’t want a traditional e-ring. Bless him he was very patient throughout. My criteria were:
1. Conflict free diamond or coloured gem (got a coloured diamond)
2. Unique overall ring design (done)
3. Platinum (though settled on white gold due to price)
4. Setting must be very secure – I am clumsy and have an active lifestyle
I really didn’t want a “proper” e-ring but he wanted me to have one. I learned through this process that my guy can be quite traditional, whereas I really could care less about tradition (same types of “debates” ensued during wedding planning). Even though I asked him to give me a cheap plastic ring initially, I came to understand that the ring was very much representative of him as much as me. So we compromised. I am really happy with our choice 🙂
Post # 10
I did not have a list of qualities I wanted in my e-ring, and my husband picked it out on his own. I did have some general ideas, though, that my husband knew about. I’m allergic to nickel, so I couldn’t wear a white gold ring alloyed with nickel. I wanted to wear a white metal. I wasn’t a huge fan of solitaries, and thought I would prefer a lab-created diamond to a mined diamond (although I didn’t know much about lab-created diamonds at the time).
Post # 11
I new I wanted silver or white gold and something unique. I always thought I would get a princess or asher cut but until I actually tried on rings I fell in love with the classic round because of the brilliance of the fascets.
Post # 12
My list was
1. Within budget 2. White gold 3. Round brilliant center stone 4. Didn’t stick up or out too much 5. Could have a wedding band that was flat, not curved, so I can wear it alone I only had a list because we picked out the ring together so I sort of had to have an opinion.
Post # 13
I never had a list of things at all. Darling Husband just asked me if I preferred round or princess and I said princess and that was the most input I had!
Post # 14
I wanted a cushion or princess diamond (prefer cushion) in a halo setting.
Exactly what I got! 🙂 (Fiance let me pick my own ring.)
Post # 15
I knew that I wanted white gold. I knew that I wanted it to be on the less expensive side. I knew that I liked the vintage look. And I knew that I didn’t want something super BLINGY. It took me less than an hour of trying on various rings to find the one. I really hadn’t put much thought into it before the engagement. (We picked the ring out together after he proposed.) I just knew I’d seen things I liked in other people’s rings.
Post # 16
Because of our budget at the time, I had a choice between two rings…his mom’s 1 carat solitaire or an Edwardian style vintage diamond from his great aunt’s. I chose the great aunt’s (even though the diamond was much smaller) because they had a good marriage, as opposed to hubby’s mom and his dad (they divorced). Plus, I loved the vintage ring so much. Now, 10 years later, I think I might have chosen the 1 carat only because the older I get, the more traditional of a ring I like and just love the beauty of a simple solitaire.