How Much Time?? – DIY Brides?!?!

posted 3 years ago in DIY
Post # 3
480 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We’re doing all the set up ourselves as well. The venue lets us in a few days before so we’ll have most of it done before the day itself. I’m getting the groomsmen and my very kind family to deal with the stuff on the day and planning on letting go nd doing nothing myslf.

Can you get into the venue in advance? If so could you do ll the table setups the day before?

Post # 4
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My aunts (all 12 of them!) are going to be doing the set up at the venue the day of. I’m pretty easy going so if it’s not perfect I really don’t care. I’m just glad it’s going to be taken care of! 

Post # 6
822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@linds12:  I ended up doing very little that morning.  We ended up assigning friends and family members to certain tasks so I could just get ready.  Everyone (including me) still did more than they expected, but it wasn’t too bad.  My cousin volunteered to be the point person for the day. I would recommend choosing one person to do that.  Even though I gave out her number, people were calling me constantly while I was trying to get ready!! Imagine if I was the only contact!  What I discovered is that people really want to help & they don’t want you to be working the day of your wedding.  I was absolutely exhausted from all I did they day before too, but it was nice to just be able to relax!  It’s the one day of your life when you can ask other people to do things for you and not feel like a bratt!  So as much as you can just assign taks to people, do it!  And don’t feel bad!  They wouldn’t offer to help if they didn’t want to!

Post # 8
4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Try, try, try, try your hardest to have other people set up so you don’t have to do anything the morning of! Trust me, you will want to relax and getting ready/ photos take a lot longer than you think.

I’m sure you have your reasons but if there’s ANY WAY you can have a DOC, your day will move soooo much smoother.

Post # 9
822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@linds12:   I totally know what you mean about wanting to make sure everything is the way you want it.  I think when you go DIY, you put so much into it and know so many details, it’s hard to imagine anyone else doing it. If it helps at all, I was so stressed the couple of weeks leading to the wedding, I got to a point where I almost wished everyone else was just making the decisions!  I had a co-worker who just told her family what colors she wanted & they planned everything!!  I was so jealous!  But in the long run, I’m so glad we went DIY and loved how personal everything was.

We did a few things like taking pictures of our mock table set up, the layout of the tables & chairs & where we wanted everything to go.  I went over it with each person who was in charge of that section.  For the most part, things went as planned, but there is so much involved, that there will always be something that isn’t perfect and at a certain point, you just have to let go.  Maybe you can give people assignments and come out before you get your dress on to make sure things are the way you want it.  I chose to wait until I entered to see everything and it was a really beautiful experience.  It was pretty amazing to see my vision finished & put together with so much love by the people who are closest to me.  I think if I had gone out & looked, I may have found some imperfections.  Maybe I could have fixed them, maybe not, but I was so overwhelmed by everything else that I didn’t really have time to look!  But if you really feel strongly about it, I suggest going ahead & looking first if youhave the time.

I do have to say though, that having my cousin as the day of planner was so helpful.  Everyone was pulling me in all different directions during the wedding and I knew that things were in her capable hands & I could always refer people to her.  The last thing I wanted was to have to deal with directing people, changing a garbage can, looking for something that was missing, etc.  She was not a wedding planner but she is an event planner at a nice restaurant so I knew I could trust her.  Maybe you have someone like that in your group?  I realize this is a lot of info, but I hope it helps.  Good luck with everything!!

Post # 10
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@linds12:  For our 100% DIY wedding, we rented the venue the day before our wedding in order to set up so that we didn’t have to rush or stress out on the morning of. We had our entire wedding party + SOs, parents, and a few out of town relatives helping with tables, linens (tablecloths/napkins and chair covers), the backdrop, centerpieces, decor, bar, etc. and it took approximately 4-6 hours to get everything as I wanted it.

I think the biggest thing is learning to delegate, and finally knowing when to take a deep breath and relinquish stress and control. (Even so, when everyone had left the venue and was heading to the rehearsal dinner I was the very last one in the building, fretting over wrinkles in the tablecloths and arranging jars and vases till they were just so, haha.)

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