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@MissDareDevil:   We're right there with you - we tend to spend just about all of our time together, but we prefer it that way.   He works very long hours so when he gets home in the evening, we like to spend that time together.   We do the shopping together, cook together, cuddle on the couch watching tv or reading books, and then go to bed at the same time.  On the weekends, we do pretty much everything together, from running errands, to cleaning, to going out and socialising.  Maybe it's because we were long distance for quite a while at the start of our relationship but we seriously just can't get enough of each other's company!  

@amoret11:   I'm sorry things are so busy and you're struggling to find quality time with your DH.   Could you maybe try keeping a list during the week of what errands you have to run and try to knock them all off on Saturdays?   Maybe try making Sunday a day for just the two of you - either to relax at home in your PJs or to head out and do something special just the two of you.   Perhaps by setting aside a day for just the two of you will help you to feel a bit more connected and as though you're actually getting time together.  Good luck!

We are right there with you, OP. Mr. LK spends 12-13 hours a day working and commuting. He leaves before I wake up and he doesn't get home until 6:30pm, at the earliest. We have just enough time to eat a family dinner, split off to do our evening chores, and meet back on the couch for 30 minutes of family time before DS goes to bed. Then we have another 30 minutes of together time before Mr. LK crashes for the night. So, in total, we have about 90 minutes together each weekday. Needless to say, we're pretty attached at the hip on the weekends because we barely see each other during the week. But we also have DS to take care of, so our alone time is extremely limited. Add in house hunting and trying to maintain our friendships and individual identities, and we feel like we are seriously lacking in together time.  

@amoret11:  I can totally relate to your post, and I can sympathize with how you're feeling. I know it's frustrating, and, at times, it can even be heartbreaking.

I've now been married for more than 2.5 years, but my DH and I never really did get to enjoy having a "newlywed" period. Our entire dating relationship and engagement were long distance. Then, because we lived and worked in different states, even after the wedding, I had to split my time between my state and his for almost a year so that I could maintain my job until after my house in my city sold. Because of the nature of his job, DH usually ends up having to work at least part of all seven days in a week, including much of the weekend.  DH's two minor children live with us half of the time as well. 

It's not that I didn't know about these factors going into the marriage.  However, I was still hoping for a way for us to feel as if we were newlyweds when the kids were not with us.  We've been trying to make more of a concerted effort to spend time together now when we can, but there still are not many opportunities. And, when DH isn't working, or taking care of something for the kids, he's often totally exhausted and sleeping. I guess that's how I managed to end up with 900+ posts on WB in just a little over six months! LOL

@MissDareDevil:  Same here.

But it wasn't always like that. Our first six-ish months I had to work three jobs because DH got laid off a week after our wedding. I worked Sunday-Saturday, anytime from 7am-10pm, hours varied, but I worked a 35 hr FT job, a 15 hr PT job and an additional weekend 15 hr PT job. It was really hard, and I was taking one class per semester. My husband at the time was finishing his masters, and when he was able to work, it was nights. so during the week I was off between 5-6pm and he wouldn't be home until 11am. But since I got up at 5am for work, I would be in bed. It was really hard. And if I ever had a Saturday off, we literally would spend the entire day in bed cuddling and watching TV together. They were awesome days and I never regretted being "unproductive".

Now our schedules are more balanced out since he has a professional career, I finished school and will now be a SAHM. But the first year was extremely hard. 

Now we are attached at the hip like MissDareDevil said. We do everything together, cleaning, shopping, projects, events, etc. We are huge on just being together - I get really lonely if we don't prioritize that time.

I agree with PPs, make/schedule date nights/mornings/whatever works. Even if it's just a few hours, make it work. Don't become strangers. DH and I fought more if we didn't spend enough time together. You just have to learn what works for you to make each other priorities in your life. Yes, you both have responsibilities like work/school, but your relationship is long-lasting, work and school won't always be there.