Post # 1
My SO has not officially proposed yet but he has the ring and we’ve been discussing bits and pieces. When talking dates, I say spring. However, hearing everyone on here talk, they keep saying they need a year. That just seems way too long to me. How long does it really take to plan everything? Why a year?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I had 1.5 years, but I could have done it all in 6 months. As it is, I didn’t really start planning anything until eight months out, other than securing the venue. The only reason you would need a long engagement is needing a specific date and wanting a specific venue. Otherwise I think 6 months is plenty of time… most other vendors don’t book up that fast.
Post # 4
I think it all depends on what you want for your wedding. I think if your more flexible with where you would like to have it and such then you should take less time. You can take whatever amount of time that you want to take you just might have to be flexible with certain things.
Post # 5
If you get married during the prime months probably June-Aug(guess) in Michigan then you need a year. Remember there are some brides that plan 2+ years in advance, and you will be competing with them for your date. Those Saturdays at most venues get snapped up like no tomorrow. Or if you consider a Friday or Sunday wedding you may be able to have a shorter engaement. Also consider an off season wedding since more dates will be available last minute and they are cheaper.
Post # 6
How funny. I had this same issue. My FI and I sat down one day before we were engaged and talked about wedding stuff. I told him I wanted a short engagement of 8-9 months. He said that would not be possible if we wanted a 30K wedding. It takes time to save up 30K and we didn’t plan on asking our families for the money. I agreed that I did want a nice wedding and agreed to wait a 14 months instead to have the wedding of my dreams. I am still on a budget 30k isn’t a great sum but it’s more than what 8-9 months would have given us.
The perk of planning with so much time. We got the reception place we wanted, we got the ceremony site we wanted, and we got the photographer wanted.
Post # 7
I think it depends on where and when you decide to get married, and how ‘set’ you are on certain elements.
But, more or less, I think 6 months is fine. We were only going to do a short engagement (like 6 months), but he’s keen on spring (Sept/Oct) now so it will be more like 10 months (if his proposal ideas keep to schedule). I think I’d get pretty over it if it was long!
Post # 8
I’ve been wondering the same thing! I think my bf is going to propose in late Oct (my birthday)… but I really want to get married in May! I don’t have a particular attachment to the month, but due to family weddings it is basically May 2010 or wait until 2011, and omg I can’t wait 1.5 years! But, if he does it at the end of Oct as I expect May is only 7 months and everyone on here seems to have stuff planned out so early!
Post # 9
it also depends on the region that you are located in as well. there are always early planners. you must also consider the length of time it will take for your wedding dress to arrive. you limit your dress choices if you want to plan in say 4 months when most designers promise delivery in 4 months. that cuts everything (fittings, etc) ultra close.
Post # 10
Like the other PP have said, I think if you’re willing to be flexible, you can plan in less than a year. You will possibly have fewer options in venue, time of the day and day of the week if you’re booking less than a year in advance. However, if you’re willing to be flexible, I think you can definitely do it. I had friends who put together a lovely wedding in 6 months, but they also had to get married on a Friday evening, instead of Saturday, because that was the only time the church was available.
I know when we were planning, we knew our venue and the month we wanted to be married, so we kind of had to book it quickly, because it’s a popular place/time. We booked almost exactly a year in advance and I’m glad we did! It also took about 6 months for my dress to come in (after about 3 months of looking for one), so that took some time, too.
If you don’t have your heart set on a specific place or particular date, I think you can definitely plan an amazing wedding in a shorter period of time.
Post # 11
I’m all for a shorter engagement. We had nine months, and it was plenty for us. The longer you have to plan, the more time you have to stress about making it perfect and change your mind 20 times about what you/the groom/the bridesmaids should wear. It’s all simpler if you keep it short and sweet!
Post # 12
I got engaged in November 2008 and my wedding is OCtober 31st. I did not want Halloween, but that was the only Saturday available at my venue that was after August 1st. We needed at least six months for Catholic Church issues and due to the busy Holiday season the Priest doing Pre-CAna at FI’s church wouldn’t meet with us to at least January. Luckily my parents priest put our date on the calendar. I did do a bunch of vendor booking early on like Photog, Video, and Dj and then I didn’t do much except dresses for a while. It took me a long time to find my dress.
Post # 13
Thanks for all the input. Like you CorgiTales, I suspect he will propose in October. Because of his business schedule, we would have to get married either March or the next October and I don’t want to wait that long. However, it feels weird to plan while I’m not yet even engaged. What to do, what to do.
Post # 14
haha mogi139– i know! I’m walking the line here between sorta-planning (really just reading a bunch of stuff to get ideas) and trying to not get myself too hyped up.
Post # 15
We did it in just over 5 months. Some people said we were crazy, but we haven’t had any trouble getting things done in time. I guess it depends on the kind of wedding you want, though. Ours is a bit simpler so if we had a fancier, more expensive one it probably would have taken longer (not to mention the time taken to save up for it)
Post # 16
you don’t need a year. two friends of mine pulled off beautiful weddings in 6 months or less. it just depends on how what kind of wedding you want, whether you want something extrememly detailed [which i think you’d need more than 6 months to get things done with a minimum amount of stress] or something a bit simpler.
seeing how we don’t want to wait a year to get married [seeing how we’ve been waiting to just get engaged for going on 4 years now] the boy and i are already looking at a tight timeline so i’m taking advantage of the time now and plotting things out. there’s no harm in looking and organizing your ideas early!