Post # 1
Our wedding is on 12-13-14. We were planning on allowing our guests an entire month to get their RSVPs in, but then we realized that our reception site requires the FINAL seating chart to be in one month before the wedding. That means it needs to be in their hands on 11-13-14. No changes will be allowed after that point, and we wont have access to the extra chairs, so we won’t be able to pull out any extra chairs if anything changes in that final month.
So if the seating chart needs to be turned in by 11-13-14, then I need what… at least a week to figure out how the tables are going to be set up? So that means that I need to have all RSVPS by 11-6.
Do you think sending out Invites on October 6, and asking for them back on November 6 is okay? Is that too much time for people to hold on to the invites? Is that way too early to send them out?
Thanks for your help, trusty bees!
Post # 2
I’m a planner so it’s great to me, but I know lots of people that will have no idea what their holiday plans are going to be at the beginning of October.
I think the convention is to send out your invitations 8 weeks before the big day and request them back 2-3 weeks later. So I’d be sending them out October 13th (so they arrive the following week) and requesting them back by November 6th.
You do not need to wait that late to figure out your table set-up. Starting planning that in early October, when you already know vaguely what family members to expect and carry on as the RSVPs roll in. You will, however, need that week to hunt down all the ones that don’t show up by your deadline.
Post # 3
One thing you might want to consider is that you will likely have to chase down RSVPs. If a week is long enough for you to chase down the RSVPs and still do the seating plan than I think the dates you have sound good.
Post # 4
LeonardLady: We sent ours out 8-10 weeks in advance because our hotel cut off for room blockings were cut off 1 month prior to the wedding so I wanted to make sure everyone who needed a room had enough time to book if they were staying at the hotel. So if you are booking hotel room blocks make sure to count that into your weeks :). Your guests will appreciate it! We sent ours out the week of June 21st and today was the cut off date for RSVP’s. We only have to chase down a few guests who don’t know how to use a computer properly and those who didn’t tell us how they want their meat cooked for dinner.
Post # 5
LeonardLady: If you want to know your complete rsvps by november 6, then I’d suggest setting the deadline for a week earlier. Ppl don’t respond – lots of ppl don’t respond or respond late. So if you really want to have all rsvps by november 6, setting a deadline of november 6 will really be frustrating & drive you nuts.