Post # 1
My vendors need a final guest count by August 13th.
I want to allow one week for stragglers to RSVP and an additional week to call people who don’t RSVP at all.
That would make my RSVP deadline August 1.
My wedding is on Labor Day Weekend, so I want to give people plenty of time to make arrangments for travel/give plenty of notice so we don’t interfere with guests’ plans for the weekend. Most of our guest list is local, and all out of town guests have been informed of the date.
Should we send invitations out two months or just one month in advance of the RSVP deadline? I’m afraid if I give them two months, they will be less likely to return the RSVP, but if I only send them out one month in advance, people will already have made plans.
I am trying to keep costs low and don’t want to do Save the Dates (plus, at just four months out it’s a little late for them). One thing I’ve thought of is to send “out of town” invitations out one month sooner than the “in town” invitations. What do you Bees think?
Post # 3
I would give them just one month to respond, but I would send them out a little earlier and make the RSVP date ealier, June 18th instead of August 1st. People will know by then if they can go, and then you’ll have more time to get all of your stuff together.
Some people might say that’s too early, but I have received invitations with an RSVP by date of two months before the wedding, so I think you are fine. I actually appreciated the early RSVP date as it made me get my act together earlier.
Post # 4
I’d send the invites two months ahead of the RSVP deadline. Holiday weekends can be trickey, and they’re much more expensive than traveling on a regular weekend. Flights and hotels get booked much earlier, so I’d give the guests as much time as possible to make their arrangements, especially if you aren’t sending STDs.
No matter when you mail them, you’re going to have a flood of RSVP cards coming in right away and then right before the deadline, and plenty you’ll have to chase down. I think especially the OOT guests will appreciate the extra time to make their travel arrangements and your local guests will most likely return them sooner rather than later.
Also, if any of the OOT guests and local guests know each other, you might run into a situation where the local people are wondering where their invites are and when they finally get one a month later, they may think they were B-listed. ??? I just sent ours out today, two months ahead of the RSVP date for everyone.
Post # 5
Thanks. After playing around with search terms, I was actually able to find several threads very much like mine. Didn’t realize it was such a common question. 🙂
Post # 6
@vabride2011: Yeah, I definitely don’t want people to think they were B listed. None of the out of town guests really know/talk to the in-town guests. I think it would be safe to send invites out two months in advance of the RSVP deadline and just call any pending RSVPs after the deadline passes.
It’s funny how concsious I am of these things now. Before, I knew to RSVP, but didn’t have the slightest idea of how complex they can be.
Post # 7
We are getting married in late May 2012. Sending a save the date in late January 2012 so out of towners can make travel arrangements. Sending invite with RSVP in late March/ early April…. so I think 2 months is not too long…